I feel like im a bad person now (long, vent)

[sadies93]

Alright so my fiance and myself found out i was pregnant in November, and we were both so happy and excited and also a little scarred. We told our immiediate family about two weeks after we found out. Well at first everything was wonderful, i was super happy and excited all time (when i wasnt laying in bed feeling like crap from morning sickness lol). Aboust a week before christmas my fiance's side of the family start nagging us, his sister and his mother cant talk to us without saying something mean or hateful about us being pregnant. His mother is always saying stuff like we are going to be bad parents, we wont be able to afford a baby, we dont need a baby, she even went far enough to call me one day and tell me that i should have had an abortion because my child would be better off dead than with me. His sister says alot of similar stuff just not as mean as their mother.
Them saying all of this stuff has just got to me. My dad died Feburuary 4th and ever since then ive been questioning myself. I know i will be a good parent and i will love my son but everything my in laws are saying about me is just getting to me and i really feel like a bad parent now.
I know we may have a hard time at first but we are going to be good parents and are going to be able to afford our baby. My fiance works really hard and i just stopped working recently and plan on going back to work once our baby is about 5 or 6 months old.
I'm 25 weeks pregnant with my first child and my in laws are really starting to get to me with what they say. I feel like a bad person becuase of what they say even tho i know what they are saying isnt true.

Anyone else ever feel like this?

[Bub02]

Your mother inlaw is the evil one who shouldnt have had kids, look at her daughter a cow exactly like her mum. If they were my inlaws I probably would have assulted them by now after wat theyve said. Disown them theyl get the hint.

[mitzileigh]

I'm glad to hear you get along with his dad. Your man seems like a wonderful guy :) keep your chin up and your belly smiling :) you know what's best, trust your heart. Keep us updated! :)

[sadies93]

My fiance likes my family more than his own family. He has already limited how much he talks to them, he only talks to his mom about once a month now and if she gets on the topic of me or the pregnancy he either changes the subject or gets off the phone with her. He was ready to cut his sister out of his life but i wouldnt let him do that because of his nephews, he adores his nephews and if he cut her out then he wouldnt be able to see them.
Only person on his side of the family i even like is his dad, his dad is amazing (my fiance's parents are divorced).
Again Thank you for all of your words, it has all made me feel alot more confident

[PriceFamily91611]

Wow really???? The baby would be better off dead!!!! That is way over board!!! If that was my in-laws they would not be seeing my baby what so ever!!!!! The way I see it if someone is not helping you pay your bills and supporting you they have room to speak on your choices, if they r helping u they shuld never ever say anything about you being a bad person , mom, etc!!!!!

[sadies93]

Thank you all! Your words have helped alot. I guess after hearing them for the past few months and going through everything ive been through its just really hard to always be strong! Thanks again!

[Msme3]

Do not doubt yourself! If you need to cut them out! Don't answer ur phone don't see them, don't have them on fb or respond to text. Distance your self and focus on ur family. I know I have done this in my own life with my in laws. Your hubby I hope is standing up for u n yalls baby telling his family to not speak like that is important! I'm sorry about the loss of your father and I hope you don't allow his family to break you down make u upset or second guess ur self! U determine how great of a parent u want to be!

[Mom2amiracle2012]

WOW! They are going to regret such harsh remarks! You just hold your head up high and do your thing, love! They will BEG to see the baby once its here. :)

[Lesley27]

I agree thats very rude and you dont need people like that in your life! Family or not they are not their to support you then they are not doing any good for anyone! My first thought was the same as the prev post, let them motivate you to be the best you can be and prove them wrong but i would go one step farther and x them out... you dont need that energy bringing you down! and i wouldnt allow them to even see the baby after the baby was born... Seriously telling you "you SHOULD have aborted!!" after the fact on top of that!! thats is beyond disrespectful!! like seriously the nerve of some people! Im seriously mad thinking that they feel they have the right to talk to you like that.... and i dont even know you! all i know is that no one should be disrespected in such a rude way!! thats your baby and life they are talking about... im so sorry you have to deal with this... and do not let them get you down, it sounds like they are unhappy people and must like it when others are just as unhappy... take care! and congrats on your pregnancy! best of luck in the future... i hope you are happy and dont let them bring you down to their level!

[Morrisfamily2012]

Tell them to shove it where the sun don't shine. My mother and sister inlaw try to tell us what to do and how I should raise MY child. I know how frusrating it is. I just say something smart a$$ to them when they **** me off and keep rolling. You can't let people bring you down.

[kimberly070]

You shouldn't listen to them... Make them motivate u to be the best parent u can b...