Anyone else?

[Jame0223]

I'm 18, 19 in february. I found out i was pregnant about a month ago and lost it to miscarriage last friday. I know I'm not in the perfect situation to get pregnant. I still live with my parents, my boyfriend and I don't make enough money to spoil a baby, but enough to be happy. I want to go to school and so does he. After losing the baby, I was devastated, but kind of relieved. I said that I wasn't happy that I lost it, but i know it was probably for the better. But it hasn't even been a week and I really miss being pregnant and having the excitement of having a baby. I'm young, but I've always dreampt  of being a mother and I know i'd be a good one. Out of all my friends (you can imagine a group of diverse 18 year old girls), I'm the most motherly. They've even told me that to my face. "youre so mommy like" I took it as a compliment. What, I can't help that I'm really mature for my age. I was EXTREMELY happy and excited about my pregnancy. Everyone around me is like oh no its a mistake, blah blah blah. I told all of them that it was not a mistake to me. I know I'm young but i really wanted that baby. I told everyone I wasn't going to try and get pregnant again. The more I think about it, the more I do want to get pregnant again. I loved being pregnant and I really wanted a baby. I know it'd be better to wait, but gosh I just don't know what to say. Anyone else young have a m/c and want to get pregnant asap afterwards even when you know its not the right time?

[rachie204]

best of luck Cowgirl

[Cowgirl~]

Well i started my preiod so im not pregnant so congratulations to all you older women who said that us younger ladies should not be gettting pregnant at this age. I do get what some of you mean but no affense some of you think that out Boyfreinds wont stay by us just becuase you had a boyfreind that did not say by you. I do thank you for your comments but its not always the same as everyone, some guys are good guys and wont leave i mean a guy that your engaged to is not gonna leave if your pregnant and there are some pretty awesome boyfreinds who wont either. My fiance never had his parents around cause they just left him and his brothers so he knows how it is and would never do that to his children he knows how it feels. I am not trying for a baby and i was not trying this time either i do want a baby very badly.... but iam going to wait but if it happends as an accident i will still be happy. It is true that everyone is having babys and i want one becuase i misscarried but i do know i should wait not wait till im married but untill we atleast have our own place together. so thanks and bye...

[tandria03]

I am sorry if I offended the women on this page.  Like many of the other women have pointed out, we are just speaking from experience and not trying to tell anyone what to do, just to consider all that is involved.  By the way, I am only 24.  I was engaged at 19 and married at 20 to the man I have been with since I was 16.  I have a 14 month old that took me two years to get pregnant with and I am currently 14 weeks pregnant with my second.  I am not judging young relationships in any way.  I am saying that I know how hard it can be when you have a baby and you are young and don't have a lot.  I am just asking that everyone consider every aspect of whether they feel prepared to provide for a baby in every way before they try to get pregnant. Thank you prayful wife, rachie204, and AngelF for trying to help clarify what all are trying to get across.  The ability to discuss differing opinions without anger, resentment, and defensiveness are a true sign of maturity.  By the way Cowgirl, I'd like to point out that I never said married, I said commited relationship and in you previous post you did not mention that you and your boyfriend were engaged.  I think all the women were more concerned that you both lived with your parents, but maybe that is something you both are doing until you get married.  Unfortunately if we don't get the whole story, we can only go off of what we are given.  I was also engaged at 19-its not something I would ever judge.  Same thing to Linzola1.  I was in the same situation as you.  I don't think anyone is saying you and your husband shouldn't be trying to have a baby.

[AngelF]

thanks a lot :)  I'm just waiting it out now....  I hate waiting.  The Lord did not give me patience unfortuanitly.  I'm awful, I know.  

[rachie204]

Good Luck!!! :)

[AngelF]

no prob.  I'm not a mom yet, but I use to take care of my ex's.  I know how much responsibilty goes with it.  My hubby & I are now trying for one & praying about it