Best place for baby to sleep the first few months?

Question

So me and my other half are getting into a little disagreement on where the baby should sleep,i say in the bedroom with us for a while and he says in her own room, which do you think is best? Tell me your stories with the place baby sleeps as well....

baby_edgar · Answer

my daughter went straight into her own room and cot from the first night home, that is until her 5th night home when she stopped breathing 3 times during the night. we ended up at the hospital and she still continues to stop breathing now so she is still in our room in a bassinet. she will continue to stay in our room until she out grows the bassinet!

njrohe · Answer

My son slept in our room until he was six months old, and I don't think I would have gotten any sleep at all if he hadn't.  If she is in the other room, you will get up about 100 times per night to check on her.  It's so much nicer to be able to just roll over and lay your hand on her, feel her little body moving up and down with each breath, and then be able to peacefully roll over and go back to sleep.

kjbutcher · Answer

goodness!  It is so much easier to just reach down a pick up baby while you are totally asleep and baby isnt...20 times a night for the first few weeks.  I could not imagine actually getting up and walking into the other room to do that, not to mention all of the times you think baby is asleep and you put him down and he wakes right up.  You exhert so much energy just doing necessities.  No need to do more work than necessary.  It sounds like such a small amount of work as I say it now, but you WILL have the nights where you do not want to leave your bed...feed, change with the diapers and wipes that are now stored on your night stand, burp, back to bed with out ever touching your feet to the ground!!!  I put my son in his own room at 4 months, but could have probably done it at 2.5 months when he only got up once in a night and it was usually at the same time.  I love men that make these kinds of rules...let me guess, the night time is  your time to handle the baby!?!

nikko*ttc · Answer

I did not vote because I say a combination of both. With my first child, I put her in the crib at night. This allowed her to get accustomed to going to bed in her own bed. But when she would wake up I would change her if necessary and then nurse her in my own bed. Often I would fall asleep while she nursed. She would go to sleep and stay asleep longer and I never had to retrain her to sleep by herself. I am now 30 weeks preggers with #2 and I plan to do the same.

onlyme27 · Answer

I kept my kids in the room with me in their bassinet for the first few days.  After that I put them in their own bed in their own room.  I did breastfeed but I wanted to try to establish somesort of routine for my kids.  that is not to say that I was not up every little bit checking on them.  But I was doing that when I had them in the bassinet too.

KellyA74 · Answer

I'm keeping our little guy in the room with us for 4-6 weeks then will transition him into his crib.....I'm just afraid that I'll be paranoid and need to make up every 2 seconds to hear him breathe!

kikicoates78 · Answer

I ay hwer room as long as its not too far away, it is very hard to break the habbit of in your room, cuz then it will be too easy for you to put her in bed with you, and that is bad! :) to break that is!

mommom2 · Answer

I kept my son in a bassinet beside me, I breastfed and it was so much easier. I kept him in the bassinet until he was either 4 or 5 months old. I forget what the bassinet rule is now, I can't remember whether it's by weight or if they achieve some sort of milestone. Can't remember, that was 3 years ago. And when I switched him to his crib in his room, it was no problem for him, I started a couple weeks before hand letting him sleep in his crib for naps so that he would get used to the new bed and the new room.  I will be doing the exact same thing in March when my next one's due though!  Congratulations to you!

JoyRenee · Answer

With you! You'll be up every 2-3 hours and it STINKS to have to drag your tired and sore body into their bedroom!

hkenny · Answer

my sister in law had a baby on the 22nd. they said all along from the day he was brought home he wouls sleep in his crib across the hall. after one night that changed, they went out and bought a bassinet. mom said it was more for her than him, any little sound made she would get up and check on him.she got no sleep.

cminamyer · Answer

We kept DD in our room for the first six weeks and plan on having the next one in our room for the first six weeks also.  But she was in her own bed, we had a pack n' play that had a bassient attachment.  I would pull her in bed to breastfeed and would fall asleep sometimes but when I woke back up she went back in her bed.  Also when DH gets home make sure you put her on your side of the bed and not in the middle if you pull her in bed, they usally sleep harder and I would be afraid of smothering.

amy0013 · Answer

I did the opposite...I actually slept in HER room!  :)  We had a twin bed in there and that is where I slept for the first 2 months while I was off work, but DH was working.  It kept us from disturbing him but I was also able to be close.  You'll want to be close by for all the night wakings...but try not to get in the habit of co-sleeping.  There's nothing wrong with it EXCEPT for it's an extremely hard habit to break later!  :)

Avanaar · Answer

For the first few months, I'd like the baby in the room with me ...but in his own bed!  lol  I'll have a bassinet or pack n play set up next to our bed so I'll be able to check on him thruout the night and also feed him easier.  But I don't want him sleeping in the bed with DH and I ...mostly because I worry about accidentally smothering him ...plus, it's DH and I's bed!

Griggsy · Answer

My sister kept all of her kids in a basinett in her room until they were sleeping through the night. She breast feeds for the first year so up and down and across the house all the time was so hard for her. The good think is that her kids start sleeping through the night 2-3 months in age.

ashiepooh · Answer

Okay since your breastfeeding I'd definately keep her in the room with you! 

I can't tell you how many times my kids actually ended up in bed with me because I was sooooooooo tired, and when breastfeeding you'll see that it just drains you at night, and you get so tired!  So TOTALLY in your room!  ahaha

honeybear56 · Answer

I do plan on breastfeeding. Thanks for the stories so far.

ashiepooh · Answer

Okay so I voted but I wanna say something.

I think since you'll be by yourself until he gets home, she should be in the room with you, it'll make it easier on you!  Now when he gets home, he'll likely change his mind ahaha cause it'll sink in, and he'll probably want her in the room with you guys for a little while.  

However, with me right now i'm so done with kids being in my room, but for the first 6 weeks i keep each baby in my room.  Then they go on to their own room and crib!  I keep a bassinet in my room, (while their big enough for it) so if they aren't sleeping much, and there will be these night that this happens, so I would end up having them in the room.

Do what makes YOU comfortable until he comes home, and go from there!  

Also, are you breastfeeding?

gokuangel · Answer

I have to say with you cus with a newborn you never know how many times the baby will wake up  in the nite how many times you gotta feed the baby how many times you gotta change pampers and you already gonna be tired and running bk and forth would mean just being exhausted! Me personally i dont have kids but i already decided to have my baby in the crib next to me when me and dh do have kids not only will the baby be too small to be alone but also our 2nd bedroom is waaaaay too far from the master bedroom! Another thing you might want to consider i dont know how your house is though. So my opinion at least for the first 3months then maybe move the baby depending on far the nursey will be.