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I just turned 39 when I conceived my 1st baby. I lost it at 11 wks now I'm concern on getting pregnant and having another miscarriage. What are the chances of this happening again? My sister was 36 and her husband 50 when they
had their healthy little baby why did this happened to me? is there a difference in getting pregnant at 36 v/s 39? I had my D & C in June 22 when can I try again?
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296340 tn?1336167601
I am 39 years old and my husband is 52.. we tried for 21 months  and nothing happen until we decided to take a break..emotionally, mentally, physically, financially we burn out... we were so tired and so disappointed and depressed.

When we took a break and not to think about having a baby. We relaxed and enjoy our time together and not stressed out about trying to make baby. then I got pregnant on my own.  no infertility medicines at all...

Today I am 13 weeks.  When things are less expected, it's happen...

don't give up hope of trying to have baby..

After you are turn 35... there is no difference... you and your husband just need to take care yourself.. healthy diet, regular exercise, reduce stress, relax mind and body, etc...

Your doctor might able to tell you why you have miscarriage and when you can try again... I know it's hard, but don't give up... everything happen for a reason.

Think happy, live happy, and take care of yourself..

503649 tn?1304361066
I'm 41 and I had 4 miscarriage and 1 ectopic and tried to get pregnant for over 2 years.  I was miscarring because I wasn't get a good mature egg.  You are born with all your eggs at birth and your eggs are as old as you're so when we get older so do our eggs.   I was not going to give up on my dreams and I gave birth to a healthy baby boy on my birthday and he just turned 6 months old.  There are many woman on her that are at advance maternal age and go on to have healthy babies.

Don't give up, follow your dreams and it will happen for you.

Good Luck!
377493 tn?1356505749
My husband and I are both 40 and are currently 11 weeks pregnant.  I got pregnant the first time just before my 38th birthday and miscarried.  The reality is that at 39 our eggs are a bit older, and it can be tougher to get a good one.  However, one miscarriage does not make you any more likely to have a second one then if you hadn't miscarried. The odds are exactly the same.  It only elevates after 3 in a row.  I had 5 in a row before getting pregnant this time, so that combined with now being 40 put me in a high risk catagory.  Only 1% of couples will experience 3 or more miscarriages in a row.

I say go for it.  At 39 your odds are still good.  If you have another one, don't wait.  Ask for testing to see if they can determine a cause.  See a good RE or an OB that specializes in high risk.  There are tests that can be done to try to determine what's happening.  Chances are though you were just a victim of bad luck.  I'm sorry you went through this.

Good luck to you!!!!
951946 tn?1263568983
mbm, i am 38 and lost a baby in april. i started making changes to my diet and lifestyle right away. even though i am healthy it is taking awhile for my body to balance itself out. lots of women get pregnant again right away but so far i have not. the hardest thing is to be patient while your body heals and your hormones get back to normal.

i will share this with you. on the morning that i started miscarrying, my midwife said to me: "I just want you to know one thing. You did not do anything wrong to make this happen." She also told me that known miscarriage is about 1 in 5 pregnancies but that doesn't count women who are not TTC and didn't even know they were pregnant. She said it's likely the true number is more like 1 in 4 or even 1 in 3.

i had my hormones checked around 6 weeks later and it looks like i probably still wasn't ovulating yet. i was very focused on trying to get pregnant last month and the month before, but i was starting to drive myself crazy with it.

when i stopped focusing on getting pregnant again right away, that was when the grief really hit me, and i needed to work through that. i was very weepy for a few weeks and would cry at the drop of a hat. i am now finally starting to feel physically and emotionally balanced again.

it takes time. please be very kind and loving to youself, and patient. all the best of luck to you.

(p.s., i have a friend who is 39, who has miscarried several times and is now pregnant and 20 weeks along and the baby is perfectly healthy. you have every reason to believe that you will conceive again and carry a healthy baby to full term. :))
760556 tn?1255708681
I can only imagine how you must feel. Unfortunately m/c does happen more often in women of advanced age, but a positive note is that you were able to get pregnant and still have a great chance of carrying a baby fulll term. It only takes one good egg!!! I am unable to get pregnant but I think if I did and m/carried it would make me even more determined to try again and get that one good egg to stick....Good luck and keep trying.
178698 tn?1228777938
Sorry to hear about your loss.   Yes there is a BIG difference between 36 and 39.   It's very hard to get pregnant when you're pushing 40 and in your 40s.   Half the time, they say that 50% of these pregnancies will end in miscarriage.   I started trying to get pregnant at about 39 and had 5 miscarriages.   This is do to the fact that our eggs become of poorer quality and in your 30's your fertility ability plummits.  However, it can happen and it does.  You just need to know what you're getting yourself into and realize it's challenging to get out of the first trimester.   But it can happen!
947345 tn?1245811651
I am 40 and had a D & C on 30 June.  I had one healthy baby when I was 38, but a miscarriage immediately before concieving her.  As far as I can tell at my age the chances of miscarrying is about 55% and that is the same for each pregnancy.  That is, if I try twice there is about a 25% chance they will both miscarry and if I try 3 times there is about a 13% chance they will all misscarry.  I think the fact is that at around 40 you have to accept the reality that you are likely to have a miscarriage or two when trying to concieve (conceive).  I know they are horrible, especially when you feel like you are in a hurry.

Exactly 2 weeks after the D & C I have ovulated and I think that after this next period I will be ready to try again.  Your body will probably tell you when you are ready because you will start to feel like it is all behaving normally.  It's a good idea to wait until after the first period though, so that you know your body is laying down a good uterine wall for your baby to attach to.  Also then you might have a better idea of when you will ovulate next (good for dating the next pregnancy if it happens straight away).

The good news is that after a miscarriage your fertility increases slightly (so I have been told).  I am not sure if this is the case after a D & C.  Fertility does decrease rapidly at our age but you still have good chances if you are prepared to keep trying.

Good luck next time.

Avatar f tn
Hi they say 3 months but start sooner if you can and are up to it. Also it is so so common to lose the first one and its so hard. I lost mine at 8 weeks and didn't get pregnant again for almost a year when I finally tried IUI. I am 37 now and 25 weeks pregnant. It is hard and even harder the older we get but we try harder and keep healthy and relaxed and fit. Also make sure you husband is doing the same as for the majority of that year the problem was with him and I thought all along is was me! so have your husband checked out every 3 months or so for sperm quality.

Lastly you are still 39 and people are getting pregnant well into their 40's. You also conceived which is such a postive thing to take away from this - a lot of people can't do that. So look after yourself emotionally and physically and get back on to it!! best of luck to you.
tivey x
758493 tn?1271614763
I am sorry to hear about your loss, I also miscarried when I was 39 at 14 weeks this time last year.

I was told similar to the other ladies... getting pregnant at an 'older' age is more difficult to achieve due to the egs being of older and carries a higher risk of miscarriage than ladies of a younger age BUT it is not impossible!

A friend of mine the same age as me tried for a baby for many years after a miscarriage and finally resorted to fertility treaments which was a sucess... then less than a year later and at the age of 40 without trying she fell pregnant again!! She is now 6 months pregnant with another very healthy baby.

Good luck and keep focused on the positives... x
Avatar f tn
Thank you ladies for all your good wishes and positive comments. Is been a month since I had my D &C and even thought it still hurst and I feel sad sometimes I feel like I could start trying again. My fear is having another miscarriage but I feel like I should take the change I won't know if I don't try.
1068361 tn?1290631759
i just had a miscarriage at 38, ttc as soon as af comes back, hope i can get pregnant again and have a healthy baby
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