pregnancy @45

[wengfvalondo]

hello everybody. first, i want to apologize because my story is quite long. well i got married at the age of 24 but since i have an irregular menstruation was not able to get pregnant until i reached the age of 39. we were so excited and happy but on my 8th month i had an unexpected labor and gave birth the natural way but my baby boy died 12 hrs after birth. i was so devastated and suffered depression. after a year, just when i was beginning to recover, i got pregnant again.. turned out to be ectopic and got an operation to remove my right tube. another year passed.. i got pregnant again.. this time, it was blighted and i underwent d&c. two years passed, last year i got another blighted pregnancy and underwent d&c again just this january 2010. as of this posting i am 5 weeks pregnant again... i'm so scared and worried that this will be another unsuccessful pregnancy. can anyone give me enlightenment, will i still be able to have my own baby?

[keenie009]

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this! I know how you feel because I too have had several losses! God is in control! You are in my prayers!

[wengfvalondo]

My husband and I had a serious talk last night and we decided that we're not trying anymore.. we had enough emotional struggles.. maybe we're just not meant to have a baby. I'm very grateful that God gave me a very loving and supportive husband that I don't have the right to complain. Thanks because I know I gained a lot of friends here. Good luck to all of you especially those who are still trying.

[babydust2009]

I just wanted to say that I am very sorry for your loss..  I have had 2 MC in the past 4 months.. Now we are going to try Donor Egg.. God Bless you.  My prayers are with you and your DH.... Mary..:)

[SoCalTricia]

OMG...I'm so, so sorry. I just read this thread, and I was hoping you'd get a miracle. You've been through so much. Again - nothing I can say except I'm sorry.

Tricia

[wengfvalondo]

Bad news... I went in for a follow-up ultrasound earlier today and we found out that there is no more heartbeat... I'm now waiting to miscarry naturally... Thanks for all your prayers and support.

[wengfvalondo]

Thanks to all of you. It makes me feel good to know that I have friends here who are ready to help in whatever way you can and I know you are praying for me and my baby too. Naturschld thank you very much for sharing your own experience with me, it made a lot of difference. I will update you again after my next ultrasound. I'm really hopeful and I'm trying to be positive always. Thanks again...

[naturschld]

When they did my ultrasound at 6wk2d the heartrate was exactly the same as yours.  They didn't say much about it, other than mentioning it was a little slow and the dr seemed really upbeat.  He did schedule the next ultrasound for a week later to check on it.  It went way up by then and I'm 25 wks along now.  Hopefully you have the same results, you've had a hard time of it so far.  I wonder if you could get them to move it up a week, for your piece of mind.  Stressing about it for an extra week can't be good for you or the baby.  Sending lots of positive vibes and SSBD your way!

[Allip77]

I'm wishing you the best of luck with this pregnancy.  You've had a long road and I know are ready for your baby.

[adgal]

Hi there, and thanks so much for letting us know how you are doing.

At that stage, that is a low heartrate.  However, I have seen that before, then next post everything was normal.  The heart starts beating anywhere between 5 1/2 and 6 1/2 weeks, so being 6w2d maybe yours just started.  It has to start somewhere!  I would stay hopeful!!  Keeping everything crossed for you!!  Take care.

[wengfvalondo]

hi everybody. i've been to my first pre-natal visit last sat, oct 23.. i went thru a trans-vaginal ultrasound and we found out that i'm 6w/2d on the way but my baby's heart rate is only 88bpm. i'm so scared right now that this will lead to another miscarriage. as of today i'm not having any spotting and i don't feel any cramping but my doctor advised me to bed rest and take duphaston 3x a day for 1 week. ultrasound will be repeated after 2 weeks to see if there will be development. i'm so, so scared... any enlightenment from you... thanks.

[wengfvalondo]

thanks to all of you.. thank you for the encouraging words. i still didn't visit my OB because i'm trying to find a new one. i'm already not comfortable with my regular OB.. will update you after my first pre-natal visit. thanks again.

[adgal]

I too am so sorry for what you have been through.  How painful to miscarry that many times, especially to lose one at 8 months.  I can only imagine your devestation.

I can tell you that I too have suffered multiple miscarriages...5 in total in about a two year time frame.  My 6th pregnancy resulted in a healthy amazing baby boy (born just a week before my 41st birthday).  No reason was ever really found for my multiple losses.

Yes, there is hope.  I wonder if they did any testing?  Even though no reason was ever found for mine, I was put on baby asprin and progesterone. I also take fish oil and of course prenatal vitamins with an extra calcium supplement.  I will never know if this is what did the trick, but I am using the same regime again as I try to conceive again.

I wish you well, and please let us know how you are doing.  

[trying43]

Hi, I am sorry for your losses.  I had 2 m/cs before I was able to have 2 successful pregnancies.  We waited awhile and began trying again and were unsuccessful for over a year.  We finally got pregnant with surgery and meds and everything is ok so far.  I know you have been through a lot but the positive out of all of this is you can get pregnant.  Try not to stress, I know its hard, and hopefully things will go ok.  Have your OB do bloodwork to make sure things are ok. (hcg and progesterone levels) It will give you an idea of how things are progressing.  If things dont work out(and please I am not trying to be negative at all) I would see an RE.  They do a lot more specialized testing than a regular OB does.  That is what I had to do this time in order to get pregnant.  Again I hope all goes well and Good luck to you.

[mjmom69]

Wow, I'm so sorry for all your losses. You are a very strong woman to have gone thru all of that. Has your doctor said your chances of losing this one are higher because of your past? I don't really have any idea of how it will go other than to say that many women on here have had multiple miscarriages and gone on to have a healthy pregnancy. I wish you all the luck in the world and hope that everything works out great. Take care.