TTC after Miscarriage

[Mammaof3boys]

Hi there, I have posted before and just wanted to get some feedback. I have been TTC since my miscarriage in November...I started trying end of january with no luck.  I have 3 healthy beautiful boys and never really had a problem, my first took me about 9 months to get pregant, my second the first month and my 3 tooks me 5 months with an early miscarriage the month before.  I got pregnant the 2ned month trying last September and lost my baby at 11 weeks.  I bled for 2 1/2 months and started trying again...I have had my levels checked and everything is fine.  I am ovulating as I do the OPK and take my temps and everything suggests I am ovulating.  I am 35 years old but I am a bit overweight.  However since I am olvulating and I can't see why my weight would cause problems althought I would like to lose 20 pounds.  I also find I suffer from stress and anxiety and have always but I feel intensified after my miscarriage.  I don't want a huge age gap between my 3rd and my next child so I am on a time constraint here...I was hoping for no more than 2 years between them but that time has passed...I am now hoping for now more than 2 1/2 years between them.  Anyhow with my levels being fine, and me ovulating...what could be the problem...we are having intercourse at the correct times and several times during my fertile time...I heard also after 35 it could take longer but I didn't think it was like a switch where last year it took two months and now nothing.  Anyhow any feedback and experience would be much appreciated.  I do see my OB on Monday and curious as to what she may suggest.  Thanks Ladies!

[carpediemforlife]

I am 35 and overweight and I get pregnant really easy.  But Ive had 2 m/c and Im in my 3rd pregnancy right now at 16 wks.  But I found out I had low progestrone so I was not able to maintain a pregnancy until they gave me the supplement for the first 12 wks. I will say this....when I ovulate and when i conceive were about 5 days off.  I dont know why. But we pretty much had sex every other day for about 10 days and it works for us. But ask your doc if they can suggest any further testing for you AND your DH to make sure its not something one of you is over looking.

[Mammaof3boys]

Hi there, thank you for your response.  I know that stress has a lot to do with it, that's exactly how I got pregnant with my first, I gave up, we went away and bam, got pregnant with no effort...maybe a need a really long vacation from work...would be nice...I know that' most of my stress, being at work when I would rather be at home with my kids.  Anyhow my blood levels are all excellent so its not hormonal either...my last miscarriage, I got a heartbeat at 6 weeks and was so excited...now the Dr. said this has nothing to do with it but I had a fall about 5 days after my 6 week ultrasound...I did not fall down a lot of stairs, I only fell down one but the fall was really bad, I thought I broke my ankle, I could not get up..I had some brown spotting the next day but because I spotted with my 3rd pregnancy thought nothing, the following week had a bit of brown spotting again, thought nothing...started feeling less tired (was really really tired)...started feeling less nausious....all this by about 8 to 9 weeks...my 2nd day back at work after my maternity leave, I started to bleed, I started to miscarry the next day...it was awful and I never want to go through that again,,,,I was not even sure if I wanted to try again in case it happened again, Dr. told me it happened from time to time because the baby misses a step in developing...I had mixed thoughts, first I thought for sure it was the fall and the shock of the fall did this, then I thought maybe it was a girl and my body can't carry a girl ( I have 3 boys and had one very early miscariage at 4 weeks before my 3 rd son)...now I just say it was God's way of taking my baby into heaven and hope he blesses me once more with a healthy beautiful child.  What are you worried about?  

[allip68]

In my limited experience, stress has a lot to do with fertility in any given month.  When I was trying to get pregnant last winter, I didn't.  When I gave up (mostly because I thought it was too late) and thought I was going through menopause, I got pregnant.  You are putting pressure on yourself because you want to space your children perfectly but I would try my best if I were you to relax.  What's the big difference in the scheme of life if your children are 2 or 2 1/2 or 3 years apart?  It's hard, I know, but if you can try to relax - exercise helps reduce stress - it might work in your favor.  
May I ask a question about your miscarriage at 11 weeks?  Did you have any signs/symptoms that you were going to miscarry?  Had you seen a heart beat at previous ultrasound appointments and was it normal?  I'm 8 weeks and just a bit worried.  Thanks.