How I said to my mom?

[edlyn_victoria]

I have 14 year old and I have just 3 weks and I don't know how to said to my mom I'm pregnant

[AnnieBrooke]

Good luck!  Write back about how it went.

[edlyn_victoria]

That  sounds like a plan. I will do that thanks

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you in a country where women are believed when they report rape?  I would go to a female relative and tell her that you need to go to the police to report a rape but are afraid, and see if she will take you.  The word will filter back to your mother (and she should not hit you for getting raped).  Then when the consequences of the rape begin to show, she might be more mentally prepared for the possibility and might not be so angry.  

[ShannonLass]

Tell a family member then if you are worried about your mom. If your mom have anger problems thats not right for you or the baby to be around

[louella13]

If your mom is not supportive I would suggest planned parenthood, there are many ways they will help including giving money vouchers counseling and other options. Good luck try not to stress everything will work out but it will definitely be hard at first being pregnant is hard under happy circumstances sorry to hear you're experiencing this but in the end no matter what choice you make it will work out.

[edlyn_victoria]

But how I said to mi mom she have angry problem and she hit me for everything and I'm afraid to she hit my baby

[AnnieBrooke]

Then it seems like the most obvious person to tell is your mother, first telling her that you were raped, and then telling her that you are pregnant.  Is the problem that you think you will not be allowed to keep the baby if you tell her?  Because it seems like she would be the first person to support you.

[edlyn_victoria]

I said that I was raped and that I want to keep my first baby and that I gonna take care of the baby whit my girl friend I'm just pregnant I'm don't have another child this is the first one that ist already in my Stomach

[AnnieBrooke]

I took no offense.  Your other post (that is now removed) said you already had a child that you were raising with your girlfriend, that is why I commented on the bad position you are in, because in having a second baby you would have to raise two children at a very young age.  I see that post is gone, was it incorrect?

[hansen20]

I was raped at 17 and had my son. I didn't tell my mom anything until I was 6 to 7 months along. I lied because I was scared. I do regret not telling her sooner. Just tell her the truth sweetie, you were raped and you were scared to tell her. I think she will understand hun. I thought about all my options even adoption and I could have not give my child up because I knew it's not the babys fault so I decided to keep him and my mom support me and my son until I had a income. I didn't want to press charges because I didn't want to tell them the details of it all because it was so hard.  But I did press charges but he got away with it all. I didn't care at all because it was so hard for me and to this day it's still is hard to talk about but I can tell other ladies to tell someone!  Tell someone sweetie, I know it's hard but you might feel better in the end. I honestly don't think your mom will be mad at you, she will be mad at the guy and want to get you justice like my mom tried doing for me. My son will be 8 November 15th.

[RockRose]

edlyn,  have you told your mother you were raped?  Do you know the man's identity?

[2gs_2bs_andcounting]

I think you should be honest. Mom's get mad because all they want is the best for their babies and when something like this happens they feel they failed their children. Mom's whole purpose in life is to make sure their babies are better off than they were. She will be mad at first but she will get over it. Mom's love is unconditional. Share everything with her, be honest, let her be upset, and in a couple of days things will smooth over. I'd be more afraid of not having mom in my corner helping me. You can do this. Every baby is a blessing from God. Stay positive.

[edlyn_victoria]

Don't offense but i don't have sex because I like it I was raped by the father of my baby  and I don't wanna kill the baby because he don't have de blame.i am 14 yes that is correct but I'm not a **** I was a virgen until the dad of my baby raped me.sou what should I do?

[AnnieBrooke]

You sound like you are in a very bad spot if you are 14 and already have one child.  Where you live, is abortion possible?  Is the law able to find the deadbeat dad and get child-support money from him?  Is adoption possible?