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IM SO SCARED...help:'(
Im so scared..i had a emergency caesarean with my first(8years ago)..My Haemaglobin went to 5.2 and i had 4 pint of blood(blood tranfusion)then had a Haematoma-blood clot in my abdomen which they operated on..then the wound would not heal..was infected for months! district nurses packed,cleaned my wound...in the end it healed (once they packed it with dried seaweed;)) but it over granulated(healed to much) so had a flap of fleshy skin hanging!!! gross...but now ive found out im pregnant and dont feel as though i can go through it all again:'( im scared and upset... i just feel like im going to die!! im so scared!! i dont want to put my daughter through this if something bad does happen! the doctors have said i can have a planned cs...But im scared about the wound being open and infected again!!! i feel horrible as my partner wants this baby! and im so scared and constantly feel sick with worry! ..:'''(
I just read your previous post. I didn't know. I'm so sorry. Please heal soon.
Pam
Pam
Hello and welcome to the community!
I never had a csec, but I did have a similar worry.
After my son (my 1st) was born, I had severe post partum hemorrhaging--I was rushed to the OR and lost alot of blood. I too had a blood transfusion. It made my first birth expereince very scary and unsettling.
When I became pregnant with my daughter (my 2nd) I couldn't relax most of my pregnancy, because I feared the delivery and made myself a nervous wreck!! I thought for sure it would happen again.
I expressed my concern with my OB, which was a different one than my first--and he was well aware of my previous PPH, he did everything right--and had everything in order in the event it happened again, which it didn't.
Please talk with your dr and express your concerns--Skilled OBs have seen everything, and experience emergency situations through delivieries (vaginal and csec) all the time! But it is very important they know your history, so they can prepare when it's time.
8 yrs is a long time, and is probably a good indication that your body has and did indeed heal. So, have comfort in knowing that time is on your side for the healing process since your first child was born.
I wish you well, and please keep me posted as you progress in your pregnancy--but above all, please try not to worry, and seek out all the professional opinions/advice you can on both your medical condition that occured...or others that had a similar situation.
Pam
I never had a csec, but I did have a similar worry.
After my son (my 1st) was born, I had severe post partum hemorrhaging--I was rushed to the OR and lost alot of blood. I too had a blood transfusion. It made my first birth expereince very scary and unsettling.
When I became pregnant with my daughter (my 2nd) I couldn't relax most of my pregnancy, because I feared the delivery and made myself a nervous wreck!! I thought for sure it would happen again.
I expressed my concern with my OB, which was a different one than my first--and he was well aware of my previous PPH, he did everything right--and had everything in order in the event it happened again, which it didn't.
Please talk with your dr and express your concerns--Skilled OBs have seen everything, and experience emergency situations through delivieries (vaginal and csec) all the time! But it is very important they know your history, so they can prepare when it's time.
8 yrs is a long time, and is probably a good indication that your body has and did indeed heal. So, have comfort in knowing that time is on your side for the healing process since your first child was born.
I wish you well, and please keep me posted as you progress in your pregnancy--but above all, please try not to worry, and seek out all the professional opinions/advice you can on both your medical condition that occured...or others that had a similar situation.
Pam
I also agree that you need to seek help right away. What Nola has said makes so much sense...you were not thinking rationally when you made this decision. All of us make decisions we later wish we hadn't when under extreme anxiety, and I wonder about a bit of depression as well. Please reach out to a therapist. I wish you peace and healing.
I am just now seeing this thread. It sounds like you were experiencing extreme anxiety (and maybe post traumatic stress) from your first c-section. I know how unbearable extreme anxiety can be. Please realize that you were not in a good state of mind when you made the decision to terminate - in fact, you were in extreme distress - and it is really hard to make good decisions in that mind frame - so please do not be too hard on yourself.
It sounds like you have exchanged extreme anxiety for extreme sadness and guilt - not an easy trade. You can't change the past, but you can take control of the present and help yourself and your family (and help develop better coping skills if you ever get pregnant again). Please seek out a good counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. It is critical that you get good help quickly - and a large part of this will be forgiving yourself.
take care
It sounds like you have exchanged extreme anxiety for extreme sadness and guilt - not an easy trade. You can't change the past, but you can take control of the present and help yourself and your family (and help develop better coping skills if you ever get pregnant again). Please seek out a good counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. It is critical that you get good help quickly - and a large part of this will be forgiving yourself.
take care
I am very sorry to hear that you acted so quickly and irreversibly. Pregnancy can a time of great emotions and fear.
I think you need to see a councellor. Your fear was so great that it led you to do something you now regret.
I hope you can forgive yourself and move on in time.
I think you need to see a councellor. Your fear was so great that it led you to do something you now regret.
I hope you can forgive yourself and move on in time.
I feel horrible,sad,selfish and empty. I had a termination:''( ..why?? I hate myself..i want my morning sickness back and my sore breasts! Ifeel empty! I can feel it has gone! I cant cope with this feelling! Why was i so stupid! I want my baby back:( i know i cant and its my fault! Everytime i look at my partner i cry! I cry when i wake and feel like ive been crying in my sleep! I dream of my baby! I feel like im going crazy! Why???? I should of let my baby live...! :-'( i regret my decision ...xxx
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Christine's advice is good. Nearly all women are able to give birth vaginally. The recovery from a vaginal birth is way better than for a cesarian. They can give you pain meds to help, if that is the side you are scared of.
Talk to you doctor. You will be fine this time.
Christine's advice is good. Nearly all women are able to give birth vaginally. The recovery from a vaginal birth is way better than for a cesarian. They can give you pain meds to help, if that is the side you are scared of.
Talk to you doctor. You will be fine this time.
Many women have had repeat c-sections. Many have also given birth vaginally after a c-section (whether it is safe to do so depends on some factors best discussed with your health care provider).
Your size (height and weight) have nothing to do with whether or not you can give birth vaginally. The shape of your pelvis is what will determine whether it will be easy, hard or very unlikely for you to deliver vaginally. Most women are able to give birth vaginally. A very, very low percentage of women have a pelvis shaped in such a way that vaginal birth is a problem and a GOOD OB or midwife can check the shape of your pelvis and let you know what type you have.
Your size (height and weight) have nothing to do with whether or not you can give birth vaginally. The shape of your pelvis is what will determine whether it will be easy, hard or very unlikely for you to deliver vaginally. Most women are able to give birth vaginally. A very, very low percentage of women have a pelvis shaped in such a way that vaginal birth is a problem and a GOOD OB or midwife can check the shape of your pelvis and let you know what type you have.
Thanks for your comment christinemp...i never found out why the wound wouldn't heal!! They sent me back to hospital for 3 weeks(and put me and my baby daughter in a hysterectomy ward-which must of upset patients..)...they swabbed for mrsa etc but was never told why it wouldnt heal..it had necrosis on the edges!! Luckily the seaweed worked! But when the wound healed to much and i had the flesh of skin hanging over-the consultant injected down below and cut it off!!!I remember asking a nurse what would happen if it stays open and she said my intestines would come out...the consultant wasn't happy with her!! ..im just so confused about what to do! Its such a hard decision:-( thanks again..i appreciate any advice:-) xx
Hi thank you for replying, i just feel so scared:( to be honest i feel like i cant do a vaginal birth!! It scares me even thinking of it...i am quite tiny,im 5ft 3 and weigh about 8 stone! Im not diabetic or overweight and eat lots:) has anyone had a csection twice??? I still have a deep scare-one side is like a pencil line,healed really well but the middle and other side is still scared badly..it worries me having the scar cut open and have visions of them cutting my stomach open...i sound crazy- sorry!! Thank you for your opinions- im going to talk to a doctor about the scar! Thank you:-) xxtessxx
I agree with the previous posters. Definitely discuss doing a VBAC with your doctor. Depending on the reason for the c-section you may be able to deliver vaginally and bypass the need for abdominal stitches.
Did they ever figure out why you had such a difficult time healing before? Are you diabetic? Overweight? Poor nutrition status?
Best wishes for you on a healthy and happy pregnancy and safe delivery.
Did they ever figure out why you had such a difficult time healing before? Are you diabetic? Overweight? Poor nutrition status?
Best wishes for you on a healthy and happy pregnancy and safe delivery.
Hi there. I don't blame you for being afraid after an experience like that. Fortunately most of the time c sections are not that way and there is no reason to think it will be that way again for you. It sounds just awful. I had a c section 17 months ago and had no problems at all. Healed just fine and I believe that is the way it happens most of the time.
As for the bleeding..that too is unlikely to occur again. I have had several miscarriages. With my first one and the second to last one (I have had 7) I too had severe bleeding resulting in emergency d&c's. I get scared of it happening every time. But 5 out of 7 it didn't and I had no complications at all. Sometimes things happen, but it isn't the norm.
I agree with Sally. Make sure you find a Dr. you feel good about. Don't be afraid to interview him/her. Ask lots of questions and talk to them about your fears. Explain your previous experience.
Congrats on your pregnancy, and know there is every reason to believe it will be just fine.
As for the bleeding..that too is unlikely to occur again. I have had several miscarriages. With my first one and the second to last one (I have had 7) I too had severe bleeding resulting in emergency d&c's. I get scared of it happening every time. But 5 out of 7 it didn't and I had no complications at all. Sometimes things happen, but it isn't the norm.
I agree with Sally. Make sure you find a Dr. you feel good about. Don't be afraid to interview him/her. Ask lots of questions and talk to them about your fears. Explain your previous experience.
Congrats on your pregnancy, and know there is every reason to believe it will be just fine.
Hi Hon,
can understand how scared you are. It can be different this time.
You could also look for a doctor who will support you do do VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section). You certainly should be a good candidate given your past history, with only 1 c-section and given the complications last time they should be able to help you have a natural delivery.
I suggest go doctor shopping. Also you can look for a doula / midwife to help you through the process as well.
Worst case, even if it did end up c-section that was 11 years ago and things can be very different this time.
Your child is here for a reason. YOu will be ok!
can understand how scared you are. It can be different this time.
You could also look for a doctor who will support you do do VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section). You certainly should be a good candidate given your past history, with only 1 c-section and given the complications last time they should be able to help you have a natural delivery.
I suggest go doctor shopping. Also you can look for a doula / midwife to help you through the process as well.
Worst case, even if it did end up c-section that was 11 years ago and things can be very different this time.
Your child is here for a reason. YOu will be ok!
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