Girlfreidn told me she is pregant but telling me there are complications.

[wowee]

I have been with my girfriend for 5 1/2 yrs now. last week she told me she was preganant and i was happy...she was not to keen because she has an offer to work in Italy for 3 months... She did a test on Sunday which was postive....after my reaction she then told she a little brown discharge.....i read about this and suggested to see a glyncolgiest....which is tomorrow..however suddenly this morning she calls me to tell me she had a grennish discharge....again i recommended she went to see a glycolgiest...but could not get an appointment so she went for an ultrasound....at 3.40...she was out with 30mins and then told she is preganant but there are complications because of previous abortion.....analysis will come back on friday.....She told me that the medical person have a think as it may best to have an abortion.....

This is really alot to take in a matter of 3 days and i dont know what is true and what is not ? her last period was on 24 October and we had intercourse on 4/5 November. Can she already have a miscarriage.....can everything she is telling me true ? i want this baby.....am afraid she willing to say everything not to have.

seek your advice please

[alaysha]

I was thinking the same thing as smjmekg. If she miscarried or the pregnancy isn't viable the doctor might tell her she had a missed abortion which is a missed miscarriage and recommend a d&c to remove all the tissue. Don't jump to conclusions just talk with her. Go with her to the doctor if you have to.

[smjmekg]

I'm not saying your girlfriend is or is not telling you the whole truth BUT there IS another reason that a dr would tell her to have an "abortion". BUT it isn't called an abortion it's a D&C. It's where they remove the baby because it is not a viable pregnancy. Maybe she was confused, or you were when she told you about it. Don't jump to conclusions, just talk to her. Don't accuse her of wanting to have an abortion just because she's going to Italy. TALK TO HER.

[emw11]

i agree with everyone. a doctor will NOT tell a woman to get an abortion unless its a life or death situation. i had a friend who went to the doctor and they told her that she had too because it would kill her or the baby. i think your girlfriend is not telling you the whole truth. try talking to her and explaining to her that you want this child

[Cassandrajane]

I had an abortion and the only complication in my next pregnancy was a miscarriage... and now I am pregnant again, and my little one is perfectly fine. :).

No professional will say have an abortion UNLESSS they know that the baby will not survive outside the womb at all when reaching full term due to any disablities or anything. Other than that they would never say HAVE ONE... unless they have gone there speciffically for an abortion its self.

You need to sit her down and have a few words with her. Because you both need to be on the same page when it comes to pregnancy!

[Raerae336]

Im sorry you are going through this. Unless its a very rare case, usually life or death, the doctors wont recommened abortion. I dont know your gf but it sounds as though shes lying telling you they want her to have an abortion so you will be ok with it. Green discharge can be nothing. Sometimes concentrated discharge will be green otherwise it could be a possible infection in whuch case standered antibiotics will clear it up. Brown blood is very ccommon in pregnancy its your body expelling old blood. Please talk to her and weigh your options together. Many women raise children all on their own, i dont see any reason a man cant. Just a suggestion.

[jenkaye21]

I agree with the previous posters, she is not being completely honest with you.  You two definitely need to talk!!

[lilly0]

She wants to get rid of the baby because of her having a job opertunaty in Italy... I hope you can convince her to keep the child as she was will to have unprotected sex and that child didnt ask to be here after 1 abortion she'll go through another with no prob!

Hope it alll works out for you... An talk to her asap!

[growingbabyforyou]

There are a couple of issues that stand out.  One a Medical person would never advise to have an abortion, unless that is what she was seeing them for.  As for discharge, it's normal to have discharge whenever you're pregnant, but it can lead to something else, which is why like you said she needed to see her obgyn.  If she's going away to Italy for 3 months, that should not affect her pregnancy at all.  Women who have had abortions before, have gone on to have babies when they were ready without any complications.  

It sounds to me that she is freaking out herself and is not thinking clearly and weighing all her options, she might just be jumping into the 'get rid of it' phase.  Talk with her and explain where you're coming from, but also listen to her and her fears and what she had planned for herself.