Holy cow my sister is having another baby

[nikko*ttc]

Okay, my sister had a preemie on May 6th, 2008. He was born around 23 weeks (still not sure of exact time). He came home finally in November. Well, my sister called me a few days ago and said she is pregnant again. When I asked her when she was due she said in 13 weeks. Apparently she has been spotting throughout pregnancy so she thought she had been having a period, plus with all the stress related to David's condition, etc her periods had been really screwed up anyway. It is another boy. I just can't believe it. I do have some issues with this situation. My sister doesn't work, isn't married, and the father is a lazy good for nothing. I am upset that she didn't get on birth control after David and is now bringing another baby into the world with no way of supporting him other than the SSI that she gets for David and welfare. Plus, it would have been good to space them out a bit since it is hard to have two in diapers especially if one has special needs. I am happy for her don't get me wrong just a little unnerved at the whole situation.

[babypooh]

Good luck to your sister :) Hope she ends up getting the support she needs from her child's father!

[Linzola1]

Wow she just found out she is due in 13 weeks. WOW! I have to agree with all the other posters, but with that being siad I can agree with your concerns aswell. Well I wish your sister luck and just remember this baby is a blessing as well!

[cminamyer]

sl629 - It doesn't sound like she made this decision, it sounds like she wasn't thinking.  Or was thinking about her sick baby.

Like Griggsy said, no point in sawing saw dust... I know what you mean about being frustrated though, my SIL's little sister is having a baby after having an abortion less then a year ago... I'm glad she's having this baby, don't get me wrong.  But she could have not had the abortion and kept her other baby.  You would think they would learn.  All you can do is help and do what you can for these babies... GL to you and your family.

[sl629]

Have you talked to her about your concerns? Are you encouraging her to make better decisions? If you are concerned and want to help, you should talk to her and get in her head to see why shes made this decision.

[Griggsy]

No need in sawing saw dust. What's done is done. People make mistakes, and you just have to be there for them to help and forgive. I'm sure she was just as surprised by the whole thing as you were, but it'll work out.