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I think I'm pregnant - I can use support
I drunkenly hooked up with a friend of mine, and we were too messed up to use protection. I have not been on the pill for 6 months because I have not been having sex.
My period is a week late, and today I took an EPT and it came out positive. I am sick to my stomach; I don't know what to do. There is no one I can talk to about this. I am away at law school, in a strange state, no friends near me, and I feel utterly alone.
I know I have to call Planned Parenthood soon and see about a medical abortion. Has anyone here had one of these? How did it go? I can't believe I was so stupid. I want to cry! There is no way I can have a child right now, and I would never have one like this. I think a baby deserves married parents in a loving relationship, who are financially stable, and ready.
Can anyone give me some support? :(
My period is a week late, and today I took an EPT and it came out positive. I am sick to my stomach; I don't know what to do. There is no one I can talk to about this. I am away at law school, in a strange state, no friends near me, and I feel utterly alone.
I know I have to call Planned Parenthood soon and see about a medical abortion. Has anyone here had one of these? How did it go? I can't believe I was so stupid. I want to cry! There is no way I can have a child right now, and I would never have one like this. I think a baby deserves married parents in a loving relationship, who are financially stable, and ready.
Can anyone give me some support? :(
Do not punish an unborn child for something you have done. I agree with the others PLEASE consider adoption. The child deserves to have a loving family. Good Luck!
I'm not going to preach about what I feel is right or wrong, I'll just tell you about what you asked. When I was 17 under extreme pressure from my parents I had an abortion.the procedure itself was pretty simple took about 30 minutes and cost about 1500 total including pre and follow up visits. I had no problems later but I will tell you that the emotional impact is huge. It is something I still struggle with even though it was 5 years ago. My advice is to really think it through. Think about how you will feel later. No matter what decision you make you will have emotions about it just make sure the decision you make is one you can deal with. Because no matter what the decision is it will stay with you your whole life. Hope this helps a little.
I'm sure that you will have many tell you that you should not have an abortion. You are on a pro-pregancy forum where people are trying to get pregnant so expect pro-life responses. I understand that you are in a bad situation and it happens. I would encourage you to obtain as much information you can about all of your options. I'm sure you already know this, but there are so many couples who would want to adopt your baby and be willing to pay all of your expenses. My brother and I were both adopted but I get it. You have to be willing to be pregnant and that is not an easy decision to make. If you have an abortion, no one will ever have to know what happened as opposed to carrying the baby to term where everyone will know that you had a baby.
Most importantly, talk to some people that have had abortions. I have had several friends who have had abortions and say that it was the hardest, worst thing they had ever done and lived a life of regrets afterwards. Not to say that is everyone's experience, but it is for some of my friends.
You have time to research and make an informed decision.
Most importantly, talk to some people that have had abortions. I have had several friends who have had abortions and say that it was the hardest, worst thing they had ever done and lived a life of regrets afterwards. Not to say that is everyone's experience, but it is for some of my friends.
You have time to research and make an informed decision.
hon, first have you ever spoken to someone who has had an abortion? the reason i ask is b/c it can mess your uterus up to where you will never be able to have kids and second b/c yrs and i mean yrs later they still get broken hearted over it and wish they wouldn't have done it. my mom had an abortion when she was 15 after her father raped her. til this day the word "abortion" breaks her heart. she said it is the post painful thing she ever went through physically and emotionally, not to mention the infections that can start in and if you think a baby would make your life over, than you haven't read up enough on abortion. with adoption someone can take care of your baby financially, physically, etc and give him or her the love he or she deserves. i dont know your religion and dont mean to offend u but abortion is a lot bigger sin than pre marrital sex. also god never gives us anything we cant handle and a child is the greatest gift anyone could ever get. there is always ways to get help with childcare and expenses so you can finish law school. women do it every day and wouldn't have it any other way. good luck and best wishes. hope u never regret your decision.
I am no one important to be getting advice from but I do want to let you know that my first child was concieved unplanned at the age of 15 and I was 16 when I had him with his father no where to be found (I did know who he was just he did not want a child) and like I did at that age. I thought long and hard about aborting the pregnancy but the thought kept on runing through my mind how will this child be one day it could be the next cure for cancer or something, so I decided at about week 8 that abortion was no longer an option and adoption would probably be best. I never felt that I could provide for it being a single mother at my age. I began to feel this little thing inside of me move around and I feel in love with him instantly. I decided I was going to try and if I can't do I would know that at least I tried and this child would know that I did it because I loved him not killed him out of regret. It is know almost 4 years later and he is a very healthy little boy playing, going to school, and one of the most important things in my life. I have graduated high school, recieved my CNA's in high school and now a few time student in nursing recieving a degree for him to help make up for the thought of not wanting him. Everyday that I look at him I am so greatful that I did not make that decision. I hope this has helped you. I know how it feels to make mistakes we all do it just please give that baby that is growing inside of you a chance to see it's future. Good luck with you decision.
Abortion is no NOT supposed to be plan B after you decided to not use protection. If you can manage to strip and have enough aim to get to your destination than "drunk" shouldn't be an excuse/reason. Unless we are talking rape, disease, risk to your health than you have yourself a very hard decision to make. You're at Law School so I have no lessons for you about what's justified and what isn't. Good luck with this - It will probably prove to be the hardest decision you will have to make - you are the judge and the jury... hopefully you aren't the executioner as well. Take a deep breath, this seems impossible right now but it isn't the end of the world, it's a part of life. Take yourself out of the equation for 1 minute and look at your dilemma... Talk to your friend. Honestly.... I wish you serenity of thought and wisdom in your actions. It isn't easy being in a situation like yours but deciding to terminate a pregnancy because you were drunk and horny ..?.... come on... After a certain age we are all responsible for our actions and we live with the consequences, Find someone to talk to you need to digest this and get through it. One way or another live will go on for you - It isn't as catastrophic as it seems......
feel free to email my Medhelp account if you want to hear my story.......Good luck to you.....
I always wondered what bump means! Anyways. I agree 100% with njeosys. I am 18 and graduated high school a few months ago. I found out I was pregnant in september. I was so happy and wanted the baby. I knew I was not in a situation to become a mother, the father did not want me to go through with it either. He told me I would ruin both of our lives. I looked up the procedures for abortion and the risks for your body, future pregnancies, etc. It was horrible! I explained it all to my baby's father and he had a complete change of heart and apologized. As I told him, If you are mature enough to have sex, you are mature enough to handle the consequences of it! We decided to keep it and he was so supportive after that. I would never consider abortion personally, but we understand how you feel. Unfortunately my pregnancy ended in miscarriage, leaving both me and my boyfriend devastated! I just hope you really think everything through before you make a decision. Give the baby a shot at life, its not its fault that you made a mistake and created it. It did not create itself. Not to judge you at all, you are human! Just please consider keeping it or adoption. If you keep it, you will not regret it. If you abort it, you most likely will regret it. Good luck mommy!
I always wondered what bump means! Anyways. I agree 100% with njeosys. I am 18 and graduated high school a few months ago. I found out I was pregnant in september. I was so happy and wanted the baby. I knew I was not in a situation to become a mother, the father did not want me to go through with it either. He told me I would ruin both of our lives. I looked up the procedures for abortion and the risks for your body, future pregnancies, etc. It was horrible! I explained it all to my baby's father and he had a complete change of heart and apologized. As I told him, If you are mature enough to have sex, you are mature enough to handle the consequences of it! We decided to keep it and he was so supportive after that. I would never consider abortion personally, but we understand how you feel. Unfortunately my pregnancy ended in miscarriage, leaving both me and my boyfriend devastated! I just hope you really think everything through before you make a decision. Give the baby a shot at life, its not its fault that you made a mistake and created it. It did not create itself. Not to judge you at all, you are human! Just please consider keeping it or adoption. If you keep it, you will not regret it. If you abort it, you most likely will regret it. Good luck mommy!
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