Aa
Aa
A
A
A
Close
Avatar universal

Body image :/

Anyone else feel really good about their body for a while then all of a sudden just hated it? I'm 32 weeks and have noticed the last couple of weeks my husband won't hardly touch me, and I confronted him about it tonight and told him that I feel like he's not attracted to me anymore and that I just feel crappy about my body right now and he basically told me it's just my belly it a guy thing "it freaks them out " he said not to take the wrong way and kept talking about how great I would look after baby and I know he wasn't intending on upsetting me but he doesn't understand that I need to feel attractive right now, because I know I won't for a while after birth...and we won't be able to have sex for a while either. I just feel so sad now ):
7 Responses
Sort by: Helpful Oldest Newest
Avatar universal
My hubby isn't worried about hurting the baby he just says the tummy kinda weirds him out...freaks him out to see the baby move too. .I know he loves me but when he barely tells me I look beautiful anymore, hardly wants to kiss me, never wants to cuddle, and only wants to have sex when I practically jump on him it kinda hurts my feelings and makes me feel unattractive :/ he keeps telling me that it will be better after the baby but I don't think he realizes that aside from the healing time, we're going to have a newborn and won't be able to do anything quite as frequently especially because our baby will have to sleep in our room til we get a bigger house ): just a crappy feeling
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I went through the same thing. Especially sense before I got pregnant He was always all over me. It became depressing really quickly for me and I cried probably every day. Always thought while he was at work he was probably looking at someone better. But whenever I say something about it he says that he doesnt want to hurt the baby. It ***** feeling unwanted!
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I say let him go to hell.. The fact is that both of you are pregnant.. good and bad times.. If a little pregnancy going to turn him off that much suppose you had lost a leg.. than the would be room for a divorce.  Through better for worst... it's a dirty thinking... but if you want to believe what ever he's trying to put in your head or make you believe it's up to you. We all know it's not right... This is the time for affection and cuddling... After all its both you guys baby not your alone... If he loves you for you he wouldn't behave that way...
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
My bf hasn't made me feel bad about my body but I do not let him see me naked I cover up real quick when he walks in on me and he gets mad I cover up bc he says I'm pregnant and obviously my body is different right now but i just hate my body right now i use to show off my body to him before pregnancy bc I had no stretch marks and wasn't fat but now I'm just very insecure I have very low self esteem right now but I wouldn't trade it for nothing in the world my baby means more to me
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
I definitly have the "hate my body" part but never had the love my body one. My husband had told me before i got pregnant that sex with me pregnant is a big NO. We have done it twice in 5 months but now my tummy is clearly visible and i feel baby move, sex is definitly off the table till way after birth. It does make me sad and feeling undesirable but he does his best to reasure me. To be nice, i make him believe it works but actually it does not help much. I know he loves me and still loves looking at me undress and all. I am just happy that at least one of us liked my body.
But i can totally understand how you feel and know you are not alone. Talk with him helps. Its not much advice and i am sorry but i do not know what else to say.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
My hubby has barely wanted to have sex at all during my pregnancy. He said even though he knows it can't hurt the baby, it just worries him. I know he was the same way when his ex-wife was pregnant with their son, so it wasn't a major shocker. I'm sure he still thinks you're beautiful, it's probably just uncomfortable for him to want to have sex with the baby so obvious at this point.
Helpful - 0
Avatar universal
Well he isn't lying, it definitely is a guy thing. We're trying to convince and I asked him how is he planning on dealing w. my sex drive being so high & he said he'll be buying me toys as if he has no intention on sleeping w. me while I'm pregnant. He already has a low sex drive that has put my self esteem down a little bit, but you've got to look at the bigger picture. He obviously loves you. I know being worried that you are losing him due to your belly but, it's a beautiful blessing that only causes temporary low self-esteem. don't sweat it to much.
Helpful - 0
Have an Answer?

You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy Community

Top Pregnancy Answerers
13167 tn?1327194124
Austin, TX
Learn About Top Answerers
Didn't find the answer you were looking for?
Ask a question
Popular Resources
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.