Oh btw...my cousin was 18 at the time of her pregnancy. 19 when she moved in
Thanks ladies! sweetangel, there is no reason that your post would make me dislike you. I found your answer very noble..and as you can see I am not trying this month! I swear that if I get AF I will be going right back on BC. I don't want to be pregnant for once! It would be an accident if I am. Were not actively TTC just not being extra cautious. I know what it will take, I have lots of friends and family members that became young moms. My cousin actually moved in with my family when her some was just a few months old. I remember her visiting before that when he was only 6 weeks and I would hold him nonstop and he would sleep on my chest..just amazing. And I am not the average young person. I hate parties, I have a few friends but I don't go out much so being home with a baby won't bug me as much as it would for a partier that had a baby by accident. If I do get a BFP this weekend I will be in love with my baby from the start. I know all I can do is let everything fall into place. I will be as responsible as possible from this moment on.
I also believe that I wouldn't be given more then I can deal with. I wholeheartedly believe I can give the baby everything it needs, I am just worried about the fiance getting stressed! But I will just repeat what Linzola said. We will both be 20 by the time the baby arrives. So we won't have the excuse that were still teens, not that I would use it. I would be happy to be pregnant but its not in my plan at the moment.
Thanks for all your honest responses, they mean lots. I will keep everyone updated! Either way I will be happy.:)
I am a firm believer that God dosnt give us anything we cant handle so if you are indeed pregnant then looks like it is in Gods plan. I agree with Joy that all you really need the first year is diapers and wipes and formula unless you are breastfeeding...Best of Luck and keep us posted...
Well, I don't want to sound bossy or overly opinionated BUT here I go at the risk of being disliked, I am going to tell you how I feel...I know you had a mc in September and I am sure that was very difficult for you BUT you and your fiance are very young to be starting a family...IT IS TOTALLY YOUR CHOICE AND I AM NOT TRYING TO JUDGE but having a baby does make it more difficult to set the foundation for your life...and you have your whole life ahead of you. If your fiance goes to school he will have so many more opportunities to provide for you and a family and it will be so much easier the younger he starts and finishes. Also, regardless of whether he has a LD or not, going to college is a big commitment and more times than not, requires the significant other to step up to the plate and help study, and give feedback and destress. And, I'm not sure about what you want to do for a career but maybe this would be a good time in your life to explore your choices. My husband and I are high school sweethearts and we knew we wanted children but we wanted to wait until we were married, settled in our careers and education, and had a home...we did it in that order...and we couldn't be happier except for the fact I mc'd in december...that wasn't in the plan! For some reason, I think that if this isn't your month, that you should reconsider ttc for a couple years and enjoy being married, enjoy sleeping in on weekends, enjoy going out to eat, enjoy getting in the car and going without having to think about packing up a baby etc. I think our marriage would have been different not bad but different had we had children at 19. We were able to satisfy out desires to have things and go places and now we can honestly say we are ready for children without reservations and regrets. HOWEVER, if this is your month, and you do get a bfp then it was meant to be and all you can do is let everything fall into place. It is not impossible to go to school with a baby at home so regardless, I would still encourage your fiance because it will only help the two of you in the future. Best wishes!
Oh I forgot to say that he was allergic to lidocain! and they gave him the amount that would kill a horse...
I agree...but heres another thing. My fiance is dislexic...he broke his arm when he was a child and they OD'ed him on Lidocain at the hospital and killed him, once with the OD and another with the shockers...so he developed brain damage, not that you would know it at all(hes completely normal). He approached me that he wanted to go to ITT tech...and I am SO proud of him for making that decision. I know I would need to help him study and possibly tudor him on things, because he's already told me so and asked me for help in the future. He would be starting in Sept...but I feel like if I tell him I am pregnant he will decide not to go! Or that he can't afford it! I don't want to ruin his dreams..I know he wouldn't hate me and he would be happy with a baby in our lives...but I don't want to put stress on him....
I don't know what to say other than I believe that things always work out and like Joy said, you'd have 9 months to prepare for it. Also, I don't think many people feel like they are 100% financially ready for a baby...it can be overwhelming to think about but my doctor told me that if I waited until I thought I was financially ready, I might not ever be ready...does that make sense? Anyways, good luck! Keep us posted!
Well remember that if you are pregnant you have 9 months to figure things out. We lived well below our means. And honestly you don't really have to buy a whole lot but diapers and wipes that first year. Baby will drink breastmilk/formula (you can try to get WIC for formula) and people will buy you things (clothes, furniture, etc.).
While putting a lot of stuff on credit cards is not wise, obviously, we had to put a few of the big purchases on one and when we got our tax return the following year we were able to pay it off (it was less than $1000 in debt).
So if you stockpile with diaps and wipes you should be fine! It's not until baby is closer to starting school that the money issues arise. Just be frugal and you guys will figure it out!