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Baby Daddy issues. please help?

I am a single parent with 3 kids. I am 19 wks pregnant but no longer with my baby dad. After being with him for almost 2 yrs of being together I was moving and ready to move on since we are so different.  I changed homes and wasn't planning on going back with him. After I moved I found out I was pregnant of 5 wks and he told me to get an abortion because he was back with his ex and she is also pregnant of 7 wks to my surprise he got us both pregnant and she already moved with him and doesn't know about me or my baby. He said he was going to give my baby his last name but I am unsure if I want to or not. Also I found him in a dating site that my cousin is at and he is also hooking up with other girls there. I want to tell that lady about us and about his hook ups after the babies are born but I don't know what to do. Please help?
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Wow what a jerk.  I would definitely tell her. If it was me I would want to know! And make sure you get his a$$ for child support!!
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Thanks ladies....
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Thanks ladies....
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Do not give the baby his last name. My daughter has my last name because in my situation I know it was the right thing to do.
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Tell her! And definately don't give the baby his last name, it seems like he's not going to be involved at all so why would you
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6007249 tn?1394900105
Surprise him with Child support documents. When it comes to it, first comes first served. If the other woman leaves him and files before you,  than you simply get the crumbs that fall from the Table. That's how an older woman explained it to me, and   I'm so glad she did. My 2nd child's father had 2 other babies a few months after mine. And they all filed for Child support immediately. Thankfully my case was already clocked. Sorry if this isn't the answer you were hoping for. But, my best suggestion is to plan your next steps for supporting your baby.
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I would def not give the baby his last name. It's not up to him anyway, it's up to you. I would tell this other girl about the dating site and that you are pregnant. Then I would just forget about the two of them and focus on you and your baby and don't even worry about him unless he starts to bother you. It sounds good that you had already broken up with before you got pregnant so you are mentally ready to move on from him! Good luck :)
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6291338 tn?1389447613
Wow what a dirty mthfckr he gets u preggers at the same time tells u to get an abortion then says he wants the baby to have his last name smh what is up with these guys these days smh i would def.  tell her she should kno the situation u are all in just in case he plans on being in the babies life, if u want him there that is , time for a reality check. He really should have told her u were preggers so she knows what to expect when ur babies arrive n im tryna make sure ur saying she is two weeks ahead of u or currently she is 7wks
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Tell her! Lol. Commitment issues. First of all you don't need that so don't you dare feel in the position of turning back. Keep that stuff as proof though. Seriously. Texts. Emails. Screenshots. They'll serve you good in the long run when it comes to court for abondnment.
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