Really? Is this normal? Really?

[wanting4#1]

So, I'm 10 1/2 weeks pregnant and I just can't believe that this is really how it's supposed to be...I'm so nervous that my baby has just stopped growing.

About 3-4 days ago, my symptoms started to dissipate. Everything I read said that it's normal to have them start to fade as you approach the 12 week mark, but really? ALL of them?

I've had insomnia for two-three days and then last night, BAM...slept through the night.

Headaches - gone
Twinges/pulling (feeling of fullness in abdomen) - gone (this is the one that really scares me...shouldn't my baby and uterus still be growing)
Constipation - gone (at least it was yesterday)
Cramping - a little this morning, but that's the first time in a few days
Fatigue - gone
Nausea - gone
Appetite - back

I just know that my cousin's baby's heartbeat just stopped one day and I'm not exactly sure when, but it was sometime after the 8 week mark before the 12 week mark.

I know that worrying isn't helping, but I can't help it. It just doesn't feel like I'm pregnant anymore and I have 2 weeks until my NT ultrascan and I can't bear the thought that we might go to that and find that our baby isn't with us anymore.


Please, it's more than just relaxing...has anyone lost all of their symptoms and still had a healthy pregnancy? I really just need to know some truth at this time

[sherrysb]

Try not to worry. I am 19 weeks now, but at 10 weeks all symtoms, the little I did have disappeared.  I called my dr's office, left her a msg with he receptionist.  She never called back (have a new dr. now). My symptoms never returned, but the baby is so far doing well.  I bought the angel sounds doppler when I was 8 weeks couldn't hear anything until 10 weeks which eased my nerves!!!!

[blessedmomof3]

My symptoms come and go so much. There are days I don't feel PG at all, nothing. No pains, nausea, fatigue, nothing. I have freaked out over it to, but then a few days later it comes back. I know it's scary and right now those symptoms are all we have for re assurance, but it is normal. It realy is. However, if you are this stressed over it, then I would call the Dr office back and insist you come in and they check for you. If they won't, go to ER. I have done it before.

[ita17]

Symptoms are not always a good indication of anything!  W/my 3 healthy babies I had no real
"symptoms" except tired.........& that stayed til mid 2nd, then came back in the last few weeks.   I got headaches off & on, but for me thats always!
W/my last mc in Feb.  I had the most "symptoms" very early on than I ever had & my Dr was happy about that???  I was a bit nausiated early on, boobs KILLED from the day after conception (seriously) VERY VERY VERY bad heart burn.  Well, not to scare you, but right @ 10 weeks, I felt MUCH better, only heart burn a little. but not bad anymore.  I was being seen weekly, except for that week :(  Dr thought everything looked good.  Went in @ 10.5 weeks & bb stopped growing @ 9.  I know when her little heart stopped beating, I Just knew it was a few days just before the US. (I never bled, different than my other 2 mc's)
If I were you, I would absolutely insist on an US.  It's not as if its a favor they're doing you, they DO get paid right????
I wished I had known just  a bit earlier, just to deal w/it better.  
I hope your outcome will be much better than mine was.  The point is pregnany symptoms do come & go, but at any point ve concerns,  if YOU have concerns, you SHOULD be able to get in & see what's going on.
Best of luck to you!  

[prevatt77]

For both of you to feel this way - it's totally normal.  I had 4 miscarriages and 1 ectopic before having Gavin.  But I can say I knew 2 of the times when I was having a miscarriage, ALL my symptoms stopped all of a sudden and I got this huge burst of energy, like I was totally back to myself again.  Your symptoms will come and go, but if ALL your symptoms stop and don't return and you feel really good, then I would start to worry a little, but remember your symptoms will start to fade after tha 11-12 week mark.  I think if you're unsure I would request to hear the heartbeat.

Good luck to you.

[adgal]

You are not weak and your not negative.  We are all a product of our experiences, and for you miscarriage has been a reality.  I think it would be more abnormal not to worry...how can you not.  My DH says the same thing and as much as I love him, it makes me want to bop him one.  Those around us love us, but it's hard to understand unless you have been there....like anything in life.  I have been trying really hard to just take this day by day...it's corny and I know I keep repeating it, but every day is a victory.  At the same time I have stayed really detached throughout most of the last few weeks...its really only since I heard the heartbeat on the doppler last week that I have begun to allow myself to get excited.  You are protecting yourself.  It's your pregnancy, and it's your feelings.  You have to work through this in the way that is best for you, and that's ok.  You just want to know what's happening...again normal.  It's ok to feel scared...but don't tell yourself your weak.  You have been through  a lot, yet here you are trying again....that's not weak, that's pretty darn strong!!  

[wanting4#1]

Against DH's advice, I called them yesterday...they just said 'it's normal and we're not worried'...glad that they aren't. I wish that I had a friend or contact at an OB's so I could ask. I would feel so much better if I just knew that the heartbeat was still going strong.

I'm tempted to go to Target..I heard that they have some cone doppler that you can possibly hear the heartbeat with, but I know that I'm just fooling myself.

I just hate being so weak and negative...my DH says that I always look at the glass half-empty. I wish he understood better that I am just trying to protect myself a little bit...being naive was never something that I was very good at. ;)

[adgal]

I have had it happen at least twice now where there was practically nothing at all.  Scares me too. Combined with that bleeding I had, sheer terror. They seem to come back in a few days or so though. Gradually and not very strong though.  At around 7 or 8 weeks I was absolutely certain I too had lost this one as well. It was several days then boom...back full force.  I guess beaner was giving me a rest or something.  

I'm the last one to tell you to relax, this is scary after losing pregnancies, there is no way around it.  Can you call your Dr. and see if they will listen with the Doppler or even do an ultrasound earlier?  Not knowing is the absolute worse, it's hard to think about anything else.  

I have spent a tonne of time googling info on missed miscarriage.  Do you know only 1% of losses will occur with no sign of bleeding or cramping?  I didn't know how uncommon they were.  It helped set my mind at ease, well at least once the bleeding stopped.  

Also, sometimes the really obvious symptoms are the ones we are focused on, such as morning sickness and tender breasts.  There are others that are sometimes less so, but just as reassuring. Frequent urination, itchy nipples...maybe you slept so well last night because the fatigue had returned.  

I would really call your Dr.  I have decided that I don't care anymore if mine thinks I am neurotic.  Part of their job is monitoring, and if I need a little more then the average, so be it.  Tell them you want to listen or see the heartbeat.  Almost through that first trimester...it will be here before you know it!!!!