ABORTION - everyone read

[JoyRenee]

I wrote this post about abortion awhile ago. I'm copying and pasting. Every single one of you read it:


This is a note to everyone. We've had a few random abortion-related posts recently and I'm shocked by many responses. This is a controversial subject so the best way to approach such posts is in a neutral or loving manner. It doesn't matter if you're pro-life, pro-choice or are on the fence in your beliefs. The fact is someone is coming here seeking help and we need to offer support regardless of your personal views.

I am extremely pro-life so I volunteered a crisis pregnancy center about a year ago. I took a few courses on how best to speak with someone who is contemplating abortion or how to help support someone who has had one in the past. People- the way you speak to them is in love and support. You can talk to them about the baby they are carrying ("Did you know your baby has a heartbeat and can wave their tiny little arms and legs?") or even how abortion procedures are done if they want to know and you can even help encourage adoption. But in no way can you harass them, judge them or attack their character.

Also, abortion is a pregnancy-related topic even if it is hurtful to many women with fertility issues (like me) or who are actively TTC. Women contemplating abortion ARE pregnant. Therefore they are allowed to post their questions here and get the same support as all of you. Many times they are scared, confused, don't know what to do, desperate, etc. and just need a sounding board. Typically women who as thinking about abortion don't REALLY want to do it because if they did they wouldn't waste time getting opinions on forums. They are simply looking for alternatives and are scared. In the past we've had many women choose to keep their babies rather than abort because our members posted in such amazing and loving ways, offering support. That is how you save unborn babies; not by attacking them or throwing YOUR beliefs in their face. These women don't care what you believe- they just need options.


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If you cannot find something helpful to say then please refrain from posting on abortion-related posts. Thank you!

Joy
Community Leader

[julianovak]

I agree! I tried my best to keep my cool on that topic this last post! =) TRied my best !

[NicMom]

Agree, agree, agree!!!

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Well said Joy...as always

[Leyisel21]

COMPLETLY AGREE!!!!! thank you for posting it! Every woman has an option.

[mami2karina]

I also agree! I'm glad you posted this. I have had 6 miscarriages in the past, and personally don't believe in abortion. But even after my last miscarriage, I was supporting and helping my best friend who found out she was pregnant a week after we lost out twins. She had decided she didn't want to have the baby. I never got angry or upset with her. I took her to a crisis pregnancy center that is Christian based, it didn't change her mind. She knew it was bothering a lot. But scheduled her abortion appt. I said I'd go with her because she didn't have anyone else to take her. Monday we went to the crisis pregnancy center for her ultrasound and we saw a perfect 10w4d fetus with a HB of 173bpm, waving at us and wiggling all around! She decided to keep her baby. All you can do is be as supportive as possible. God has his way of handling things, or whatever greater being you believe in. I could have abandoned my friend and said mean hurtful things to her to make her feel like a terrible person for what she wanted to do. But I didn't, I stood beside her, in all my hurt and jealously, and I was her friend, the friend she very much needed. And thank God, he has blessed us with a new pregnancy that seems to be going great so far! And now she and I will get to be pregnant and experience all of these joys together. Abortion is a hard topic for alot of people. But they do need help, you never know if she was raped or is beaten. You just never know.

[chantal21]

I agree. We really do need to be more supportive to those people and give them advice and tell them their options rather than throw our beliefs at them.

[JoyRenee]

I want to add that MedHelp is not creating a forum for abortion; the subject of doing so has been brought up time and again so I thought I'd nip that suggestion in the bud.