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1008869 tn?1283961257

When is it OK to get excited and be relieved?

Instead of this daily worry...is there a time when you worry no longer?  

I see many feel ok after they hear a heartbeat or 12 weeks but then  sometimes things happen weeks later.  

When is the safe time to feel ok about a healthy pregnancy and not worry about loss? Is this an ongoing feeling?

I am excited in 2 weeks to see the HB but at the same time, the worry consumes me.
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1008869 tn?1283961257
Adgal~

If this kid is anything like I was growing up, I would be a worried parent until the kid was 40...lol!   I was a terror even at 21!

Sounds like a good plan to take steps/milestones..that really makes sense. Thanks all!
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377493 tn?1356502149
I am thinking around age 21, when they are hopefully somewhat independant.  Of course, I have no doubt that brings a whole new slew of things to worry about.  As for the pregnancy, I had set milestones and goals for myself.  Things like seeing the heartbeat, making it through first trimester, first trimester screen, the amnio results were a big thing for me.  I found that by acknowledging and celebrating all these events it brought me some relief from the worry.  Not sure if I am making sense, but hopefully it sort of does.  Good luck!!
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631676 tn?1333718203
every woman and every pregnancy is different. if you are ready to celebrate, then go ahead. it is a life on the way, so i say it deserves 110% of your love and excitement. yes the sad truth is many people go public and then MC. but you cannot go by the bad luck of other people. after all, remember back in the day when we met a new boyfriend we jumped in whole heartedly. this is so much more. good luck.
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1008869 tn?1283961257
LOL....I guess I have plenty of years to continue to worry!!
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353148 tn?1293061164
LOL... I agree w/ ita17. I have 2 teens and I still worry. One is starting to drive and it worrys me alot! It's just part of being a parent. I'm 18 weeks PG right now, and I listen to the baby's HB 3-4 times a day w/ a doppler. I worry when I don't feel her move, when I have a pain. I'm even worried about having her in the winter. Will she get sick? Then I worry about my worrying. Is it effecting the baby? It just never ends. Once she is born there will be a whole new list of worrys, and as she grows they will change but there will always be something to worry about.
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958842 tn?1266512599
I would say NEVER ;)  & it will NEVER stop! LOL  I have a 13, 11 & 7 year old & my husbands family teases us that we don't even let our kids walk to the mailbox w/out us being outside!
BUT I tend to be "careful"!  & when you're pg, you worry.....in labor you worry.......in the hospital you worry (that they don't switch your baby!;) then the first few months you worry that they are breathing............it never stops, I think it's pay back for us worrying our parents! lol
BUT you CAN enjoy your pregnancy, & that part is fun!!!! ;)
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Avatar universal
It is nice to think it will end but in truth it never does!!  Even after they are born you will just worry about other things, like sids and is your baby safe, is she getting enough nutrition, will she get the flu, etc...
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374593 tn?1257879950
After 4 early losses and fertility problems.. we are finally 31 weeks pregnant with a healthy little girl.. however i defintely still worry! I think i will finally bvreath a sigh of relief when she is out and in my arms!!! and then a different type of worrying starts i hear!   I thought id be better at 12 weeks as well, however i started bleeding at 12 weeks, so worrying didnt stop then!    However, i do try to enjoy every second of it at all times and just pray she will get here nice and healthy! GOOD LUCK and congats!
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Avatar universal
I will be 20 weeks pregnant tomorrow - I'm almost halfway there.

Me and my DH started to get excited the day we got the BFP. We agreed to not tell anyone until we hit the 12 week mark - I considered that a big hurdle. I thought my concerns would just go away at 12 weeks. That being said, I still worry and I don't think I will be completely relieved until the baby is here.
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