young girls having sex

[2wonderfulboys]

Ok, I just checked out the 20 and under pregnancy forum and I am so very upset!  Why are these girls getting pregnant so young?  Don't their parents even talk to them?  I don't understand a 13 year old having sex and then asking if she could be pregnant?!  A 17 year old with twins!  They don't use protection, don't they realize they could get an STD or AIDS?  Where are the parents?   Wake up America and talk to our children, boys and girls, they really need the help and also some help on spelling also :)

[40smama]

I agree w/pertykitty - 11 year old children shouldn't be allowed to carry a pregnancy.  I too am depressed but because of very bad news and I'll share when I can get it together.  

[pertykitty]

hel.l no they didnt respond lol.  im sure if i had not been so maternal they might have answered me, but the week is still early haha.  

im depressed, i ate the most wonderful ice cream 2 times in the past 4 days lol. marble slab ice cream is gods second best invention! haha.  so much for my good eating habits....

[leighanne143]

ok at 11 years old, that is just unthinkable to me too.  who in their right mind allowed their child to have a baby at that age?  i swear i might know 11 year olds that wet the  bed...j/j.  i would not have allowed my 11 year old to carry a baby.  that could have killed that 11 year old, he body in no way shape or form was ready to handle that kind of trauma.  also i would love to know the age of the boy she was with, i would smack the **** out of him.

melimeli- just because i am "only" 25 is not the reason why i appear to disagree.  i do not disagree with you ladies that these girls should not be having babies at a young age, i fully agree that they should be waiting.  i would never give TTC info to anyone younger than 22.  But i do believe that these youngs girls are crying for help and if i can persaude them to have safe sex, since they will not stop having sex just cause we say so, well then i am going to promote BC, condoms etc anything i can.  that was all i was urging the ladies here to help with. many of you ladies have great wisdom for these young girls and if you have the time to stop into that forum for 5 minutes a week, that was all i was saying to be done.

also i am wiser beyond my age and do not need to defend being 25 in the least bit.  I know what i have, how much i have succeeded and what i have been through.

pertykitty- i am glad you took what i said with a grain of salt, it was never meant to offend anyone. I am just a blunt person.   i think it is great that you popped into the forum.  i commend you for that.  did any of the girls respond back to you??? i find that many of them just read the posts and sometimes do not respond back, but other times they will.

[melimeli]

funny how all the young ones think we are so wrong... I though I knew everything at 20 too... wonder if they will change their point of view when they reach their mid 30s  

[Rosa20]

you can all keep posting your opinions as much as you think you need to..thats not what im saying at all....i think everyone is entitled to there own opinion...and im not a nurse and i never looked at it like that!! I dont think 11 year olds should even be having sex...like i said it is very disturbing that an 11 year old have a baby..i didnt start my period until i was like 13 so i am very amazed that there are actually 11 year olds having sex...probably earlier then that i might add.....i got pregnant at 15 and ended up having my baby at 16....it was very very hard...and even then i was no way ready to give birth to a child.....even tho i was older i still classified myself as a baby having a baby!! I am now 20 and even now with this pregnancy i find it very hard...every post that is posted over there in regards to teens asking how to get pregnant.,..i tell them my story and how hard it was in hopes they will change there mind and in no matter do i tell them how to conceieve!! And if it was my daughter that got pregnant at 11 i would prob be the same way...i to do not agree with abortion....but i do believe that support is the best....at any age,..think about it...her health was at risk but my guess is that was the choice she made with or without her parents....sence her parents were being supportive im guessing they were involved in her decision...that and the fact she is only 11!!! But like i said thats just my opinion...as i said above everyone on here can post what they what..its what the forum is for..support....opinions, thoughts and help...so post away!! lol

[pertykitty]

cluck cluck, i dont offend easy lol.  i searched the archives but the posts were removed. it doesnt matter at this point, we are all going to keep posting our opinions and feel the way we do.  

11 yr olds parents supportive??? here goes the bomb and ill drop it, she should have never been allowed to CARRY that baby to term.  my son is 10, how the hell can a child carry a baby and understand what it is doing to her and physically deliver it without the possibility of death?  

rip me a new one if you dont agree, but there isnt a way id put my childs life in jeapordy because of a pregnancy.   not a fan of abortion but a fan of my kids health!

[Rosa20]

i completly agree,.,,that having kids young should be prevented but you know what...i think its great that the 11 years olds parents were there to support her....thats the very youngest iver ever heard of and it is distubing..but dont you think that in the end its better for them to have the support then to have none and prob evd up on the street with that poor baby who never asked to be brought into the world...im not here to fight or start an argument i just wanted to state that even tho it should be prevented sometimes no matter what teens will do w.e they want!  I think teen pregnancy need just as much support as anyone whois prengant weither its 11(which im still wowed at) to 40 odd...support is the best way to help them !

[leighanne143]

well regggie unfortunately i am a very honest person and sometimes the truth can be perceived as rude.  it was not my intention, i am just honest and out spoken i guess.  

[Regggie]

I know what "clucking" means. I just thought it was rude.

[fibromama]

No problem,,, some people just dont get it,,,I guess they need a little lesson in life before its understood.  

Ive noticed the ones who have a problem with this posting still continue to post?  

some thrive on drama.

[maybebaby29]

I think the whole 'you can't prevent it' can be b.s. to some. I know when I was a teen I wouldn't even dream about premarital relations because my parents would have killed me. The fear alone was reason enough not to date or even try anything with boys. I didn't do it until I was 19 and don't regret waiting. However, I will say I was stupid and that was partially my parents fault. While they were good at putting fear into me, they were also good at controlling me and refused to let me go on birth control pills. I remember when I moved back at 27 temporarily. My mom got a call from the pharmacist to confirm and she made him tell her what it was for. She threw a fit thinking that birth control pills caused cancer (they did in her day) and went in my purse and threw out the remaining bunch I had! The idiot didn't realize (or remember) that I was on them strictly for medical reasons. My periods were do bad I had to go on them. It wasn't a birth control option for me.

But I will say for my children, I am pushing education and putting the fear into them not to do anything until they're 18. It's not worth ruining your life with committments of a baby and a serious relationship before then.

[2wonderfulboys]

Thanks!!!  I am only curious and I don't understand this crazy world we live,  but I can see that it needs lots and lots of help!  I appreciate the fact that you "got" my intentions, I was only trying to see how people felt and boy did I get some difference of opinions :)

[Tennesseegirl]

some people started singing it not knowing what it was, then they started singing it forever just because... this is the song that never ends...ah.. I believe thats lambchop!

[leighanne143]

regggie, yeah you never heard of clucking like hens?????

i did see that pertykitty went into the 20 and under forum,  good job perty, at least you got to see that it is not a bunch of girls askign TTC questions.  it is mostly scared teenagers that made a mistake and are begging for someone to steer them in the right direction.  so why don't we all try to be those someones who help steer?

[Regggie]

"Clucking?".....

[fibromama]

"2wonderfulboys" thought this was a subject she would like to bring up and if people keep comming in with there opinions and ideas and so on,,then so be it.  This is a place to talk about many things,,by many people,,at many times.  Just like with any question posted on Medhelp shes looking for advice,,support and answers.

[leighanne143]

pertykitty- who is giving sex tips to minors?

AGAIN instead of sitting on here clucking, maybe it's time to drop the subject and help out.  but guess that is not able to happen cause the maturity level is just not there.

I am totally done with this now because the wheels keep spinning but we aint getting no where.
I will leave you with a great quote i heard today "He/she who never makes mistakes, never did anything that's worthy."
we all learn form our mistakes and some of these young ladies asking for help made mistakes.

[fibromama]

I was 20 when I had my first kid and 23 when I had my next and then had a tubal ligation.  The man I had my kids with is my husband.  The only thing that gets to me is when I see a 18yr old girl complaining that her kids father is not paying child support and shes oh so mad at this.  And then having nerve to give sexual advice and pregnancy advice to other people older than her and younger.  I just dont get it.  

[pertykitty]

giving sex tips to a minor IS morally wrong!

i agree that some parents are idiots and will not take action when their kids are at fault.  we had some 10yr and 13ish yr olds break into a school in the area where i live.  they did hundreds of thous. of dollars in damage.  spray painted, broke all the computers, it was repulsive that these kids were able to get out of their house at night and do this!! the mom (whos words had to be translated) said if she knew they were going to do this she wouldnt have let them go.  wtf?? they were as young as 10, what did they need to be doing out at night???  the parents also hid the computer he stole in an orchard, good parenting skills there!

if any of you want to show immaturity by making fun, go ahead, shows how your skills just might be lol

[40smama]

I just thought of something that irks me is that a parent that does not take responsibility when his/her child messes up.  For example, say your child goes into someone's home and brings alchohol (I can't spell tonight) & is underaged - let's say 14.  He's caught & you're called.  You acknowledged it's alchohol..  When it comes out later that this happened, you deny it and call the parents who caught him a liar.  You child has no consequences ot speak of & gets off virtually scott-free.  He makes no apology to the offending parents nor has any punishment.

This actually happened (as you can guess).  I was the offending parent who caught two children & the parents didn't do a darned thing.  THAT'S what irks the heck out of me!!!

I can think of a million more examples of parents who don't have their children make any sort of restitution & certainly you can read about them in the newpapers or hear about it on TV.  Children mess up - it's what happens afterwards is what's important in my opinion.

We have a community leader (pcarsey) - I don't think we have a moderator per say although the forum is moderated by medhelp.

[leighanne143]

i thought that is why each forum has a moderator to check in and see if anything is not going well.

what is morally wrong to one might not be to others, so we can not be making personal judgement calls.

38yroldprego- totally agree with you, BARNEY all the way, the song that does not end.

[pertykitty]

i am going to show you all what i mean.  i will go over and lend my wisdom and see if i can turn a bad situation into a good one. never happened before but im willing to either have a positive reaction or prove myself to be right. lol.   it just needs someone to monitor what is being posted, to drop the posts regarding questions that are morally wrong for others to do. here i go!  when addy goes back to bed late.r

[melimeli]

melissa we are obligated by law to report and I do... it is just seen over and over again..

[leighanne143]

thank you 40smama for popping in there and seeing it is not as bad as people think.

i also think that the girls in that forum do not always look at the age of the person that is responding, so i encourage you all to still pop in and give your wisdom.