Could I get pregnant from this

[pinkytiniavalon]

Couple of says ago. about 5 days actually. I was washing my hands, then I accidently wiped it on my stepdad's bath towel to dry my hands because his towel looks a lot like mine...then I was scared that there might have been something on the towel, I went and washed my hands again. I didn't see a visible semen stain or anything. but it was slightly damp, cause he had just showered not long ago.

then, I went to my bed and started masturbating (without fingering, just clitoral stimulation)....but afterwards I realized...what if he did something in the shower and got some sperm on the towel that I wiped my hand on...could I get pregnant from that???

[GleeRoxJill]

Hi pinkytiniavalon.

I think that you already know all the information you need to answer your own questions. I know you need reassurance, so I'm here to tell you that a bath towel...UNLESS IT'S SOAKED WITH SEMEN AND YOU STUCK IT WAAAY UP THERE, is not going to get you pregnant. ever.

[Kirsty2307]

Apologies if this if for real .... BUT come on!!!!! on the 7 November you were worried about being pregnant, cause your boyfriend pre-ejaculated on your fingers and about 4 hours later, after washing your hands - taking a bus, eating and doing homework you then INTENSELY fingered yourself ... you wondered if you were pregnant then!!!!

And now you worried about using a damp towel from your stepdad, washing your hands, getting into bed and then fingering yourself!!!!

Then in another post - you advise a young girl on her period that it could be IMPLANTATION BLEEDING and how the timing seems right. You advised her to take a PREGNANCY test in the week, it should give you an accurate result.

How on earth you know about Implantation Bleeding and not about general sexual reproduction is beyond me. Sheltered or not - RESEARCH it. I dont know everything and still learn everyday - I too ask questions on here.

i think its safe from all the answers that the answer is NO NO NO!!! You can't fall pregnant in the 2 scenarios you have mentioned!!!!!

And if you think you could be pregnant - do a pregnancy test, if should give an accurate result.

[isthisnormal]

You can still get pregnant on your period. Your chances are just a lot lower.

[Sunkissed19]

to answer your question...sperm can be picked up by fluids in your vagina to help them "swim" up...but if a sperm did so happen to still be alive after being out in the air for a while it would be very weak and would more than likely not make it more than into your vagina...sperm have to swim quite a long ways to make to to "baby central" so to speak. look up the reproductive tract on the internet and you'll see what i mean. im sorry that i poked fun at your questions to begin with...i honestly am in just disbelief about people not teaching their children such important things about life. i feel terrible that you cant go to your mother to talk about these things. and if u really dont know the answer to these questions i dont believe you should be shunned from the site and i would be more than happy to educate you in anyway that i can. you shouldnt be out there all on your own not knowing a thing about this. and about trying to stay out of sexual situations ...ask ur boyfriend if he wants to go to the movies or to a resturant or other very public places where it would obviously be innapropriate to do sexual things. but the biggest one is you should just stop in the middle of doing whatever ur doing when u get in these situations and bluntly tell him "i do not feel comfortable doing this right now" and if he doesnt back off you make him back off. you really have to learn to assert yourself...share with him your feelings of what you want in your life right now and what you dont....finishing school being what you want to do (perhaps) and having sex being what you dont want to do.

[pinkytiniavalon]

well. just so happens i've been quite sheltered all my life. the only place i can ask questions is here pretty much. no matter how ridiculous it may seem, they're very real to me.

so...

sorry that i irritated you all.i just wont ask anymore.

[smjmekg]

I'm not going to judge you, a lot of young girls come here looking for help because they don't know much about reproduction. I'm not going to argue about who's to blame. I'm just going to tell you what I know. First, women only have a 20-25% chance of conception each month. You ovulate 14 days BEFORE your period is due, and you have a 24-72 hour window before the egg that was released dies and you can't get pregnant. You ovulate once every month. You can't get pregnant on your period. If your boyfriend ejaculated right onto the outside of your vagina you'd have MAYBE a 1% chance of getting pregnant. If you have sex you can get pregnant...I say sex, and not unprotected sex, because no birth control is 100% effective. You can still get pregnant if you use a condom, the pill, etc. My sister in law is proof of this, she got pregnant using a condom while on birth control. Plan B is not 100% effective, and if the egg was already fertilized Plan B will not abort the baby, you will still be pregnant. You're not going to get pregnant by fingering yourself after giving your boyfriend a hand job, once sperm hits the air it dies quickly. You should definitely think of some time of birth control, and using condoms if you actually have sex. And you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. If he doesn't respect you enough to wait until you're ready...you don't need to be with him. This is your life, your body, and your decisions. You're still young, sex can wait. If you have any other questions, feel free to ask. This forum is for pregnancy related questions, and although some people might be shocked that you don't know much about pregnancy, it's still a question and you're still looking for an answer. Feel free to send me a private message if you have any other questions.

[AKJD2209]

Well being alone always brings on the touchy feely, lets get down to business stuff.

I'm 19years old and I'm pregnant, I just don't understand how you could think these things could get you pregnant. I never had a sex class until last year my first year of college and I knew better than a lot of the things you said even when I didn't do anything but give a peck on the cheek. If your 17 you should know better than these questions you ask. I'm not trying to be rude, but do you live under a rock? if you can get on the internet and ask these questions, why not look stuff about sex. There are many teen websites that answer questions and give information, like http://www.sexetc.org/.

[isthisnormal]

How about just telling your boyfriend no? Or, I dunno, using protection? You're baffling me right now. How old are you?

Maybe it's just my low tolerance for irritation this far in my pregnancy, but I know there are a ton of girls that are a lot younger than my 19 years who are just so naive and almost ignorant to these things who are having babies. Which is extremely frustrating because there are so many women on this forum, including myself, who have had to cope with a miscarriage and are trying to start a family of their own.

Please do yourself a favor and get educated. Read. It won't hurt you. Procreation doesn't seem like a good idea for you right now.

[pinkytiniavalon]

can't sperm get picked up by a  wet part of your vagina and then swim up with the fluid?

You're right, I should talk to him about it. Any advice on how to stay away from any situations that will bring about sex-related things?

[Sunkissed19]

even when youre trying to conceive and your having actual unprotected intercourse at the same time of your expected ovulation time you still only have a 25% chance of getting pregnant....which when you think about it is not a very big percentage...and this is without a condom actually having sex. and you have to remember sperm arent amazing olympic medalist type swimmers lol it takes a lot of force to push sperm through the reproductive tract...like it spurting out of a penis. even if u just held a finger full of sperm up to your vagina they arent going to be able to jump right in and swim all the way up to the egg. touching your boyfriends penis is not going to get you pregnant...in any sort of way. but if your parinoid all the time you need to go to a womens clinic and get on birth control (your mom doesnt have to know the doctors there will keep it secret) and then even if u think ur having close encounters you'll know you are protected. as for your boyfriend if he really likes you he will understand that you arent emotionally ready to handle sex. part of being old enough to be in a relationship is being able to develope communication skills with that partner. stop worrying about what he will think of you and start protecting yourself...this is your life.

[pinkytiniavalon]

if you read my previous post, was about my pregnancy scare when i touched his penis, which is what started this whole pregancy paranoia in the first place.

thank you guys for answering. All I really know is that anytime there is sperm and vaginal contact conception can occur.

a lot of in formation i find, without much common sense makes it seem like everything under the sun can get you pregnant.  To me,that just seems to easy. like, what if you touched your partner's penis but then change your panty liner? Everyone i know that has gotten pregnant did it by intercourse, but it's just really hard for me to be in a place where it seems like pregnancy would be the end of my life, and be with a boyfriend whom I don't know how to communicate the message of "hey im not mentally capable of handling any kind of sex", and then pregnancy risk is EVERYWHERE as soon as we get too close like when i touched his penis.

[sprarah]

Your post didnt have anything to do with your boyfriends it was about drying your hands on a towel that may or may not have had semen on it. The point ppl are trying to make is it just seems odd that you would not know the answer to this question (or that you would have asked it in the first place). If you are concerned about getting pregnant then first you need to educate your self on how conception occurs (you can get information just about anywhere), and second see a doctor or go to a clinic and get on birthcontrol.

You need to protect yourself and you also need to remember that pregnancy is not your only concern. You should be concerned with getting a disease that could possibly kill you or cause you to not be able to conceive. These women here are good women with alot of experience in certain areas. Please listen to them. Educate and protect yourself. It is the best thing your can do. If you cant go to your parents there are a million other resources.

[pinkytiniavalon]

you guys are really mean. im with my first boyfriend and ever since the first pregnancy freak out i've been beyond paranoid. i dont know how to stop worrying but at the same time i dont know how to tell my boyfriend we cant do things like this anymore. To say that im just posting this here to get a laugh really is mean. i would never do such a thing.

i cant talk to my mom about it either because she is super conservative and would kill me if she found out.

i swear everytime we're together a similar scenario just comes up. we do something, and i get scared.

so if you all would just not accuse me of doing this out of some kind of pranking motivation, that would be appreciated.  

[faye83]

lol April I went to a (catholic) private school too and we had sex classes since we were in 5th grade. Then all through the last year it changed from sex classes to "don't abort" classes lol
And I think the OP was just trolling

[Kirsty2307]

I agree with April2 - this persons posts are all pretty similar and pretty disgusting if you ask me. I think they just posting these to get reactions out of everyone.

I honestly think whoever this pinki person is - they just having a laugh!!!

[sprarah]

I completely agree with you. Even though some schools do offer the basics it is the parent responsibility to educate their kids on this subject. There are a ton of resources out there. I know as a nurse I have often times provided parents with resources needed to help with having "the talk" with their kids. There really is no excuse especially when a childs life may depend on it.

[Victoria01]

I agree with you that it SHOULD be the parents place to educate their kids about sex, but by reading this post and a few others, this just isn't happening. To me, I believe that the public school system had a duty to teach a well-rounded education and that, again my opinion, is to teach a health class with sex education. I feel sorry for those kids whose parents don't want it taught in school (for whatever reason) and then don't bother to teach it at home because they either don't know how to approach the subject, are too scared to approach it, or feel it is something 'dirty'. It only adds to unwanted pregnancies and diseases and they are only hurting their children in the long run.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

My question is why are PARENTS teaching their kids abouts sex???  It's THEIR responsbility...not the schools.  For someone to ask a question such as this makes me wonder about a lot of things.  

I realize that some people don't like talking about this kind of thing, but if you have children it's your responsibility to get over it and give them the facts.  There are TONS of books and even websites dedicated to helping parents give kids the "talk".  My oldest (who is now 13) got her first official sex talk in 2nd grade.  Why then? Becuase that was when she started hearing OTHER kids making comments and references to sex and body parts.  I wanted to make sure MY child had the FACTS...not something made up by a classmate.  We went for a walk one day and i just laid it out for her...no slang terms, no silly words, just the facts and medical terminology.  I encouraged her to ask questions and I answer them as best I could.  I tried to instill in her that if she EVER had a question about sex or drugs or anything she could ASK me without fear of me giving her the 3rd degree and that if i didn't have an answer we would look it up.  

I firmly believe that knowledge is power when it comes to things like this.  My daughter is constantly telling other people how they shouldn't cuss or smoke or whatever.  She even had a "boyfriend" last year who took up smoking becuase he thought it was cool...she came to ME and asked ME what to do.  

When I got pregnant this last time, I used it as an opportunity to begin teaching my then 4 and 5 yo's a little about reproduction and to get more in depth about it with my oldest.  (Who by the way now keeps saying "No thanks, I'll adopt" lol)  The shows on TLC and Discovery Health are excellent resources for teaching kids becuase they do a LOT of the talking for you.  

My oldest even came to me one day when a friend of hers had a friend (as she put it) who was afraid she might be pregnant and didn't know what to do.  My daughter wanted MY advice to give her friend so she could tellt his other girl (or whoever it was).  I encouraged her to let this girl know that first she needed to get a pregnancy test.  That if she didn't want to go to the store and buy one (VERY SMALL town here) she could go to the local womens clinic, you can be anonymous if you choose and everything is confidential.  They do the tests for free and have wonderful resources.  Then i told her that if this girl DID find out she was pregnant, she needed to tell herparents.  That if she was scared to do so alone, she should get a trusted teacher, guidance counselor or friends parent to be with her and help her.  I also let her know that if this girl needed someone to talk to who would not go running to her parents that I would be more than happy to help her in anyway I could.  Turns out she wasn't pregnant, which is good. BUT my point in this is that it showed me that my daughter could trust coming to me about these things.  And by not overreacting or whatever hopefully it has showed her that she has a better chance of me not overreacting if she comes to me regarding something about herself.

My whole point in this is that PARENTS need to educate their children. It just floors me that someone who knows the terms "masturbate" and "clitoral stimulation" doesn't know that you can get pregnant from a freaking bath towel.  

It also makes me wonder why she is having thoughts of her step father masturbating in the shower and using his towel.  Is he known for doing that?  Most children do NOT thing of their parents or even step parents in relation to that kind of thing.  

[sprarah]

Where I am it is still a high school requirement.....it's not sex ed but its health education. How so many kids are missing out on this knowledge is weird.  Not sure about other areas but here it is still taught in most schools.

[April2]

My son and daughter went to a private school but they did offer a sex ed type class with a film (pushing more for abstinence, of course) and they had to carry a flour baby around for a couple of weeks. It was a sack of flour that they could dress up any way they could. Some of them got pretty ingenious with their flour babies!

[Victoria01]

We had the normal puberty class in 5th or 6th grade and then a health class that talked about sex ed, which was required to graduate, in high school. They even had us carry the egg around as our pretend child and we were partnered with our 'spouse'. I can't believe that is not mandatory anymore... and we wonder why so many young people get pregnant 'accidentally'...they don't know any better, LOL

[happy_mommy]

I didn't have sex ed classes just the ones if 5th grade about puberty.  I think schools dont offer them much anymore because some parents don't want their kids to know anything about it so more parents have to take the initiative to talk to their kids about it.  I really wish more parents would or at least schools should offer and optional sex ed class as an elective that way the parents that don't want their kids to hear about sex wouldn't have to have thier kids take it but other kids wouldn't miss out and have to ask questions about this.

Because even if they kids take it for an easy A they might actually find some of it interesting and learn some things.

[AKJD2209]

I'm 19 and I can tell you I never had a sex ed class until my freshmen year of college last year. I think in like 5th grade I had a video about the guys parts and periods other than that nothing.

I'm pregnant now, but it wasn't because I was being stupid condom broke and my birth control wasn't working well because I was on antibiotics. I wish all kids knew about the outcomes that can come from sex, I'm worried about my little brother a 18 year old took his virginity last year when he was 15 and now he's gone down hill, i'm scared he's going to get someone pregnant. Kids need to know what's going on and shouldn't even ask questions like this.

[April2]

Have you guys seen her other posts? They're very similar. I don't think this is real or the other ones either.