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Abortion Please help Urgent
Girls i really need ur help i have a 2 yr old and am a single parent am 7wks pregnant and considering havin an abortion the man am pregnant for left me and went back to his counrty.  i dont know wat to do i think an abortion is right for my situation.  any suggestions
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279415 tn?1217375230
it is perfectly possible to be a single parent and raise 2 or more children by yourself.  If you are sure that you dont want to keep this baby you could always consider adoption.  Abortion is something that you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life, it is a matter that should be taken very seriously.  Good luck with the decision that you make, and I really think you should condsider it a little more before you decide.
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I dont know i had 2 abortions when i was younger the last one took a toll on me cause i felt everythin i was awake and i cried so days and regret it but i dont want to put another child through this stress my son is goin through it now wid hsi father.
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hey kinda know how u feel, i think im pregnant n my bf left me, but abortion really isnt right. im not tryin to force u into anythin, its ur call but its killin a baby, even if its his its still yours too. so if u really dont want to take care of this one then put the kid up for adoption, then u dont have to raise it but the kid will still live. its your choise n sry if this sounds mean at all, i just dont like abortion lol n my bf tried to talk me into abortion, i dont think its right, and also if ur asking other ppl then u can be too sure if its right so just think it over and consider adoption, thanks =D and good luck
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i just think you need to do what is right for you and your family. i do not believe in abortions, but it is your decision. this is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life. do you have parents or family that can help you? does the father know your pregnant? his family might have something to say about it. maybe his parents or siblings would want the child. you might want to discuss it with them. just looking through these forums, i know there are tons of women who would love to have a baby, and are having a tough time concieving, who have had miscarriages and tubal pregnancies after trying for years. what any one of them would give to have two healthy babies!! some would consider you lucky, not cursed!!!

good luck to you. keep us posted.
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272759 tn?1270489194
i agree with skylynns mom.  it is a very big decision.  there are so many families out there that would love to give your baby the life that he/she deserves.  i imagine that it would be hard to carry a baby 9 mths and then give him/her up.  however, there are so many couples that are unable to have children that would raise your baby like their very own.  on the other hand, maybe you will decide to keep your second child and focus on raising your two little children.  it seems that you really had a hard time with your abortions (i can't imagine going thru that) so maybe after you make your decision, you should focus on a form of birth control that suits you best as it seems that you definitely aren't trying to conceive.  i wish you the best of luck!  
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Just so you know theres a lot of couples out there good people that would be willing to do open adoptions.Just a suggestion if you really don't want another child.
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311782 tn?1222099745
to be honest i was on birth control and i came off.  I havent been having se wid anyone so i just had sex once and became pregant the father left me and went back to his native counrty he knew i was pregnant and told me to have an abortion i spoke to his mother and she say some **** i ask her for a number where i can reach him and she say he aint got no number which is a lie  i feel as though he told her something and she aint want to tell me cause its not good so she say she aint sayin anything its my decision and she stayin out of it.  after hearin this i call my father and told him and his wife and they gave me the third degree about wat i went through wid my son this made me feel so bad after all of this i then decided the best for me to do is get he abortion i was lookin for support from the mother meanin she would tell him to call me and try to work it out but instead i got silence which made me feel bad
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thank again u guys u help me alot am goin to be strong in wat decison i make
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i just hope you don't make a decision based on your anger towards the ******* that got you pregnant. your baby is completely innocent, and your dad may give you a hard time, but that because he is scared for you. if money was no matter, would you have this baby?
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i am really sorry that you are in this position.  there is no sense in your family giving you the third degree.  it's too late for that now.  you are in the situation and the best thing they can do is support you.  you need to weigh out your choices and think long and hard.  the father is clearly not going to be involved if he left the country.  he doesn't sound like a responsible young man so maybe it's for the better.  abortion may seem to be the "easiest route", however, do you really think you could go through that again??  it's your decision, but it's not something that i would consider.  do you mind me asking your age?  do you live by yourself with your son?  maybe you can call around to some adoption agencies for support and advice.  if you looked into adoption you could make good of the pain you are feeling now.  you could be giving a couple a gift that they have been hoping so long for.  i know you feel bad now and then next 9 mths carrying the child would be hard for you.  however, years down the road you could look back and feel good that you gave your baby to someone who will love him/her and you would feel peace in knowing that you helped start a beautiful family for someone else.  i'm not trying to tell you what to do...i am just trying to come from a different perspective.  you need to take time to think about what you want to do.  right now you are in the heat of it all and feeling forced to make a quick fix because your family is giving you a hard time and the father has ditched you.  take some time to let the clouds pass a bit...make sure you think about your choices as it is a very important decsion.  
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I was 19 when I had my daughter, abortion was never an option for me, I was a single parent until i met my fiance, my daughter has never met her s per m donor, which is for the best.  I am 21 years old and we are doing fine.  There are so many resources that you could look into to help you raise your children happily and healthy.  What state do you live in?  If keeping the baby is still not an option and money is you could always consider the type of adoption where the adoptive parents pay for all the cost.  There are just so many other options other then abortion.  Anyway whatever you decide after you have the baby or the abortion think about getting an IUD its a form of birth control that last 5-7years and there is no thinking invovled.  If you were to do that you would never have to be in a situation like this again until you wanted to be.
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There are people that would do anything to be able to get pregnant or to have a child. It is your decision, but like some women said, adoption is a much better option. Stop thinking about yourself for one minute, and think of the baby. I know you are in a really tough position, but ending an innocent life would never be an option for me. Good luck!
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believe me, abortion is not the best option. i have been doing research on it for a paper for school. you really dont want to deal with all the side effects. theres possible infertility, post partuam depression, and several other things that could happen to you. not to mention what they do to the baby. abortion may seem like a good idea, but stop and think, u have one child already. could you really live with the guilt of honestly killing ur own child? sorry not trying to be harsh but thats what it is. after the pictures i have seen of abortions i can't even stand the thought of it. its not humane. its extremely cruel. they can poison the baby, tear all the limbs off and remove it, plus numerous other procedures and none of them looked even slightly ok.
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Just think that at I think 8 weeks the fetus is capable of feeling pain.Your not very far from that.
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What most people don't sympathize with is that when a woman is at the time where she might be considering abortion because of her circumstances..her pregnancy hormones are just starting to wreak havoc on her thoughts and emotions. Makes it so hard to make a life changing decision. I suffer from clinical depression which does NOT hit me all the time, but when it does it leaves me unable to function for short periods of time. My family forced me into two abortions that made my hormones and depression unbelievably worse,hospitalized, and feeling terrible loss. I went on to have two beautiful children despite my what nasty things my family said about my parenting capabilities .They now love those children more than anything just as I do. I won't give you a speech against abortion like others will, I don't know what you're views are on life or religion or anything like that. I will just tell you that I wish my experiences with abortion had never happened and that I had had more strength at the time and stood up to my family. You have it in YOU to accomplish anything you put your mind to. Now I have two beautiful boys that I raise on my own and we are doing fine. If you want to keep this baby, there is always help out there for you. Don't ever be ashamed to use it. They help with food, diapers, clothes, advice and suggestions,even financial help occasionally if you really need it. Just follow your heart sweetie. Good luck!
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am 25 and live wid my son i guess an abortion feels right in my situation but i know if i get one i will lost my mind for the est of my life i have been there its not great either that can lead to pain and loss or suicide.  thank u all so much i cried after reading wat u all wrote it touch the spot am so scard i promise to never let this happen to me again and it did my sister tell me she is there for me is also pregnant to and goin through stuff i dont know girls today will determine my next step.
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