Accepting his other child

[Taveon_Mom]

I have two boys by my baby father he has a daughter that's 5 months younger then my 10 month year old son and I'm currently carrying his fourth child. His daughter is the only girl out of three boys we plan on getting back together to raise our three boys together. Am I suppose to accept his daughter if so how cause me and her mom don't like each other but the baby going be coming to the house once I move in with him

[Taveon_Mom]

Thankyou all you all are right I actually wanted a daughter but God blessed me with three boys so I will definitely accept her as mine cause she a sweet heart and do Lil girl stuff with her since her mom chooses to give her to other people

[cnertl]

The "playing step mommy" bit is sort of bothersome to me. If you are going to be in his life than you are going to be in hers, there is no playing involved. She is a part of him and it's an all or nothing deal. Kids sense early on how people feel about them and it teaches them how to treat others. Like the other ladies said that little girl didn't ask to be made under bad conditions so if you can't find it in your heart to love her walk away from the relationship because the one who will stuffer the most is her and she is innocent in it all. I don't like my additional children's mother but that is not their fault so we are polite to one another for the children's benefit. Just have to put on your big girl panties and deal with it.

[alexis444]

Its not the little girls fault. Love her like she is one of your because when she gets older she will remember that you took her to go do fun mother daughter things and bought her stuff and loved her. Its sad her own mother can't do that but at least she will have you to show her. Your her step mom so to speak so it is your role to be her mother when she is with you, she will want to see that you love her as much as her brothers. It will have a huge impact on her life.

[CGutierrez813]

If your gonna be with him then you are gonna have to accept it .

[african_mama_bear]

The daughter has nothing to do with it you shouldn't take it out on her you just gone have to suck it up and y'all gone have to find a middle ground and be respectful towards each other for the kids if u were able to accept him back after he cheated and got someone else pregnant and that comes with the price of having to deal with both of them if u cnt do that then u shouldn't get back with him cause it'll just **** u off evertytime

[Taveon_Mom]

Yeah I understand it just hurts that he got another girl pregnant while I was 6 months pregnant but I'm slowly getting over it and gonna welcome her in our home. I also wanna buy things for her take her to do Lil girl stuff cause her mom is a terrible mom but I also don't wanna feel like I'm trying take over is that doing to much?  Not trying play step mommy to nobody child when I have three of my own

[diachong]

*I mean it doesn't matter if you and the mom don't get along

[diachong]

Yes of course you have to accept his daughter, you not liking his baby mom has nothing to do with it. If you choose to be with a man that has other kids then you have to accept all his children and treat them equal to the kids you have together. It doesn't matter if you and the mom don't get together that has nothing to do with the baby, she didn't ask to be in this situation so she needs to be loved and accepted like the other kids.