Hey guys!!! I just wanted to give you guys a tip when someone comes on here asking about abortion. We all have our beliefs and the majority of us here are pro-life. When someone is questioning abortion they are either 1). a fake poster, or 2). they are really scared and confused. They have come for support. And while it is a pregnancy forum, not an abortion forum, they have come to find comfort, love, support, a WAY OUT of their seemingly disasterous situation.
If we say, "This is what I believe..." it is not going to be an effective tool in helping her to make a decision. Just because we believe it doesn't mean they believe it too. Defenses will go up. She doesn't care what WE believe, she wants to know how we can HELP.
Tread carefully and lightly. Speak about the baby inside of her, show her support, get her enthusastic... find a SOLUTION instead of just saying what you believe.
If a woman feels threatened, attacked, cornered, she will run and do the very thing we're asking her not to.
I am not speaking to any one specific person here as I did not read everyone's posts. So please do not become offended. I speak with girls at a crisis pregnancy center who are afraid of the future and of pregnancy. Our society has built this mentality that if something is wrong, all you have to do is abort it and the problems disappear. That is NOT true. We need to, in a loving manner, show these women that there are other options.
Also, if you've had an abortion, share your story of your heartache, regret, grief. It is stories like those that make a girl seriously ponder the decision she has to make.
Not everyone knows about the devastation abortion has not only physically, but MENTALLY and EMOTIONALLY. They are here asking questions for a reason. They want to be talked out of it, they want solutions.
So let's work TOGETHER, put our personal opinions aside, and love the women and the unborn baby. If we show her that she has support, not someone judging her, she is a hundred times more likely to take our advice.
And if she ends up getting an abortion, that was her choice and she'll live with it the rest of her life. Who are we to judge when we all have our own "sins"? It is ultimately the woman's decision. I am pro-life and I do not believe in abortion 100% but that doesn't matter to a girl who is frantic with worry and stress. What matters is that I care about her, her situation, and that I want to help.
So please, please! Let's work together and try to save those unborn babies selflessly. You all are wonderful, strong women with hearts of gold!!! I know you've got anguish and heartache, but we can work together to save other women of the grief a loss brings.
Thanks so much! Sorry this was so long. I just feel really passionately about this and really felt I should write this.