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Ok i need as much help/advice as posble. Before i continue on, please do not judge me or make mean comments!

I have been trying to have a baby with my bf for the past 6 months. We actually miscarried twice in those 6 months. Ok heres where it gets complicated. I got my period on nov 20th 2011. I had sex with my bf everyday up until dec 6th. On the 6th we broke up and on the 8th i had sex with my ex (out of lonliness and spite)...he was only in fr about 30 seconds and never came because i stopped him (im not big on unprotected sex with multiple guys). My bf and i made up on the 9th and had unpotected sex as we aways do. On dec 21st a pregnancy test came up positive. According to pegnancy calculators i conceived around dec 6th. It there ANY WAY IN HELL it could be my ex's baby? (Im praying its not)

Rundown of dates:

Nov 20th~ got period
Nov 23~dec 6th~ sex with guy #1
Dec 8th~ sex with guy #2 (he didnt come)
Dec 9th~present sex with guy 1(only)
Dec 21st~ positive pregnacy test

Who does it seem like is the dad?

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1. guy # 1 (boyfriend)

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2. guy #2 (ex boyfriend)

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3. only an ultrasound can be positive

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4. there is no way to tell until birth
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1837090 tn?1328043721
i would say its probably your bf's but truly you cant tell without a dna test because anytime you have sex unprotected you can become pregnant even if he doesnt actually *** because u can get pregnant from pre ***.. wish u th best :)
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1654035 tn?1332428778
The problem is you had sex with guy 1 & 2 close together so there is no way to know. when you had sex with your ex he may not have finished but there is sperm in pre-*** and that can get you pregnant. Hopefully it is guy 1 but really you cant be sure without a paternity test once baby is born.
Good Luck!
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1901977 tn?1333995326
Yeah it's way too close to tell. And I got pregnant with the withdrawal method (meaning he didn't come inside of me) AND birth control pills, so my baby is proof that just because he didn't finish inside doesn't mean he can't have fathered your child. The only way you'll know is a DNA test
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1884497 tn?1330452659
I agree with mamabear cause I got preg with my so using pull out method, birth control & a condom so it's still possible I hope it works out how u want it to :)
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1950611 tn?1325204713
me and my husband have been trying for a year to have a baby... everythings been normal up untill now this month we watched my ovulation n made sure to cover my ovulation days or should i say we tryed.... but my period as been normal untill now my last period was 12/2/11 therefore i should have had my next  1/2/11 but i started barely bleeding the 27th now its the 29th and i have stopped i took preg test they were neg.... any advice to whats going on with me??
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Does it mean anything that the preg. calculators say i conceived on the 6th? Wouldnt that mean i was already in the pregnancy process by the 8th?

Ps~thanx for the advice/thoughts/positivity i really appreciate it ladies.
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1756475 tn?1330542313
That is just an estimate based on your last AF, you could wait until the ultrasound to date your pregnancy and then you can figure out the conception date.    You may need to look at a paternity test.  
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1194973 tn?1385507504
No, it means nothing. Online calculators are only an estimate and are far from exact. There's a two day difference, it could be either or. This is not something to guess at, have a paternity test done. It's only fair to both men and the child.
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You won't be able to tell. The calculators may say the 6th but they are off by 2 days. And the egg is viable for 24 hours so if the calculator is off by even 1 day which is very likely, then it could be either guy.

But since guy #1 was first and his semen would already be close by the egg it more than likely is his. Since guy #2 was second and didn't go its not likely to be his even with a little pre ejaculated. With the amount of sperm from #1 and the very few from #2 statistically #1 would be the father.

Probably #1 but with odds like the lottery it could be #2.
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1275969 tn?1473537536
There's no way you can tell unless you have a dna test when the baby is born. Even though calculators says the conception date was on the 6th there's a chance it could be your ex's baby even though he didn't *** there's sperm in pre ***.
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You have about a 2 week window. Your ex could still have gotten you pregnant with his pre ejaculation. You should do a DNA test when the baby is born. I got pregnant back in 09 which unfortunately I miscarried but I was on the pill and he wore a condom. All it takes is one sperm. Good luck and I hope for the best.
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