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How far apart are your kids are you glad?

My hubby and I are trying to decide when to start ttc # 2 but just cant decide
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551604 tn?1333983135
Well my first one is 10 years old and my second is 81/2 months and I'm 31 weeks pregnant.  So the last two will be less than a year apart.  Can't wait to find out how I will handle it, lol!!!
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919335 tn?1309118662
someone who is in the same boat as me!! :)

I will be 33 Jan 30th.. I had both my kids when I was under 18... My daughter whos 18, ,I had at 14.. and my son, whos 14 I had when I was 18..

My kids are the same ages I had them at.. It's weird.  My daughter has been nagging at me for a few yrs now to have another kid.. lol ...

All my kids are summer babies... My son was born in May, daughter in June, nephew in July and now this one in Aug! lol

My bf and I are very excited... This will be my last... lol anyways.. :) this will be an interesting ride!

Lisa
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233562 tn?1282768382
DD will be 5 1/2 by the time this baby gets here. So I voted other. I think having kids further apart allows you to have more bonding time with each child. DD is in school half day so I have that time while she is at school to bond with the new baby. Not to mention it helps to have another hand to help you out when the baby comes and there is always an older child that will be protective of the little one. So over all I think physically, mentally, and emotionally for me having kids at least 4-5 years apart is ideal. Its also great to share the experience with an older child as they understand what is going on and are just as excited as your are.
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well I'm 16 weeks preggo and I have a 14yr old that will be 15 in Sept that I had at  age 18..and the baby will be here in June and Now 33.. I waited so long because I simply wanted my life to be more stable! Huge age difference.....But I know the help from him will come in handy ehen I need to jump in the shower or work out...while daddy is at work.....I'm happy!
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202436 tn?1326474333
I guess I should have elaborated a little more on mine.  My kids ages are as follows:

Oldest Girl - 13
Youngest Girl - 6
Oldest Boy - 5
Youngest Boy - 17 months
and I am now 5 weeks preg.  
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906115 tn?1344200509
My children were 13,15 and 17 months apart and I loved it!!!!! No jealousy and it was wonderful.

Now after dv in 2000 I was remarried in 2005 and we are 14 weeks along. It has been 8 years since I ahve given birth and we are planning to be pregnant again by the time the baby is 6 months old. They have a friend to play with and I just loved it last time. However since I am older now we shall see my energy level and what my body says:) lol
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919335 tn?1309118662
My kids are less than a month from being 4 yrs apart. Neither of them were planned... But I was 14 & 18 when I had them..

I am now almost 33 and am pregnant again. This one was planned though. I am 8w5d. It's like starting all over again... It's going to be different tho than when I was 18!

So this last baby will be 15 yrs apart when born.
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202436 tn?1326474333
Ok I didn't vote becuase it will only let you vote one time....so I'll just tell you mine:

Oldest and next one are 7 years 5 days apart.  Pros:  my oldest could help out a lot more and is now able to baby sit.  Cons:  They are close but not as close as I'd like.

The next two are only 14 months apart:  Pros: they are VERY close...almost like twins, it really wasn't hard to have two in diapers.  Cons:  Sometimes I think they are TOO close...the older one acts like the younger one can't do anything on his own, she answers for himw hen you ask him a question, bosses him around, etc.

the next two were 3 years 11 months apart.  Pros:  The older one was old enough to understand bringing a new baby home.  He was really sweet and loving with him.    Cons:  because they are both boys...now that the younger one is older the older one is getting very territorial about EVERYTHING.  

I am now pregnant again.  There will be about 25 months between these two so we will see how that goes.

I don't think there is any one good age difference...it has a lot to do with the individual children and environmental factors as well.
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mmmm seems like most people are happy with whatever! I think we are going to start ttc in april/may and hopefully have a baby in january or february of 2011....
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1012334 tn?1283702979
my first and my second are 28 months apart and they get along great I loved the spacing, my 2nd and my 3rd are almost exactly 2 years apart birthdays within 2 weeks of each other and again I loved the spacing they can play together and get along for the most part and all 3 are within 4 years of each other, I recently found out I am pregnant again and due in Aug my youngest will be 33 months, so a little farther apart, but I still think they will be pretty close and not to far apart.
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363110 tn?1340920419
My boys are 16 months apart, and considering 1 is a newborn, I'm still trying to adjust. We're very happy to have our boys close in age but the first weeks/months are tough until we get some sort of schedule.
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First two are 22 months apart. Littlest one is 31 months apart (2 1/2 years) from the next oldest sister.

Perfect for us! I think 2 years apart is a great spacing.
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419158 tn?1316571604
My first 2 were almost 3 years apart. I thought that was a good gap for us. Then we had our 3rd when our youngest was 4. so 4 years apart then. And then we had our 4th baby 11 months from the last!! Im still not sure if its a good age gap but whats dome is done, lol. I have to say its alot more work:~) Im glad to be done too! Good luck!
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726324 tn?1324074610
I heard somewhere that 3 years is the best age gap for optimum development of the first child before a new baby come...... So i'd go for 3 years!
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I have a 13 year old son. . ..  I had a baby boy in April this year... which makes him 8 months and i've just recently found out i'm pregnant again, due Aug 10...
Its going to be difficult having two little ones at home, but glad i've got an older son to help out!!
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280369 tn?1316702041
My kids are 16 months apart. At first it was tough, but now I am glad they are so close in age. My older  son LOVES his little brother. =)  No jealously issues whatsoever. But I will admit I was terrified at first and cried most days because it was tough, but now that my son is 3 1/2 months, it's much easier!
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212720 tn?1304375415
My kids will be 3 years apart and I think that is perfect for us. My daughter is more independent and will be a great help with her baby brother. :)    My sister and I were 3 years apart as well...
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1035252 tn?1427227833
My kids will be about 22 months apart and I originally wanted them to be 2 years (didn't think we would conceive this fast) but I'm glad. It will be a lot harder having a 2-year-old and a newborn but I think once we get past the first few years it will be very rewarding.
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My 1st two are 32months apart, and at the start I was hoping they would be alittle closer together in age, but now that I am pregnant with #3 and this one and my youngest will be 20months apart I just dont know how I am going to do it. My 2nd child is still in that needed stage and wants mommy all the time, even when my oldest trys to sit with me my youngest gets upset. If I could do it over again I would prob wait intill he was 2-2.5 before started TTC again.
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1112895 tn?1268581875
I have two that are 7 years apart, and two that are 14 months apart. So I have both ends of the spectrum. They are both neat, but they ones that are close have so much more in common. I always wanted a close family, but God had a different plan for me (my oldest has a different father). But I wouldn't change anything for the world.
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184674 tn?1360860493
My kids will be 5 years and about 2 months (give or take a week or two) apart. At the moment, I couldn't be happier with the age difference. My 5 year old is enjoying the pregnancy and understanding so much about it, and he's eager to meet his baby brother. I really doubt we'll have much of a jealousy issue with him, if any at all, just because he wants to be so involved and we encourage that as much as we can.
Secondly, he's old enough to be independent of a lot of my basic care. He can dress and feed himself, he's potty trained, he is beyond the stage of having to watch him constantly for dangers like putting small things in his mouth and sticking his fingers in light sockets, etc. This way, all my energy can go into doing this for one child rather than chasing after two, which I think will be a huge benefit for my sanity, lol. He also can't wait to help out with caring for the baby, like to help change diapers (believe it or not), give baths, bottles, pick out clothes for him to wear, etc.
I have yet to find out how this will ultimately turn out for another 6 weeks or so, but right now, I'm loving the age difference and for my third child, if we have one, I'd want the age difference to be 3+ years.
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could't do the poll as well number 1 was 5 years old when i hade me 2 boy..#2 was 2 when i hade #3 number 3 was 2 when i hade #4 number 4 was 6 months old when i got pregnant with number 5 due in march 2010 ................all BOYS 5 of them
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395769 tn?1318449682
couldn't do the poll yet because # 2 is due in June. I imagine it will be a challenge, but #1 will be about 30 months and he by then should be potty trained because he's on the right track already. I feel if they were closer than this it would be tough. I think 2 years is good spacing.
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470885 tn?1326329037
There was no option for our situation so I voted "other" - by the time baby no. 2 is here next month, DS will be 3 years, nearly 4 months.  This is the perfect space for us - he's more independent now (even toilet trained!).  My brother and I are 13 months apart, and I honestly don't know how my parents did it!!
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