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tips for conceiving
Hey all,
Any great tips for conceiving ...I'll take em'. For instance what are the thoughts on lying on one's back with pelvis tilted after sex....?
Any great tips for conceiving ...I'll take em'. For instance what are the thoughts on lying on one's back with pelvis tilted after sex....?
Just to put in my two cents, I actually was not trying to get pregnant the last time I did, so I got up, peed right after sex, jumped up and down. Basically I did the opposite of everything you do to get pregnant. Two weeks later, I got a BFP. Don't get me wrong, I was very happy, but it just goes to show you that pregnancy will happen when it's supposed to happen, no matter what you do, aside from birth control, of course. I'll be trying again soon though, as I am having my 4th m/c. =(
"Can anyone help me with my question about preseed being pushed out during bd`ing?"
Not sure what the question is but I would imagine it is just like cervical fluid. It will get all over but it won't all be pushed out. Although it says to put it in over the toilet and push out any excess, I usually put it in while on my back and wait at least 15 min before BDing to give it a chance to "become one" with the area... :) If you do this then you will definitely have enough to do the job.
Not sure what the question is but I would imagine it is just like cervical fluid. It will get all over but it won't all be pushed out. Although it says to put it in over the toilet and push out any excess, I usually put it in while on my back and wait at least 15 min before BDing to give it a chance to "become one" with the area... :) If you do this then you will definitely have enough to do the job.
Thanks a million for all your replies...they helped a lot! Can anyone help me with my question about preseed being pushed out during bd`ing??
Ladies, if you are prone to UTI's (like myself) make sure you wait sufficient time (I agree 15-20 mins) and then go pee!!! Otherwise, it's back to the MD's for antibiotics! : (
As I posted, my OB said it wasn't important. I always figured it helped to "suck" up the sperm. I'm sure it doesn't hurt, but since not all women have orgasms, it can't be the only way to conceive. We missed three chances this past year because I thought I had to have an orgasm, and I knew it was never going to happen, so why bother.
"How long is the no peeing rule for? Its a bad habit of mine BD'ing just makes me wanna pee i try to go pee then me and dh go to bed and bd that way i just go to sleep and forget about the feeling!"
It takes about 15 minutes for all of the healthy, motile sperm to get inside of your cervix, after that all is left is semen and non viable sperm. My MD says after 15 minutes you are fine and anything that comes out after that is useless. This is good news for those of us that get UTI's really easy and HAVE to pee after sex or they get one.
"Also does getting more aroused b4 BD help as you would be more wet down there? dumb i know but just wondering!"
More definitely doesn't hurt! At the same time, orgasm isn't necessary to get pregnant. If it was, then we would be very short on people! LOL. All of this is controversial and there is no one thing that has been proven again and again. One study says that female orgasm causes the cervix to close so having orgasm before he does can hinder the process. Others say that orgasm after he does helps sperm get into the cervix through a sucking motion that happens during the contractions of orgasm. Others say that if you orgasm before, then you will increase CM which can help sperm get where they are going. I think this goes along with being more aroused to be more "wet down there."
"what is vitex and where can you get it,?"
Vitex (vitex agnus castus) AKA Chasteberry root, is an herbal supplement that helps a woman regulate her hormones. "Vitex does not actually contain hormones. It appears to increase progesterone by stimulating the release of a hormone called luteinizing hormone from the pituitary gland. Vitex is also thought to normalize excessive prolactin levels and promote fertility." This works for women that have abnormal cycles or have low progesterone after O that might make it hard to conceive. It can be purchased at GNC or health food stores like Whole Foods. It is contra indicated in pregnancy so you should stop taking it as soon as you get a BFP. It can be taken continuously until a BFP or until O then stopped and then started again when your cycle starts.
"Where can you get natural progesterone and when should you start taking it...is it too late AFTER the BFP?"
A high quality progesterone can be purchased at health food stores or online. I recommend Pro Gest. I get it at Whole Foods but it can also be found online. You just rub 1/2 teaspoon on your skin 3 times a day. (with pro gest this = about 120 mg, it is recommended that you use between 100-200mg per day for pregnancy) It will stop ovulation so you want to start it AFTER you are sure that you have ovulated. If you don't get the BFP then stop. If you do get a BFP then it is recommended that you continue it until you are at least 12 weeks (when the placenta takes over producing it) then ween off slowly. (You can take it throughout your pregnancy. It seems to have benefits for doing this too.) If your body detects a sudden drop in progesterone before the placenta has taken over it can trigger a miscarriage. Progesterone has many benefits...check out www.minntaccdp.com/lou/5preg.html This page has the most information from many sources all in one place. Feel free to google "benefits of progesterone in pregnancy" for lots of reading!
"also what are softcups?"
Debs40 tells a bit. you can google "Instead Softcups" and get their website. For me....I am planning on him depositing his guys into the instead softcup and then inserting it so that they are all right there against my cervix.
It takes about 15 minutes for all of the healthy, motile sperm to get inside of your cervix, after that all is left is semen and non viable sperm. My MD says after 15 minutes you are fine and anything that comes out after that is useless. This is good news for those of us that get UTI's really easy and HAVE to pee after sex or they get one.
"Also does getting more aroused b4 BD help as you would be more wet down there? dumb i know but just wondering!"
More definitely doesn't hurt! At the same time, orgasm isn't necessary to get pregnant. If it was, then we would be very short on people! LOL. All of this is controversial and there is no one thing that has been proven again and again. One study says that female orgasm causes the cervix to close so having orgasm before he does can hinder the process. Others say that orgasm after he does helps sperm get into the cervix through a sucking motion that happens during the contractions of orgasm. Others say that if you orgasm before, then you will increase CM which can help sperm get where they are going. I think this goes along with being more aroused to be more "wet down there."
"what is vitex and where can you get it,?"
Vitex (vitex agnus castus) AKA Chasteberry root, is an herbal supplement that helps a woman regulate her hormones. "Vitex does not actually contain hormones. It appears to increase progesterone by stimulating the release of a hormone called luteinizing hormone from the pituitary gland. Vitex is also thought to normalize excessive prolactin levels and promote fertility." This works for women that have abnormal cycles or have low progesterone after O that might make it hard to conceive. It can be purchased at GNC or health food stores like Whole Foods. It is contra indicated in pregnancy so you should stop taking it as soon as you get a BFP. It can be taken continuously until a BFP or until O then stopped and then started again when your cycle starts.
"Where can you get natural progesterone and when should you start taking it...is it too late AFTER the BFP?"
A high quality progesterone can be purchased at health food stores or online. I recommend Pro Gest. I get it at Whole Foods but it can also be found online. You just rub 1/2 teaspoon on your skin 3 times a day. (with pro gest this = about 120 mg, it is recommended that you use between 100-200mg per day for pregnancy) It will stop ovulation so you want to start it AFTER you are sure that you have ovulated. If you don't get the BFP then stop. If you do get a BFP then it is recommended that you continue it until you are at least 12 weeks (when the placenta takes over producing it) then ween off slowly. (You can take it throughout your pregnancy. It seems to have benefits for doing this too.) If your body detects a sudden drop in progesterone before the placenta has taken over it can trigger a miscarriage. Progesterone has many benefits...check out www.minntaccdp.com/lou/5preg.html This page has the most information from many sources all in one place. Feel free to google "benefits of progesterone in pregnancy" for lots of reading!
"also what are softcups?"
Debs40 tells a bit. you can google "Instead Softcups" and get their website. For me....I am planning on him depositing his guys into the instead softcup and then inserting it so that they are all right there against my cervix.
Hi I have tried the softcups a few times - and posted something about them a while ago see if you can view this link.... http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Fertility/Instead-Softcup-Cups/show/793429?personal_page_id=404760&post_id=post_4121447
I didn't get many responses from it but googled them and found another forum with about 20 ladies who tried them and they all had positive HPTS!!! I know they are not a miracle fertility aid but my concern was that they could do more harm than good which has been proven not to be the case!!
Good luck :)
I didn't get many responses from it but googled them and found another forum with about 20 ladies who tried them and they all had positive HPTS!!! I know they are not a miracle fertility aid but my concern was that they could do more harm than good which has been proven not to be the case!!
Good luck :)
I have wondered about the orgasm thing..if you dont orgasm does that make it harder for the sperm to get where it needs to? Also, if the BD takes a while, does the preseed run out? Cmoretti, what is vitex and where can you get it, also what are softcups? Sorry to be so dumb I just never heard of these before. Where can you get natural progesterone and when should you start taking it...is it too late AFTER the BFP?? Thanks in advance for any help...great thread by the way! :-)
How long is the no peeing rule for? Its a bad habit of mine BD'ing just makes me wanna pee i try to go pee then me and dh go to bed and bd that way i just go to sleep and forget about the feeling!!
Also does getting more aroused b4 BD help as you would be more wet down there? dumb i know but just wondering!!
Also does getting more aroused b4 BD help as you would be more wet down there? dumb i know but just wondering!!
I use ovulation predictor kits. My personal opinion is that the ClearBlue Easy Digital (with the happy face) work best. I also abstain from alcohol and limit caffeine starting about 5 days before ovulation, for the simple fact that they dehydrate you and can effect your fertile mucus. Lots and lots of water to stay hydrated. I use preseed as well. No other lubricants (or saliva) at all. My husband abstains from alcohol around ovulation time as it can "slow down" those swimmers. And I do stay on my back, hips and pelvis elevated for at least 20 minutes to 1/2 hour afterward. No peeing!! Has worked 5 times for me!! Good luck.
i have also tried 81mg of asa everyother day to improve the lining and i've tried mucinex as directed on box starting the last day of ur af till cd21....good luck
My OB told me "I didn't have to like it" to get pregnant. Not feeling forced to have an orgasm took the pressure off me as I am the one less likely to be in the mood. There were some nights I couldn't face the idea of trying "to like it!"
Hello,
I am also ttc this month.I usually don't have a problem getting pg it is just a problem not sustaining my pg after 8 weeks. I have changed doctors and this is her advice:
1.starting cycle day 3 I take 50 mg clomid ending on day 7.
2.I take a prenatal vitamin with atleast 1 mg folic acid { helps build up the lining of the uterus}
3.start using ovulation test starting day 8 using first morning urine
4.bd every other day at night{try not to get up after bd and just sleep till morning}
5.My obgyn told me to have orgasm BEFORE him so that the sperm have better cm to get to the egg.MOST IMPORTANT !!!
6.continue to bd every other day for 2 days after positive ovulation.
7. start to test for pg 12 days after + ovulation
8.if + start taking progesterone to help support the embryo.{the placenta will take over this after 10 weeks,but until then your body needs to produce enough}.
This will be my first month trying again after having 3 miscarriages.But I am very hopeful because I found out that my progesterone was too low and I need to take progesterone to support the pg. She said that it is very common for us over 35 to have lower progesterone levels and supplementing is the only way we can sustain a healthy pregnancy.
best wishes and I hope that you get a bfp soon!!
Keep me posted to let me know if you BFD!!!
I am also ttc this month.I usually don't have a problem getting pg it is just a problem not sustaining my pg after 8 weeks. I have changed doctors and this is her advice:
1.starting cycle day 3 I take 50 mg clomid ending on day 7.
2.I take a prenatal vitamin with atleast 1 mg folic acid { helps build up the lining of the uterus}
3.start using ovulation test starting day 8 using first morning urine
4.bd every other day at night{try not to get up after bd and just sleep till morning}
5.My obgyn told me to have orgasm BEFORE him so that the sperm have better cm to get to the egg.MOST IMPORTANT !!!
6.continue to bd every other day for 2 days after positive ovulation.
7. start to test for pg 12 days after + ovulation
8.if + start taking progesterone to help support the embryo.{the placenta will take over this after 10 weeks,but until then your body needs to produce enough}.
This will be my first month trying again after having 3 miscarriages.But I am very hopeful because I found out that my progesterone was too low and I need to take progesterone to support the pg. She said that it is very common for us over 35 to have lower progesterone levels and supplementing is the only way we can sustain a healthy pregnancy.
best wishes and I hope that you get a bfp soon!!
Keep me posted to let me know if you BFD!!!
I am doing everything that I can think of....here is my list:
1, track CM, BBT, and everything else on fertilityfriend.com
2, Using clear blue fertility monitor to track estrogen surge and LH surge (high fertility)
3, Using preseed when BD
4. BD every other day starting two days before fertile time (determined after a few months of tracking) until ovulation is confirmed by BBT
5. Taking Vitex to improve hormone balance from day 1- Ovulation (works like Clomid)
6. Using natural progesterone from 2 days after ovulation until +HPT (then will continue) or -HPT on day 14 (my last day of the cycle) when I will stop to bring on AF
7. Stay laying on my back (sometimes elevation of hips) for 15 min after BD (ususally just BD before going to sleep)
8. Orgasm after he does
9. May try using instead softcups if no +HPT this month.
It sounds like a lot. I am on month #4 and I add new things every month. I think I am maxed out on things to try once I add the instead softcups. I basically want to try everything before going to a fertility specialist and I don't want to wait 6 months or a year before trying to "help" things along.
1, track CM, BBT, and everything else on fertilityfriend.com
2, Using clear blue fertility monitor to track estrogen surge and LH surge (high fertility)
3, Using preseed when BD
4. BD every other day starting two days before fertile time (determined after a few months of tracking) until ovulation is confirmed by BBT
5. Taking Vitex to improve hormone balance from day 1- Ovulation (works like Clomid)
6. Using natural progesterone from 2 days after ovulation until +HPT (then will continue) or -HPT on day 14 (my last day of the cycle) when I will stop to bring on AF
7. Stay laying on my back (sometimes elevation of hips) for 15 min after BD (ususally just BD before going to sleep)
8. Orgasm after he does
9. May try using instead softcups if no +HPT this month.
It sounds like a lot. I am on month #4 and I add new things every month. I think I am maxed out on things to try once I add the instead softcups. I basically want to try everything before going to a fertility specialist and I don't want to wait 6 months or a year before trying to "help" things along.
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