In trouble

[jbann]

Hey,
I am a 21 year old girl and i dint get my periods from the last 35 days. Just for fun i took the strip test and found out that it gave a positive result. I freaked out and my friends took me to do an ultra sound test. The report said the following things.

Anteverted uterus, containing single gestational sac in the fundal region. Size 7.9mm  
Gestational sack 4 weeks 5 days old.
Enlarged Right Ovary
Left ovary Size = 2.4cm x 1.4cm
Right ovary Size =5.3cm x 3.8cm

I cannot keep the baby since i am too young for it.
I just want some opinion on

1. what does the Dispropotionate ovaries imply?
2. Can it cause issues during abortion?
3. How old is my baby? Does Gestational sack age tells me the time it was fertilized?
4. What are the options of abortions do i have? Which one is the safest? Is there any risk to my life or health?
5. What are the chances of me no fertilizing again later in my life? If the doctor says i might have issues with fertilizing again, what are the ways i can reduce such a risk?
6. The doctor said that they dint find any heart beat as yet, How much time do i have?

Thanks.
I am really scared.
Please help.

[swade]

I know what you are going threw.. At 16 I had my frist son, and no one wanted me to have him... 20 I had my second son, while I was in my senior year of college and doing an intership.  A 1.5yr later, I had a AB due to the fact that is was the best thing for my other childern, I couldnt give them the life they deserved starting a new career.  but you are 21, and have no idea what it is like to never know if that was the little girl you wanted, or if that AB caused the Miscarriage you had in your 30's, you think day in and day out, what life would be like looking into those babies eyes, and seeing your future.  You have time to think things over, and there are many many women out there that would love your baby and give them a great life.  There are sooo many programs to help you, support you, finacially and emotionally.. And being that mother, brings out something in you, that makes you a superhero in that babies eyes, and gets you out of bed in the morning and keeps you from doing something you may regret, a baby in some ways may save your life, because you think of things in a whole new life.  It is your life, and your decision alone.. But you can do it, I did it alone, I stood tall, got good grades, and now have a wonderful husband, a great house, two wonderful boys, 15 and 11, and am 5 months pg with my third.  Life deals you only things you can handle, and dont always take the easy way out.  Have that baby, and trust me, you will regret it, and if you are not cut out to be a mommy, someone out there will give that baby the world wrapped out with ribbons.. I wish everyday I had that baby, but know that I did the right thing for my boys, and not for myself.. god bless you, and you are an adult who needs to make the right decisions...

[njeosys]

jbann, I know unexpected pregnancy can come as a shock, but you do not have to make a decision for abortion today or even this week. Think about it, do some research. Here are some good websites.

www.abortionfacts.com
www.hopeafterabortion.com  ---this one is good because it offers you stories of what other women went through emotionally and physically after their abortions.

You don't need to see gruesome pictures or descriptions, but I believe listening to these women's stories can help you to make a better decision.

There is always adoption so another family who can't have babies can be blessed. Or you can always try to keep your baby. It IS possible, even with all you're going through, to raise a baby. It might make it harder, but you will not regret losing that baby.

At 5 weeks pregnant, "The foundation for every organ system is already established and beginning to develop. At this age, the first signs of brain development are evident, and the ribs, vertebrae and muscles begin to form. The developing lungs are evident, and the heart, about the size of a poppy seed, is the first organ to function. The beating heart can be seen on ultrasound."

You have a little life inside of you. Oprah interviewed Planned Parenthood and other pro-choice people and THEY even admitted, "Yes, life begins at conception."

Whatever you choose is a choice you can't take back. Make a wise choice and PLEASE know you can message me and speak with me any time.

[kjbutcher]

you are not too young.  a baby can be the happiest thing in your life, however if you arent ready, you are the only one that can make that decision.  your baby's heart has started beating, it is just too small to see.  you wont see it beating until 7 weeks.  i think you have until 12 weeks to get an abortion, however the sooner you get it, the safer it is.  the safest way to abort is a surgical abortion.  the other ways can leave you with stuff still in you and you could end up having to get a d&c afterward.  an abortion is a really hard thing to go through, so make sure you are mentally prepared to go through that.  it is something you will think about for the rest of your life.  it can leave you with problems in the future, just like anything else.  it doesnt happen that often though.  just like any surgery, it can be life threatening.  good luck with any decision you make.  I hate to be this way, but please dont take into consideration all of the people on here who are trying to have a baby.  this is a life changing experience for YOU.  their fertility problems do not affect you and should not have an affect on your decision.  I dont see one person on here offering to adopt or pay for or help raise your child.  

[honey1982]

you sure arent to young sweetie you can do it if your in college you can still go to school get your degree and raise your child, or you can give the baby up for adoption. i would do anything just to pee on a stick right now and have a positive pop up but thats not going to happen right now af came to pay me a visit. just think it over. my sister  had an abortion listening to my cousin she was in h.s. i pleaded with her not to do it i told her i would herlp her but she had the abortion anyway. you know i had to help her up the stairs , fix her food, get her water, and she even told me what they did to  the baby she said it was a little boy. she said they did a lot to this innocent baby after they performed the abortion. i wont say what they did but use your imagination. i am not trying to be harse. but please think it over and whatever you decide is totally up to you. you know she  even tell her baby daddy she had a misscarriage but she really had an abortion then she got  pregnant again this time she really did miscarry,. and now she has a little three year daughter so in the end she could've kept my little nephew but she didnt. but goodluck in your decisions sweetie and take care of yourself

[tarajanes]

Your ovary is slightly larger,due to you more than likely ovulated from that ovary,after ovulation you have a corpus lutheam cycst over it making it enlarged,this is normal in pregnancy as its supplying progestereone to hold your pregnancy.once you have your child or whatever decision you make it will dissappear and return to normal,..there isnt any proven facts to prove abortions cause future problems in concieveing.whatever your reasons are for an abortion,have you actually read exactly what it entails,do you think you are a strong enough person to live with that guilt.there are plenty of options,i myself am one of these women who are always on this forum,and have suffered mc,and eptopics,and was hoping this was my best xmas ever but sadley not,i dont know your circumstances,so im not going to judge you,but dont just assume there is no other option.have you spoken to the babys father,what does he say,it takes to 2 to  concieve a child,is this what he wants.you say you normally use protection,but was un expected,it only takes once to get pregnant,then why should a human life suffer because of an un expected incident.honestly girl,try to confide in a family member,or speak to a councillor,good luck.

[jbann]

thanks for the morale booster.
Right now, the disproportionate ovaries seems an issues too and not many seem to know about it.
Can anybody give me an insight on that?
Is it linked to the pregnancy or some issue from birth or developed later?
What could be the causes and what threats can it pose?

[kcs08]

Do you have family that you could confide in?  Maybe your boyfriends mom?  Can you call the doctor-usually you can at least speak with a nurse.  I would find out what an enlarged ovary means.  Hopefully there is not something more serious going on.  And ask if your uterus is capable of carrying a baby.  You will still be able to get pregnant later in life but I would check to make sure that you are healthy first.  PLEASE confide in an adult-well, you are an adult but confide in someone that you look up to.

[adawning4]

1) i dont really know
2)abortion alone causes issues
3)Your babies heart may already be beating makeing it a "BABY"
4)Yes there is a risk to your health and your life, infections can happen that could take your life. The safest  and best option for abortion is to keep your baby or give it up for adoption!!!!!
5)The chances you may not fertilize again are very high. Not only that but have you thought about karma????
6)You refered to your baby as my baby! You dont really want to take that babies life????

You are not to young to have a baby I had my first at 20 I am now 25yrs old and trying for my 3rd. the way I see it if you dont want a baby and you dont want to take responsibility for your actions stay off your "back".... Abortion is not contraceptive!!!!! Nor is it a quick fix to your problem. Can you handle the emotions for the rest of your life and the guilt your going to feel. If you dont want your baby give it to someone who does! There are plenty of families who would kill to have a baby. Dont take your babies life because your irresponsible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[MomNpain]

You're not too young - a lot of us women here are age 21 and younger and have kids or are trying for them. I'm 20 myself and not "too young" at all to have a child.

No one on this forum will advise you on how to get an abortion. All I can say is, if you don't want to get pregnant, or if you think you're too young for a child, you're too young to be having sex and obviously not responsible enough. Your baby is about 5 weeks old. Within the next week, it will have a beating heart. Just keep that in mind. Also know that abortion isn't your only option. There are thousands of families out there that can't have children that would be more than happy to adopt the baby that you have growing inside of you. Look into this.

[jbann]

Well i always used the condomn during intercourse and usually take precautions. This was totally unexpected and i am still in shock.

[KellyA74]

an LJ307 is right.....the LARGE majority of people in this forum are those who have miscarried, are having fertility problems, and desperately want children...not to deter you from here, but you may want to look into finding a forum more suited for your intentions.

[KellyA74]

i'm not exactly sure at what point the sac starts to develop....as far as abortion goes, i know that there are injections that they can give, but i think those may only be for a wanted pregnancy that is not viable...whereas you are CHOOSING to terminate a supposed healthy pregnancy, I believe there's only one option....dilation and suction.  My friend had an AB due to a rape in high school and has since had 2 healthy pregnancies, so I don't believe that there should be issues in the future when trying to get pregnant, as I know others who have had them as well.....Have you educated youself on abortion?  Do a search in google.com so that you know what's to be expected.

[LJ307]

Nobody here is going to give you advise on how to have an abortion.  Most woman on this forum have desperately ttc and want their babies.  You know if you weren't ready for a baby then you weren't ready for unprotected sex.  Abortion isn't birth control.  Have your baby, give someone and your child the biggest most precious gift a human being can bestow, a life.   Adoption is my advise for you not abortion.