I'm Pregnant at 45.. happy excited terrified & scare to death!

[kitty808]

I'm 45 years old and 5 1/2 weeks pregnant (Naturally).  My husband and I have been trying for 2 years a number of IUI's but no success so we just gave up.  I have 2 children from my 1st marrage (age 18 & 14).  I'm scare to death, don't know if I can do this all over again at my age.  My husband is 5 years younger and really wanted a child of our own.  He is so happy but he doesn't understand all the riskes being pregnant at 45.  I know most women my age will have a miscarriage.  And the birth defects rate is so high.  I work 2 jobs to make enough money to send my older son off to college in less than 2 months.  I have high blood pressure and low blood sugar. I'm tired all the time only getting 5 hours of sleep on most nights.  I keep praying and telling myself that if this is what God has in His plan for our family then I should not be afraid.  Are there any women out there who can related??  I need a support group.

[jinxj]

shocked stunned flipping out worried...  6 thrilled46! naturally...thank you for all the stories good and bad...  good are preferred!

my story...  I have 3 with my first husband. 22. 16 and 14. divorced several years ago and recinnected with furst boyfriend who was being divorce by his exwife (they have 5!) we fell back in love I was 41 and we started to try to have a baby. no luck. tumors, miscarriages, and then nothing for 3 years niw....  we gave up. now. suddenly. we are married happy  and had given up on that baby...  

pregnancy test /symptoms confirm it. he is thrilled, im terrified. see doctor next week.

[456654]

so nice to read some positive stories...I'm 45 and have just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant with no 3.  I was in total shock and now I'm getting my head round it I desperately want it to survive first trimester & be healthy. I'm totally terrified about the statistics and risks,it's msking me sick with worry. it will be the longest couple of months....I'm trying hard to take it one day at a time. I have a 4yr old & a 21 month old at home.....don't give up on your dream to be mums.

[geriatricmum]

Hi there, im 43 and 11 weeks pregnant with my fiancé of 28, all these numbers eh? That is just what it is,  numbers.  The only number that means anything is 2, you and baby. I'm keeping positive as you should and take each and every day as a blessing as what we are cooking is a little miracle!  When life gives you lemons, make lemonade! Best of luck and chin up xxx

[midnightwishes]

Hi Like you it gets depressing reading negativity so I try not too.... I am 46 and like you at first was scared to say I really want a child and then to ask for help... I havent even told my sister as I will get do you know what the % of this and that is she wont say it but i know like many others they will be saying at her age....... well YEP at my age and il make a great mum too like all of you... how special would it be to say hey mum and dad wanted you here so much we planned for you to come

here is my story so far... (sorry if I go on and on)

I was using OPK on a regular basis &  I thought I wasn't ovulating as it kept coming back neg and due to my age I had to swallow my pride and go see the fertility specialist my doctor wanted me to see (wish I had of done it earlier) anyway the specialist calls me and said the blood tests are good im ovulating perfectly... (still not sure why they were coming back neg)

next step HSG OMG why didn't I read the part where women take sedatives before going I read bad cramps so im no sook by any means but holly molly....... even one of my contacts popped  out lol I was suppose to watch the screen and i thought i am in so much pain I cant face it... all i kept saying was suck it up im sure having a child is worse.. after 5 minutes it was all over with... when it finished he said all done the tubes are clear I said WHAT i went thru that for noting he said well actually sometimes they get sticky and yours were both stuck one more than the other

I am gathering that is why it was so painful, the balloon they use to hold the iodine in is what causes the pain and he needed to do that for them to open (that's what he told me its not the fluid itself) so if this works I will be one happy little camper ;-) or should i say mummy to be :)

Its now 3 weeks after the test and I am praying that is what I needed im trying not to get my hopes up and keep saying il be able to try next month

Im so tired of the last 3 days before my period & checking my underwear for blood or watching my temp stay high'and thinking could i? is this it??? only to be let down

they say don't stress hard not too when you see the clock ticking as I say to my partner if I try regularly every month then I can cope as I know Ive tried and its not meant to be.... when we don't I feel that time has slipped away that I will never get back and that is a waste he has two grown up children i have none

1 more day till aunt flow is due fingers crossed I get some good news... not that I tried much this month my partner wasn't well... as i said to him suck it up you have the rest of your life to get sick I really need to concentrate on the next 3 months as they say that's your highest chance of conceiving if they were stuck/blocked otherwise then  i look at IUI?

I hope more women in this age bracket would write positive stories and uplifting ones to inspire all of us that are trying good luck to everyone and hopefully your wishes along with mine come true this year for those who have suffered loses my thoughts are with you

[kitty808]

Thank you so much FancieT ... Congrats on your new baby coming soon in April !!!    Take good care of yourself and your little precious baby.  May God bless you and your family with all His best.

[FancieT]

Didn't realize that your post was from last year! Lol congratulations on your healthy baby I hope all is going well with you and your husband and little baby Ethan enjoy your new miracle!