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How do you stop over thinking??

Hiya, so my husband and I are currently in our 1st month of TTC for our second child and I just wonderd what do others do to not over think about it? I feel like I think about it alot only because I'm excited to have another baby but feel I should try and put my thoughts to one side abit and just let it happen without it taking over.
Any answers welcome, Thanks.
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1452614 tn?1312303518
I can relate. ever since me and the hubs have been trying to concieve its been on my mind i think  about it the most when im at work. it seems like i see whole lot of pregnant women on my way to work. come to think about it, it seems like i see either pregnant women or women who just had babies. things like that dont help me to not think about it.

the only advice i can give is to just go about your day because you know not stressing over it helps when TTC. SSBD
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Thank you xx
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572254 tn?1297189358
im in your shoes kirsty!
i am consantly thinking about TTC and ovualtion date etc! it just goes round in my head daily! Obviously having alister does keep me on my toes during the day its usually at night when hes asleep my brain keeps ticking over!

like the others said try keep yourself busy!!!
*****baby dust*****
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505857 tn?1329681517
i'm ttc for my first and have been for 3 years i've now been told IVF is the only way so i've got another 2 and a half years before i get my little miracle, in all honesty there is NOTHING you can do to stop you thinking about it, it will always be at the back of your mind.  It's even worse when your walking down the street and every woman you see is pregnant or pushing a pram or buggie.  All i will say is don't get into the habit of taking a test every month as this makes you even more paranoid when AF is one or two days late and your thinking this is it and you end up with a BFN, also it's a waste of money. I really hope it happens for you first time before the stress and mood swings kick in lol.  I wish you all the best of luck :)
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I'm with the other ladies on this. I found that I would day dream bout telling my bfs girls Nana and how shed react. And telling the girls all the time! I couldn't seem to stop! But I found that when I was around ppl I couldn't tell or working or cleaning or just staying busy! I wasn't thinking bout it.

And ik that all the thinking it is what made me so disappointed when AF came.
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It sounds so right when other people talk about it I am doing all the above lol I am kept busy with my daughter which helps but then sometimes I'll just wonder off into my own little world with it. I love talking to my husband about TTC, but then your right iMazed it doesn't hit the same to men as women I know he's really excited he's wanted to try for another baby longer than me. Maybe MORE talking will do the trick let DH know how much I am really thinking about.
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1434731 tn?1382722384
Hi Kirsty,

My hubby and I are in out first month of TTC but this is for our first child.  I think what you need to do to not over think it is just keep yourself busy.

My hubby is a business owner and always really busy!  so its not on his mind all day long. Well until he talks to me. It seems to be the only thing i can talk about with him the last few days.  But I am doing OPK's right now sooo hes  curious.

For me its not a over thinking and stressful thing!  I am excited. I care for my gramma  everyday so a lot of my time is spent cleaning and making sure she is ok. so I just try to concentrate on her and what i am doing!

GOOD LUCK !!!!!!

SSBD
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875268 tn?1332768851
I found that the worst part of it and there was not much I could do about it. I would have dreams about it, wouldn't be able to focuss on work and stuff like that. The only thing that really helped for me was to talk about it with DB. It drove him mad because aaaaaall I wanted to talk about was babies, but he took a lot of my insecurities away saying that it will be fine, we're gonna get there, you'll see, don't worry about it. After a lot of nagging on my side I figured out that he was just as nervous about it as I was and that was a huge relief. Men don't go through physically what we go through so they don't know what it feels like to get paranoid over every like twang that might be a pregnancy symptom. They worry about it in a completely different way and I really found it helped me when he told me what he was thinking. Don't know if your husband is the talkative type, but give it a shot :) And lots of babydust to you!
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