How (were) are things with spouse/ boyfriend after birth of baby?

[pinkbelle]

I was just curious how your relationships were after you had your baby... it seems like me and my boyfriend's relationship has only gotten better.. while I was pregnant I was a real B**ch we fought alot because of my moodiness but now that we have Aubree it seems like we don't fight as often as we used to. We still find time to lay down together and just cuddle or kiss or just talk about each others day when before when Iw as pregnant we would mostly talk about the baby and what it would be like once she was here... I hear alot of people saying its rough on their relationship after baby is born so I just wondered if you ladies would share your experiences...

[mami1323]

It was rough, we were at each other's throats.  I did most of the work and was resentful.  We came very close to breaking up a few times.  He had different ideas of parenting that I thought were incredibly cruel.  He was the old school mentality and thought that you should let a newborn cry it out and believed that you shouldn't hold a baby too much or put the baby in the bed with you because you will spoil it.  I thought that was horrible and complete bs.  Now things are better as far as him being more receptive to the baby and not using that old school mentality anymore.  We still have other problems but we are trying hard to work on it.  We want to keep our family together.

[BTS1022]

Hubby and I have only grew closer together. When we met I had 1 son from a previous relationship and he was about 6 months old. We too got married very quickly and very young. We met and a month later we were married. Life was great until we hit a hrd rock in our marriage that lasted for more than a year. Our marriage didnt start getting better until we finally got out of the Army and bought a house. Now I am preggers with our 2nd child together and our relationship has been amazing now that im pregnant. He is more responsive to my needs and emotions. I know the stress will be rough on us with a new baby because he has never been around for infancy as he was deployed when our baby was born 2 yrs ago, but I think it will bring us closer just like every other bump in the road has.

[martikadragoon]

Well, honestly our relationship had nothing to do but get better. he'd recently screwed up and tried to cheat on me and there had been alot of verbal abuse between BOTH of us.

We got married young like Joy. We were 18 when we got married. I have this bad feeling that after TJ is here things will be so stressful that we'll take it out on eachother, OR hopefully (I pray) it'll bring us closer.

[pinkbelle]

joy-- I know what you mean about stress... we sometimes snap at each other just because we are so tired but it seems like we forgive and forget really quickly now... when before the baby I would stay mad at him... maybe a sign of maturity.. who knows

martika- i hope your relationship does stay good... its amazing that it has gotten better since you've been pregnant... I was soo moody when I was pregnant I couldnt even stand myself

[JoyRenee]

It was really stressful for us! We were not in a good place. It wasn't until our second daughter was born (16 months ago) that things became absolutely AMAZING! We got married really young and became parents very young, which added to the stress.

[martikadragoon]

IDK cause I've got 5weeks left, but I know since being preggo my relationship has gotten BETTER!! i just hope it stays good until even after TJ is born.