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what am i doing!?
I'm 38 yrs old I've 5 children 24,21,20,18,& 9 the first four are out of the house. how ever I have 4 granddaughters And 1 grandson. Just got married march 30th 2014 been with him since march 9th 2013 we've been through a lot in the short period of time but were still learning each other we had great communication in the beginning now I'm seeing red flags were are suppose to relocate to Atlanta in November I'm three months pregnant and I'm letting everything I worked go to chance this with him we have a great relationship but everyone had their moments I can't help but think of the what if's am I tripping its hard to trust when I'm pregnant I been through hell in the pass tired if making mistake really hadn't planned on having any more children but he only has 1 lil girl what would you do?
I know exactly how you feel. I'm 37 and found out a few weeks ago that I will be having my 4th child. My other sons are 16, 14 and 12. This wasn't a planned pregnancy and the father wanted me to have an abortion. I really feel that this baby is a gift from God though, as I had my tubes tied with my last son. I had doubts because I will probably be a single mom and that scares me a little, but I'm pitting my faith in God. This truly is a miracle baby. I know I am making the right decision in the end. Every life is precious
Positives are- you are already a good mum so you know you can do that part of life. You have an opportunity here to start a new family with someone who seems to have a lot of good qualities. Your children are grown up enough to have their own families and the world is getting smaller so distance is not such a big deal anymore.
You say you and your hubby communicate well? Chat to him about how you're scared of this massive move and how big a change it is. He might be feeling the same or be able to reassure you this is the right thing for you both.
You say you and your hubby communicate well? Chat to him about how you're scared of this massive move and how big a change it is. He might be feeling the same or be able to reassure you this is the right thing for you both.
I agree with hadassa.... despite his happiness what about your own though? Dont let fear of being alone make u make the wrong choices for u and ur children...think and pray on those red flags but dont rush into moving or anything else until u are sure. .. but to answer your question... i would try talking to him and telling him exactly how i felt... his response would help me make a decision... not just his words but actions too.
Thoughts are with u hun x
Thoughts are with u hun x
Congratulations!
At this point, thank God for the ability to still be fertile.
Your drama no longer matters.
Your new gift from God is what must be your focus, along with your young daughter still at home.
Prepare for them. Give them and yourself the happiest time of your life.
~39,26wks, 5th child
At this point, thank God for the ability to still be fertile.
Your drama no longer matters.
Your new gift from God is what must be your focus, along with your young daughter still at home.
Prepare for them. Give them and yourself the happiest time of your life.
~39,26wks, 5th child
Your right! When I bring it back to God, I know he had everything to do with it. I'm coming from a place that deep down still conciders my grown children opinion they are selfish nit crazy about me being married and still wanna running to me for everything they have their own children to raise. they don't know I'm pregnant but I'm not living for them anymore although I'm showing them that its hard because their still young they feel like I abandon them and moved on with my life not so, but they make really bad decision that I can't bail them out of any more and I'm not bringing that stress to my husband I raised them alone it was hell 3 boys and 2 girls I have no mom dad or sisters and brothers so I get alil noises sometimes praying we make it through I don't want another child with out the father by my side its wrong because he's so happy and excited but I have trust issues I thought I was over pray for me I know we can make I just can't give way to doubt thk you!
I am pregnant with my 5 th child and my older children are 20,18, 17 and than I have a 5 yo and 39 weeks pregnant. This is actually my boyfriends first child. He is very excited but I can understand where you are coming from. This wasn't really planned but I feel like if it is God's plan for me I will go with it. Good luck
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