I think it's fine. This is my third but first girl and my SIL is planning a shower after I have her since I am keeping the gender a secret from everyone else. I have nothing girly in my house and all I need are clothes and diapers. I have everything else I need so I am not even going to bother with a registry. Personally I think it's nice to celebrate each child. :)
I think it's perfectly fine to have a shower for a second baby, especially if it's a different gender. I thought someone would throw us one since I am pregnant with a girl and my boy will be 18 months old when she is born. We have all the big stuff, all I really wanted was clothes and new stuff for the nursery - bedding and decorations. We didn't get a shower, but my friends back home - just moved to DH's hometown 8 months ago - just sent me a surprise "baby shower in a box". They all got together and sent me a box of presents - clothes and some room stuff that I had picked out, so that was super sweet and helpful! :-) I hope you get a shower for your little girl, too - or at least some girly clothes. I certainly didn't want my little girl to have to wear all boy clothes - LOL
I have many of hte bigger items that I am fine with using again as I did choose to get neutral colors since I hoped for a girtl next. I do need a new stroller since mine broke but really most the stuff is reusable. I would like to have some girly clothes, blankets and even a few little pink toys. I have all the bottles and things I used before and bouncers, crib, playpen etc that I will use again. I was thinking the same thing, not big expensive things but a few girly things to ge tme started :)
I think every child should be celebrated! I have a son who will be 3 in June and am 35 weeks pregnant with my second. We had a baby shower thrown for us this time as well, but my son is from a previous marriage and this is DH first baby so it was his family who threw the shower. While we did ask for some bigger ticket items but registered for a lot more items of cheaper value and used our income tax to buy the bigger stuff crib, swing, bouncer, dresser etc... I still had the pack in play and a lot of toys etc from my son as well as clothing because well I am a slight pack rat!!! I think having a shower is fine and I def think more people will understand espically because this is a baby of a different gender. I know when I do have a girl I will want all PINK!!!! But then agian that will be my last baby! Congratz on the pregnancy and God Bless
My only problem with having a baby shower and registering for a lot of things for you second is to other people (not saying me) it may make you look like a gift grubber. However, your children are three years apart. I know two people who had children within two years of each other (one had a boy and a girl, the other two boys) and all I remember is family and friends complaining about how much they asked for in their registry for their second child when they already had one child (including cribs, playpens, etc). I don't think they got much that time because everyone felt they should buy that stuff themselves because they got pg so soon after having their first.
Just be careful what you register for and how many items you put on there. To me it would be fine to put girl clothes, toys, etc. on there. Just not big ticket items.