16 & Pregnant! Advice?

[justinsgirlrachel]

I am 16 and 11 weeks pregnant. I'm scared of what to do.. its a product of rape but don't feel bad for me as I was not a virgin before the rape anyways.. my boyfriend and I want a baby of our own and don't know what we will do with this baby.. we think we will keep it. Any advice for a scared teen mom to be?

[brit0585]

Technically because you are only 16 we should not be giving advise but you do need to report it for certain and talk to your parents. Its a huge responsibility to take on a baby but your parents will be able to help more.

[FirstTymeMommii]

Anything is possible. I have a friend who had her first child, due to rape as well, at 16 too.. Her and her boyfriend decided to keep her baby.. Now she is a Nursing Graduate, completing both undergraduate and graduate school with 3kids.. two between her and her boyfriend and her first child from the rape incident. It took them a while but they got through it. :) it will take strength and hope. So if you do decide to keep it you must prepare yourself for the worst! Good Luck

Just a little hope!

[GracieLayla]

I agree that if you think you and your boyfriend are too young to keep the baby, you should give it up for adoption.  I had my first child at 28 and that was hard for us to manage both having full time teaching jobs.  I couldn't imagine being a mom so young.  You need time to finish high school and go to college and get your life on track before having children.  I have several friends who have gone through fertility treatments and are on adoption waiting lists because they can't have children and it is heartbreaking.  Adoption would give a stable couple a chance to have something they cannot.  You and your boyfriend could have a baby together when you are older and more prepared.  You could even have an open adoption if that makes you feel better about it.  I am 31, was the product of a one night stand and my birthmother choose to give me up for adoption over abortion our keeping me and raising me on her own when she knew she was too young and not financially able to do so.  I am grateful fire that decision as i am alive and had wonderful adoptive parents.  Its a tough decision but think about what would be best for the baby and what would give the baby the best quality of life.

[Toni100388]

I agree with mommyofaria! Just because u were not a virgin does not mean that rape is okay by any means necessary. Please don't continue thinking that because that is not the case at all. My advice to u is 1. Report this rape. By letting it go, is allowing another young lady to be a victim as well. 2. talk to someone in your family that you trust about it. Then you pray on what's the best thing to do and hold ur head up from there. May God bless ya hunny.

[LanesMommy1012]

I do not believe in abortion, it is not your babys fault, and regardless this is your baby. If you don't want to parent the child there are plenty of familys who cannot conceive on there own, my dad and his wife couldn't conceive so we adopted 4 little girls. But you have to decide if you are strong enough to give your baby up. Another thing to think of,  if you weren't a virgin when you were raped, you can't be sure if the baby is not your boyfriends. So if you were to abort, you could be aborting your boyfriends baby, and if you abort there is always a chance you'll not be able to conceive again. Also at 11 weeks your babys heart it beating and they are moving. No one here can tell you what to do, you have to do what your heart tells you to. But in my opinion, your baby deserves a chance. They didn't ask to be a product of rape. They just want someone to love them. Good luck with your decision.

[meccah24]

Talk to your parents,report the rape its very serious that you get the creep off the streets its not ok for him to violate you.

[mommyofaria]

It doesn't matter if you were a virgin or not NO ONE..I MEAN NO ONE has that right to take advantage of you!!! Never ever feel like just because you aren't a virgin that It's ok.....rape is NEVER justified. The only advice we can give it do with You feel in your heart is right.....that would be my best advice to YOu...good luck!

[katierylenava]

I was 19 when I had my first child. I really didn't know what to expect or what to do. My advice is to get books and read up One thing I should of done. Its a big responsibility to have a child but you can do it if its really what you want. It will make you grow up so fast. But for me it's the best thing that ever happened to me. I don't know where I would be if I didn't have my son. Its really something special the bond you have with your child. But just be sure your ready for it because it will change everything. Rape or not a child is a child and should be loved the same. I'm not saying it was a good thing you were raped cuz that's horrible. I hope everything works out for you. Message me if you want to talk or have any questions.

[angelmom324]

Talk to your parents about it