No foetal pole

[Baves]

Hi if there is no foetal pole showing at 8wks and 3days is there something to be alarmed about?please help me with this question

[criss200]

TWO YOLK SAC ONE SMALLER THAN THE OTHER

[cutter1974]

You can't blame yourself for your loss. I was around chemicals with my first pregnancy with the twins, and I don't blame myself. I was still embalming and working with formaldehyde.  We live and learn. This time I am taking extra precautions and I am staying away from chemicals, just in case.
I know it wasn't the chemicals,, it was probably a chromosome problem.

[kittkatt5664]

I just was wondering how you are doing? I had my d & c Oct 8th. I still think about my baby angel. I blame myself for my baby's loss. I did a lot of things I should not have like being around chemicals and such. Good luck when you try again and keep us updated.

[cutter1974]

That's right :)

[Baves]

Thanks sweet I'm glad everything is workin out for you and don't stress everything will be ok.i just want one so bad that that's all I think about these days but it's in gods hands to give me another one.

[cutter1974]

Yes, it is normal. Same thing happened to me.  It is just your body readjusting. It is nice to hear from you, I have been thinking f you and wodnering how you were doing.
I am doing good. I am 24 weeks on Monday. Things seem to be progressing like normal. I have been starting to get Braxton hick contractions. Sure hope he doesn't decide to try and come into the world too early.
Hang in there Baves, when the time is right, hopefully you will get the right egg fertilized and carry on to have your baby :)

[Baves]

Hey cutter how r u?how is your pregnancy goin,got my first period after the dnc is it normal to have it for only four days and feel cramping.ive been feelin a bit frustrated and anxious due to me wanting a baby so bad my husband refuses to talk about it and I wonder if I will ever have a second chance.losing two was hard and I blame myself for it everyday I feel like my life will not be full until I have another baby and give my son a sister or a brother.i know it sounds selfish but I don't think I will be fully happy until I fall pregnant.

[Baves]

Thanks cutter I will go into inbox now I'm really looking for a work at home job.

[cutter1974]

On the top of the page on the right hand side s te inbox.mcluck on that. It should show friend request there. Or click on my name and choose friend request.
What sort of work do you think you would like to do?
I know wat you mean about wanting a baby so bad...... I truthfully was feeling very sad and depressed until I got pregnant again. Having a baby was all I could think of.  All you can do is try to live day to day and get thru it. Hopefully you will be successful soon and get your baby.

[Baves]

Hey cutter.i use to work as a retail manager but don't know what to get into now as I'm wanting a change.how do I get to friend request to talk to you.cutter why do I want a baby so bad I can't seem to get it out of my head.how do I move on and try to wait for another.

[cutter1974]

It probably is from stress what you are feeling. Good idea about going o the doctor.  He might have something that could ease your discomfort.  Going back to work and keeping busy might be just what you need. What do you do for work?

[Baves]

Hey cutter that's the most beautiful name ever.his a fighter do hunter is perfect I'm so do happy for you.i haven't been feelin great lately I've been constantly tired and have stabbing pains In my stomach as well as migraines and reflux I may need to book an apt with my doctor to find out what's goin on it could just be stress.i have also decided to return to work just because I need time to myself and it maybe just what I need to try and get my mind off things.taje care.

[cutter1974]

Baves. I think April would be a perfect time to try again. That gives you around 7 months of healing before you try again. Just make sure you take your folic acid, and prenatal vitamins. And talk to ob about adding any aspirin, and then hopefully you will get pregnant and ave a healthy pregnancy :)
I am glad to hear that you and your hubby are trying to work things out. This sort of thing can make or break a marriage sometimes.
We have decided to name our son. Obgyn thought it was a good idea to help us be closer to him, consider how nervous I am of losing him, because of my other losses. We have named him Hunter Ryan Jones. It is kinda neat talking to my tummy and calling him by name. I will keep you updated on his progress.
I am happy to have met you and made friends with you too!

[Baves]

Hey cutter how you going?i really want to try for another one in April next year but do you think it's too soon.we are getting there slowly we do love each other alot.your a great friend.have a ob apt in dec to find out why this happening will keep u posted.take care of yourself and the little princess you have inside you.xxx

[cutter1974]

I would give it a few months. I know it s hard to wait.  I tried to get pregnant a month after first DNC and ended up with a second miscarriage. Then I waited longer second time, (3 months) but it took 7 to get pregnant. I have to take the right dose of Clomid to get pregnant. My RE wanted to try me on a lower dose, and 4 months went by, and nothing. As soon as he put me back on the higher dose I was pregnant that month.
During te waiting time I started taking a health food supplement called Maca, Royal Jelly, co-q10.   And I really believed it helped my egg quality improve. I really believe egg quality was my problem.

[Baves]

Hi I had my second dnc done in oct how long do you think I should wait till I start to think about havin another one.as I started really early after my first dnc which was two months after.i feel now that maybe I did not give my body a chance to heal.

[cutter1974]

I am going to send you a friend request :) Then we can talk privately. That is sweet that you want to send baby something, but you don't need to do that. That is very sweet though :)
It sounds like you do both love each other and maybe you just need some time to works some things out and make things better.  it sounds like it would be worth it.  Maybe you are the one that will need to start to make a few changes in order for things to start getting better. Have you tried to figure out why he makes you angry? Why you yell at him? What needs to change to not make you angry at him?
What do you want him to do to spend more time with your son? Maybe he needs to be given some ideas or suggestions, if he didn't have a good upbringing and a positive male role model in his life, then maybe he really doesn't know what a dad needs to do.

[Baves]

Hey cutter doin ok today.bern with my husband for five years I reAlly do love him and I know he loves me but I tell at him all the time for no reason and get upset cause he doesn't spend enough time with our son.as for moving out he would b
Never leave his mum cause she was abused pretty badly by her husband when she was young he saw everything and at times experienced it himself do his very protective if her.she comes first.so that's out of the question.would love for you to send me your address so I could get you something for when the baby is born.

[cutter1974]

It sounds like you aren't in the best of situations. I am so sorry you are having such a tough time.  
How long have you and your husband been together?
It must be tough living with your inlaws. Have you thought of maybe getting your husband to move you all out of his parents place and get a place of your own?  Or maybe you really need to re-evaluate your relationship and decide if you love him enough to stay and if he loves you enough to work this out.

[Baves]

Hi thanks to you all.hey cutter I'm so excited and happy for you both a boy wow and don't worry everything will be fine.im goin through so much at this moment I just don't want to be in this house and I regret that I married him Im even resenting his parents.we live them so I don't have time to myself and if I'm quiet she thinks it's about her.shes selfish I feel like leaving or doin something stupid at times.they just don't get it.she keeps telling me in stupid and to move on.i don't know what to do.im in my room with my son right now cause that's the only place I get to be on my own.

[kittkatt5664]

I hope you come back with an update. I really feel for you. I don't think I would have had d ands c if I hadn't had all the signs of miscarriage.

[kittkatt5664]

I hope you come back with an update. I really feel for you. I don't think I would have had d ands c if I hadn't had all the signs of miscarriage.

[cutter1974]

We went for the ultrasound today and the baby was squirming quite a bit and it took over an hour for it to reveal its gender. We are having a boy :) everything looked normal, and on schedule he was showing 19 weeks, and that is exactly what he should be.

[tryingtocope39]

Sorry, stupid spell check! Its supposed to be *blood clotting*.