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I need advice. I'm devastated.

I had a successful pregnancy (twins) in 2009. In July 2012 I found out I was pregnant and we couldn't afford the doc bills, etc, I just wasnt ready... So I terminated the pregnancy at a clinic August 2012. (8wks along) . I will forever hate myself for it, I will never ever forgive myself for it, no matter what. Because GOD knew what he was doing .. Considering money wise we are perfectly fine now! Anyways.. I suffer everyday with the thought I will never have the chance again to have another child. MY bf and I never use a condom and he even "cums" in me.. sometimes around what i think is around ovulation.. I Don't understand.. Could the Termination have screwed me up ?  
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I'm sorry but what these ladies have just told you is really not quite true. One abortion does not make you infertile unless you had crazy complications afterwards which, trust me, you would have known about. Please know what you're talking about and do your research before scaring somebody ladies. It can take healthy people a year to get pregnant. Unless you're using an ovulation predictor kit you really won't know FOR SURE when you're ovulating. Our bodies can be all over the place sometimes. Dont stress over it. Try using a digital opk because they are easy to read and make sure you read the directions. If after a few months of trying that with no luck talk to your doctor. Talk to your doctor now if you are worried. Start taking prenatals now and eat healthy foods...sometimes if our bodies are lacking something it makes it harder to conceive. Good luck
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Thanks! Yeah I was almost 19 when I had my kiddos.. and the abortion was when I was 22.. It's a sucky feeling when your guy wanted that kid so bad and you took it away.. And now that we are "trying" nothing is happening.
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My sister had an abortion when she was in her mid 20s then she got pregnant 2 years ago but had a miscarriage and then it took her 2 years to get pregnant after that. But she has a beautiful 4 month old baby boy now! Maybe it'll take some time? I know abortions to kinda mess with our bodies but you never know. My sister turned out fine! Good luck
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Thank yall so much for the uplifting answers. I feel awful for doing it to my boyfriend, It just felt like the right thing to do at the time.. I was young when I had my twins, and I guess with them being 3 years old at the time.. I didnt think I could physically or emotionally handle it either., I will live with it everyday and I pray for forgiveness every night .. I hate myself for it.. And now that everything is better and I am ready to settle and all.. I feel like I'm never going to get the chance again.
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I completely agree with u edensinterstate,ive had one abortion a yr ago b4  regret it nd for the longest it messed me up emotionally nd mentally smh but i got through it we jus weren't ready nd young.....now im 37weeks boutta be 38 tomorrow nd i was surprised to get pregnant again bc of wat i was tld nd my pwn self doubt now im happy i have a healthy lil girl
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Don't get down on yourself, sometimes you have to make decisions in life that you are not necessarily proud of but in that moment they make the most sense to you. I would talk to my Dr about your issues with trying to conceive so that they can help you with your journey and ease your mind. I had a successful pregnancy in 2007 with a healthy baby boy (a huge surprise!) And because of my severely irregular periods I never got pregnant again (never used birth control and basically laid with my husband how ever I wanted) when we finally wanted to try for a baby it took me 3yrs to conceive and that was with the help of drs and tests to make sure that my reproductive organs were in great shape .. then I wound uo conceiving on my own by making certain life changes and I am now 34w with a baby girl. Dnt stress about it, its a process and it may not be your time at this moment. I hope you are able to find comfort within yourself and forgive the decisions you've made. Good luck
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I find it funny that the people who are pro abortion say there are no problems causing you to have infertility after. And people who are pro life say that it does cause infertility and other complications. I became pregnant unexpectedly 29weeks ago and I seriously considered abortion and I saught out advice on both sides, even my doctor says that it would cause no problems, but I had people pro life telling me all the side affects it can cause mentally emotionally and physically. So honestly I have no idea what the truth is. But don't feel judged, I totally understand the mind set you were in, and I'm sorry you regret it.:(
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I pray to god I am able to have another one :-( Thanks girls..
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I dont even know, I dont know what was goign on in my head honestly it was unexpected and like I said I hate myself for it.
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Yes, abortions can cause infertility, along with problems with our girl organs. Abortions are not good for our bodies.
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Did they not explain the risks to u?? One of them is makin u unfourtale nd not able to get pregnant again although sum woman r stl able to concieve others r not
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