I swear as much as i love him my boyfriend can be such an a@@

[pinkbelle]

So he was registering for classes for the fall semester. no big deal.. So he ended up having classes everyday mon-friday 8-2 and its a two hour drive each way to school from our house... and we both work night shift 1030-7  wed- sat... so I have to be off work (obviously for the baby) and I had to take the fall semester off  even though im due in june because I dont feel comfortable going back to school when my baby is barely two months old and I dont know if I trust anyone to look after it (maybe im paronoid) but that just really ticks me off... it seems like i am the only one making sacrifices for our child and family. with him working nights and going to school all week Im going to be home alone almost all the time taking care of our child by myself.  I understand he has to work but what in the world is wrong with dropping to part tim at school so he can be home with me and the baby more?? Its like he doesnt even think.. I want to finish school just as much as he does but I know the baby is a little more important right now ... argh im so frustrated I could scream

[JoyRenee]

Oh and getting classes done now and while baby is a newborn would be a lot easier because newborns literally SLEEP ALL DAY! So you could definitely work that out. I know some professors aren't strict about bringing your baby WITH you, but you'd have to make sure on that one. My friend went to massage therapy and was able to take her daughter with her some days.

[JoyRenee]

Even when my hubby is home I do EVERYTHING. I'll be in the middle of something and say, "Can you change her diaper?" and he's just sitting there and yells back, "Why can't you?" Uhhhhhhhhhh... duh!

You're not paranoid to not trust anyone with your baby. My cousin's baby has severe brain damage because a nanny shook him. So try classes from home like others have suggested!!!

[pinkbelle]

Ive told him how I feel and he takes it as me telling him to not go at all.. and thats not what I am doing at all.. I dont know if my school has online classes.. I would assume so but not sure ... we both go to lock haven university of pa so I guess I would have to call and find out about the online classes. thanks for the support and the good ideas of how to resolve the issue I really appreciate it :o)

[sfritz]

I can see it from both perspectives. I understand why you would be upset as it is only 4 credits and want him to be home with you more to help out and enjoy the baby. He may be thinking that he wants to get it finished so he can have his degree and be better able to support your guys family. Does your college have online classes. Maybe you can compromise and he can make up those extra 4 credits as an online class so he can be home. You could also look into doing online classes yourself for Fall semester online. I am due in june and do not want to leave my newborn with anyone, so I am doing just 9 credit hours of online classes.

[mami1323]

Have you communicated your feelings to him?  Don't worry, the baby will know him.  Regardless your baby will be closer to you then him anyway.  Your baby bonds with you throughout your pregnancy.  Maybe he doesn't know how you feel.  

[pinkbelle]

Thats what im worried about.. Im worried he's going to be away so much that the baby isnt even going to know him.. I understand that he has to work I just dont understand why he cant go part time its only a difference of 4 credits which could be made up and he would still graduate on time. This wasnt aplanned pregnancy so I understand but i feel like im giving up on things that I want and had planned on. I want to have a good job and I want to finish school just as much as he does but i know there is no way we both can continue to go to school, work and have a newborn ... so I deferred til spring so that he could continue school but I was under the assumption he wouldnt take a full load for the fall.. because of the baby.. Im not asking him to quit school I never ever would.. schools important but what is the harm in taking less now and then making up the extra 4 credits... he would still graduate the same time as he would now.

[mami1323]

Sweetie, he's a man.  You are always going to do more because you are the mother.  Even when my fiance is home with the baby I do most of the work because I just know that I can do it better...lol.  I took time off of work and my fiance worked all the time and I had the same frustrations as you do but it does pay off.  My son is so attached to me because I had that time to bond with him.  Even when he is sitting on my fiance's lap the baby reaches for me.  It will be hard in the beginning and of course you are going to want him there but I wouldn't take back that alone time with my son for anything in the world.

[mamaofonetrying42]

Maybe he wants to finish so he can get a "better" job. So, he can suport all of you???? Maybe, is that what he is thinking???