Almost offended..

[danielle72007]

Okay, so I know I worry.. and I know I shouldn't worry so much..maybe I shouldn't even call it worrying.. I experience something new and wonder if other people experienced the same thing.... I know I've heard my babys heartbeat and everything else and I'm not thinking oh I'm about to miscarry... I was simply asking about something new I felt.. I know I'm not being attacked but I feel like some are thinking oh she's just waiting for something bad to happen.. which I'm not.. I just wonder if others are going through the same thing..
and its hard not to have some concerns after a miscarriage.... many women on the forum have said the same thing..
I'm sorry if this offended anyone,

[Nadia77]

I don't feel offended at all  in fact I read all your posts as they may be applicable to me at some point so its good to know.... you are asking most suspected future questions in my mind :) best of luck and I am sure everything will be fine this time,,,,,

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Danielle, I read the posts I believe you are referring to, the comments themselves may have had good intentions but I still think they were rude nonetheless.  Take it in stride and try to understand that not everyone is understanding...some people just have no tact.  As for the rest of us, we understand.  Don't let those couple of comments discourage you.  As you can see from this string of replies the majority of us are with you 100%.  Next time you read a post like that just stick your tongue out and say "what a miserable person that must be" and move on :)

[Shannon125]

Please don't feel like you are wrong for worrying. I can understand where the worry comes from especially since you've suffered a miscarriage in the past. I have commented to you a couple of times so far and told you I am very similar to you in that all I can do is worry. We want NOTHING more than healthy happy babies and there is nothing wrong with being nervous or taking precautions. I can't believe someone said that all the negativity will start to happen. That's **** and you shouldn't take that. I don't take your worrying as negativity; to me it just confirms that you are going to be an amazing mother to your child because from day one since you found out you were pregnant nothing has been more important to you than keeping your baby safe.

[danielle72007]

Thank you.. and yeah sometimes I think about the same things.. I wondered hey am I going to make it to 12 weeks.. here I am 13 and I'm thinking about lets get alittle baby bump and hopefully soon start feeling some movements and such.. I'm starting to feel a little bit better about everthing.. I've been around so many miscarriages and things since I found I was pregnant so its made it a little worse.. A close friend of mine was a couple weeks behind me and had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, then the day I had found out was the same day that another friend of mines baby died from SIDS, then my mother's co-worker lost twins at 23weeks, they didn't realize at the hospital it was real labor, they thought it was false so they weren't able to do anything. I dont' know specifcs but thats what my mother told me.. than another friend miscarried at 16 weeks... its just soo much around 'm like ooo gosh... I pray every day tohave a healthy baby..

[miko_latte]

Hey, gurl, well don't feel bad because I thik it's completely normal to be concerned about your pregnancy.  I know I am still.  I'm 5 months already and I still have thoughts of "what if everything is fine but I miscarry at 8 months..." because ANYTHING can happen.  I hear about women miscarrying so far along in the pregnancy, and because it is a possibility, I'm worried.  Before I was reached 12 weeks, my concern was "What if I don't make it to 12 weeks" I reached 12 weeks and it was "What if my baby's not moving around" and now that I'm 5 months, "I'm like what if something happens and I give birth to a stillborn" and all these dreams I've been having of having a premature birth or my baby being dead...these fears show how worried I can be.  But, I want to enjoy every second of this pregnancy, and even though I have worries, I want to remember my pregnancy as a joyful one, you know?  But don't feel bad at all because we all have our worries and it's normal. I miscarried before too, so when I found out this time I was worrying my *** off too.  Good luck to you gurl!!!

[kcs08]

I dont know what was said but I remember people telling me not to worry so much (although I had major complication in my 2nd trimester like a fluid leak) but the best advice was that the pregnancy goes by so fast-which it does...so if you are constantly worrying so much you will not enjoy it.  So sit back, relax, and enjoy the pregnancy.  You are going to have lots of aches and pains for the next several months but if it's nothing SEVERE than no need to worry.  

[danielle72007]

Lol, no JoyRenee, it was not you.. I think I may have just taken a couple comments from a previous post of mine wrong....horomones maybe??? not really sure.. I just know that I'm on an emotional roller coaster...which is completely normal..

I know with time the whole me worrying over new symptoms or lack of symptoms will ease.. I think once the baby starts moving that I'll feel a lot better about it...and I wanted to say thank you to everyone for putting up with my **** lol

[JoyRenee]

What're you talking about, hon?! Was it someone on this forum? (Better not be me! LOL!)

[luvmybabes]

with my first pregnancy I was the same way. It's easy for others to say relax but hey you have the most precious thing in the world to you growing in your belly it's kinda hard to make light of it. I was very nervous my first pregnancy but I think once the baby starts moving and your feeling it ...it makes you feel so much better. It's funny because right when I would be thinking where is she I haven't felt her in a while so would kick my like " Ok mom don't have a meltdown here i am" LoL The beggining is always a little scary but like I said before for some reason  I have a good feeling about you and your baby  and I think you'll be just fine!! are you going to find out the sex of your baby?

[MomNpain]

Sweetie I truly hope no one said anything to you to make you feel that way. It's completely understandable and even expected. I was just about as much a worrier as you until I hit week 14. Then, I went to bed one night, I asked God to please watch over this baby and I promised myself from that moment on that I wouldn't worry unless I had a real reason to. I let Jesus take the wheel and I've felt so much better ever since. I don't know if you're spiritual or not, but I highly suggest asking for the strength to believe and have faith in knowing that you and your baby will be okay. When you hit 16, 17 and 18 weeks...you'll start to feel soooo much better. Then, once you hit 26,27,28...you'll feel loads better because around that time is when a baby can usually live outside the womb. So, if anything were to go wrong, there will still be that definite chance.


Just so you know, all of us are here for you. I care about every single one of these ladies deeply (including yourself) for putting up with all my **** (lol) and especially for those that have made me feel loads better by talking with me privately. So, if you ever want to email me, please, feel free to. Until then...just try to relax...you're just getting to the good stuff! =D

[MOM23ANGELS25F]

it is totally normal for you to be worrying especially after a m/c hon.... I felt it all the time after mine before I got pregnant.... It's normal hon.. Your not the only one... :-)

[Leanna26]

LOL I completely understand. Anyone around me hasn't been pregnant in a long time so they have forgotten what it feels like. I end up talking to my doc a lot about every and any worry I have, but thats the good thing... I always leave there feeling much better. ^_^

[danielle72007]

I know I'll relax..I am not looking for something to go wrong at all.. I feel that this baby will be fine, I just get worried sometimes and wonder who's feeling what and so forth.. it makes me feel better to have other women say yes thats perfectly normal I felt it or had it whatever it may be.. then to wonder hmm.. am I the only one..

[Leanna26]

I know how you feel. Im scared all the time. I have had 3 mc, and on my 4th pregnancy now. I have no children.

I worry about every little thing because I do not know what to expect... I had so many complications with all 3 of the past pregnancies.

I get in the mood sometimes where I just think something is wrong and poof... everything is alright with the baby. As time is going on I am relaxing more.

Don't worry you will relax more too.