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Am I the Dad?
A girl I was with 8 weeks 2 days ago gave me a call saying she was 7 weeks 3 days pregnant. She was dated by ultrasound sense she did not remember when her LMP started. Is there a good chance the baby is mine? She told me she started seeing someone and was with him at most a week later after me.
I'm certain he does. Her family knows about us and I doubt they'd let her do that to him.
Though I will agree with everyone that a DNA test ist he best option. If you do not want it to be your child and she doesnt want you involved, and you are okay with that, then you can leave it at that. Maybe she has a good relationship going with the other guy and wants to keep it that way. I hope she was as honest with the other guy about you and that he gets a paternity test to be sure it is his. If you think, therei s the slightest chance that you would want something to do with the baby if it is yours, then you should get one.
I know that... did you read my post? Why would I put myself through this again? I think it's obvious that I won't put myself in this situation, so that is a non-issue at this point.
It is advice. If you don't want to be in this situation again you need to protect yourself. No condom means chances of pregnancy and/or std's.
Listen, I came on here for input about a situation. NOT to get lectured on how to prevent it from happening again. I appreciate your input on the matter but I do not need someone to tell me how to conduct my life from here on out.
In the end, it's your choice and what you want to do. If you both don't want to do it then that's for you both, BUT no one KNOWS who's child it truly is. I do hope you'll use proper measures though to prevent something like this from happening again though and not rely on luck.
I've tried to talk to her, I've tried to talk to her family... I've talked to doctors, ultrasound technicians, etc... yes, it could be mine... like a 1% chance. Do I want it to be mine? No, I don't, but if she isn't willing to work with me about it then there really isn't much I can do, especially at this point. I've worried myself to death over something I can not control at this point. She literally changed her phone number and she was living with her aunt only temporary. Her aunt even said it wasn't mine to leave her alone. So lets say I spend a TON of money, get a lawyer, and determine that it isn't mine and it's actually the other guy she was with for weeks during the most probable time she conceived.
I don't think settling for the simplest idea is really the best thing to be going off of when it deals with the paternity of a child. Where is her proof that this child isn't yours. You yourself stated she doesn't know her last period. Hence I highly doubt she knows her ovulation. She had intercourse with you and more partners. It could have happened at any time. Unless YOU want the simple way out and don't want to deal with fatherhood.
Honestly, she is saying it's not mine.. and even though nature can be strange, Occam's Razor suggests that the kid isn't mine. So by that, why try to introduce other stresses in this girls life when she has an unplanned pregnancy to deal with. She told me the information, she says it isn't mine, the information for all scientific purpose points to that it isn't mine and she was with someone during the time she would have conceived. End of story.
Get a lawyer and go to court. (If you want to do the right thing and know if it is your child.) The test isn't cheap, so you know. BUT I would think knowing if you have a child is more important than money.
even though its doubtful it is yours, if she is so adamant it isnt, why bother even telling you she was pregnant!!!
As a few others said the only way to know is a dna test. U/s dating is not 100% accurate. It can be off by a week or two. Sperm can survive inside a woman for up to a week waiting for an egg. And the pull out method is extremely irresponsible if you do not want children. Get the paternity test.
Withdrawal method isn't birth control and is unreliable. If you don't want children, use protection and not hope it won't happen. You have a right to know if it's yours or not and it would be better if you found out at birth encase she tries something later.
All signs are pointing to no... and I doubt its mine and that she'll do a paternity test. Like I said, she was REALLY ADAMANT that its not mine and told me to leave her alone.
Honestly, when she told me about it she was at the doctors office. Also, when she called me up, I only spoke to her for about 10 minutes.... I'm assuming she knew she was pregnant few days prior in telling me and the reason she called me is because she freaked out about it when she heard she was about 8 weeks pregnant not thinking that they went off her LMP and not the date of conception. This all happened Oct 4 and the last text I got from her was Oct 7. I haven't heard from her again and the last time I tried to call she had her phone disconnected. She lives 6 hours away from me so its not like I can just go talk to her. Also, I know the date of when I was with her because it was my friends wedding... I also used the withdrawal method. I really hope it isn't mine...
if her pregnancy stage is 7 weeks 3 days, then her babys age is 5 weeks 3 days as drs always date you two weeks ahead. So if you wernt with her 6 weeks ago then its not yours, but to be sure do a DNA when its born but i doubt its yours.
DNA is best but if going by calculations I agree with bonita.. I'm 6 weeks 3 days but calculated from last period so didn't fall untill 4 weeks ago roughly so if she is 7 weeks 3 days then she only conceived 5 weeks ago. May not have known her last lmp but will still date all babies the same by comparing them.. As that's a three week difference I would say bug chance it's nit yours unless the dates by hospital and yourself are out by couple of weeks. If there not then your sperm wouldn't have lasted three weeks or her body is really out of sinc but DNA as may be too close to decide on the facts of life...
This might be one of those times when the dates are too close together and a DNA test is best. There are a few things to keep in mind - ultrasounds are not perfect at determining the baby's age (close, but not perfect). It can be off by almost a week. Next, sperm can live in a woman's body for almost a week. And finally, ovulation is not an exact science...she could have ovulated sooner or later.
I would definetly suggest a DNA test just to be sure. And be thankful that she was honest about this other guy and isn't trying to pin it 100% on you.
I would definetly suggest a DNA test just to be sure. And be thankful that she was honest about this other guy and isn't trying to pin it 100% on you.
So if it was mine... the baby isn't growing properly, implantation would have happened roughly 3 weeks later, or the ultrasound tech is really incompetent.
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