I try so hard.

[daret1615]

I'm 24 weeks pregnant, I'm SO happy about having my baby boy. I'm trying so hard in college and trying to have something done so by the time my baby gets here I don't have to worry about school until he's a little older. My parents don't see that. To them I'm just a low life mediocre. I'm just another "dumb girl" having a baby without having a house or a "nice car". I have my mind set up to how I want my future to look like and it's not good enough for them. My bf works his butt off to save money up so we can find a place of our own. They say he's a mediocre as well. They make this so hard on us, we're actually trying to have a good place for our son to live in and working hard so that our baby doesn't have to worry about anything. My parents say that we're doing everything wrong, that we should listen to them. I'm just so stressed out and sick of them always thinking that they're right, they don't care what we do, they just want us to do everything exactly how they say. I love them but we have goals to reach of our own, we can't follow their foot steps. I'm sorry I just have to vent all this out since I'm always alone and have no one to really talk to :(

[daret1615]

Thank you ladies! Honestly you've made me feel a lot better. I hope everything goes good for all of us and we continue to succeed! As of our parents, we should just put them aside and do us. Be super successful and let that be an example for our babies :) I'm alone all day and I don't have friends at all so it's hard for me to talk to someone about this but now that I got it off my chest I feel so much better!

[african_mama_bear]

Right I was in the same boat I raised my little brothers made them dinner all that it's just been me while they did them smh it's sad but it helped me also become the strong independent person I am today which is why I have not failed in life and I won't I know y'all can do it you sound like a determined person and your boyfriend sounds like a hard worker don't allow them to make you feel less than what you know you are y'all got this

[Roxxxy915]

Whattt? & there not happy that your still going to school & havent gave up & there not happy cuz yer bf is wrking his butt off to provide the best for you & your baby? WOW! But let me tell you im proud of you guys & yes , u should b excited about yer blessing (bbyboy) . & another thing living in a mansion & havn a nice car isnt everything!! Just ignore em after all when you graducate they'll b proud & will adore your son !! & be happpy that yer bf is around like the cmnt above said no matter what u do ppl always talk .

[daret1615]

Wow I give you props for that! That's so sad how your mom doesn't realize how hard you're working to provide for your babies and be better than how she was. That's what I go threw with my parents. I feel you on that, we're supposed to be better/more successful than them and our kids are supposed to be way more successful than us! That's just how it goes, but it seems like our parents want us to be just like them and that's not right. My parents baby the f*** out of my brother and that kid doesn't even know how to order his own damn food and he's 16 but yet my parents say I'm a little low life girl that doesn't know anything when I was always alone while they were always working and doing them. I've always done everything by myself, never needed them for anything. If there wasn't food made I would always make food for my siblings and I. I took care of them for the longest time while my parents were so busy arguing and being with their family members. I'm an independent adult thanks to them being so neglent since I was 14. Idk where they get that I'm this little girl that always needs of them. You're right, we should just worry about ourselves and our babies cuz regardless of how good we're doing, someone always has something to say!

[daret1615]

That'll most definitely happen, I know they'll be all "happy" for me. I'm just so stressed out. Like I'm all excited for my extern next week and my parents just have to kill it and they just suck the happiness and excitement out of me. Idk it just really ***** being in this position. All I know is that it won't be forever! Good things should come our way soon :)

[african_mama_bear]

I feel you my mother doesn't want me to follow her foot steps and she thinks I'm going to end up just like her so she is hard on me and I honestly don't see why she had her first kid at 17 I had mine at 21 she didn't finish high school I was top of my class and had the choice to graduate early but chose to stick with my class she didn't go to college and is working at a nursery home although I haven't finished school yet I have two semesters under my belt and never got under a B I moved out at the age of 18 and was working and doing school she didn't she works like a slave for my dad and never put her kids first there were times when we didn't have lunch money for school because she gave my dad all her money and my dad never gave us money we have been evicted 5 times because of that smh she feels I'm throwing my life away for my children's father because she don't like him she wants me to be home with her and my evil sister and basically do nothing but focus on school and keep my children's father away I don't get why I would put my kids through what my brothers have been through and myself by getting evicted and being around violence all she wants to do is fighting and argue and I don't want that for my kids idk what issues she has with their dad because when he's in her face it's cool behind his back it's an issue it's really annoying to the point where I had to cut her off my daughter don't know her my unborn child won't either if she doesn't stop like she just wants me to sit home not work hard for my kids and depend on her but I cnt even do that when I tried to do that after I had my daughter the sheriffs came and she was getting evicted my daughter's grandma on her dad's side had to come get us I never want my children to go thru that but to her all I'm doing is throwing my life down the drain and goin to end up like her lol just ignore it honestly if you know you guys are doing the best y'all can for y'all kids that's all that matter dnt let someone put you down or make u feel like you not doing what you gotta do for your kids people gone talk and be judgmental who gives a ******* do you boo

[alexis444]

I feel your pain my parents were the same! Funny thing is once your successful they will tell you how proud they are. Parents just think they know best I'm sure we will sometime be the sane oce our little ones grow up