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I've Made A Decision!!!
So I've made up my mind to leave my bf(babbydaddy).. My thinking is if i leave he will see I'm serious and he will make the design he has needed to make for the past while... i am going to keep the names we have pikked out n I'm still giving the baby his last name... i don't have much support her in Memphis or back home so i might as well stay here so my child can still have is father... i live him to death and i have proved that but it's time he stepped up and shows he wants to be with me and our son to be child... guess you could say the ball is in his court now... THIS IS WHERE I NEED ADVISE: do i still let him come around?? Even if we aren't together in any kind of way..OR do i wait to be leaves the girl he with??
i believe you are doing the right thing here. I think the girlfriend of three years should know what she is getting into though. what if he proposes and has no idea he has another family! he's lying to her and he's cheated on her. I think she deserves to know. If I were you I would tell him she should know since a big chunk of his money will go to help with your baby. in this case, ignorance is not bliss.
In my opinion, if he wanted to come to Dr appointments or wanted ultrasound pics, great. BUT after he told his family and quit treating the baby like a mistake that needs to be kept secret. I did the whole "let the baby daddy be around all the time" thing with my first and it's am emotional roller coaster that you don't deserve to be a part of. You are a beautiful, strong, intelligent woman who is about to become a mother. You deserve a million times better than what you are getting right now. So does that precious baby. God bless you both!
I agree with angelmom. I hope you are doing okay. Did you tell him what you decided? How are things going at the er and with what you told him? Good.luck and i wish you the best.
I think your doing the right thing for you and ur baby, don't use the baby against him, at the end of the day he is the father and through child should have his last name... Continue to do what's best for your child. U don't have to be together for him to be a good father so if he wants to be around let him.
sorry to hear you are having complications. i'm sure the stress doesn't help.
i am all for your departure and even for naming baby after him. i think he should get access to baby if he is interested. my main concern is the girlfriend of three years. does she know he's been cheating on her? if i were this girl I would want to know so i could plan my future accordingly. i think she has the right to know if she doesn't already know.
i am all for your departure and even for naming baby after him. i think he should get access to baby if he is interested. my main concern is the girlfriend of three years. does she know he's been cheating on her? if i were this girl I would want to know so i could plan my future accordingly. i think she has the right to know if she doesn't already know.
This is not the 1st grand child.. this is his first child... he has 13-14 neices n nephews.. pregnancy isn't a big ordeal with his family... but that's not the point... i understand what your saying... right now I'm waiting on him to show up to take me to er because I'm having complications...
If he cheated on her, or threw away her relationship with her, he'll do the same to you. I'm not saying he's throwing it away to be with you, but he was irresponsible, and now he's not stepping up, a MAN is someone that stays committed to one person, and sticks by their side through everything, especially a child being brought in the world, so tell him to choose.. I would NOT tolerate feeling like second best.
I wouldnt put up with it i would move on from your ex its not worth the time and effort your just wasting your time cause he never going to change do u really think he going to leave that other he been with for 3yrs he not he just sayinf he well so u wont talk about it anymore plu he hasnt told.his family about u or there first grandchild is on the way what can of man does that and he older then he should be acting like a man not like a boy im telling u kick him to the side cause things are not going to get better All je cares about is himself if u really think about it u say he cares for the baby then u should tell his family that he having a kid but it seem like he ashm to tell them cause your just the girl on thr side and they only know about the girl.he been with for a while i think u should think about it more do u really want your child to see all this drama
Dont let him come around at all. He really has no reason to, wait till the babys born & see how things go. He doesnt deserve to hsve his cake & eat it too, hes being selfish. The guy is almost 40 already & playing this little high school 2 girlfriends games. If u respect yourself enough hold your ground & do not let him come around, especially not sexually.!!
i think you made the right decision for yourself. he might not ever leave the girl he is with of three years. to be and still be with her this long there has to be love. you need to focus on you and the baby.
He cares about the bby very very much.. he just got himself into a tight predicament.. im jus giving him time to figure out wat/who he wants.. whether he picks me or here i no he will always b there for his bby.. that is y i am still giving the bby the name he picked and his last name..
OK sorry but I left and stuck around. If he doesn't care about the baby now he wont ever. If he doesn't treat u right now he wont ever. I would not give the baby his last name or have him sign the birth certificate.this sound harsh but like I said I did what your thinking if doing. It ended up not being the best thing for my daughter at all.
Ummm... this makes me sound like a homewreckin b***h... he has been with me four 7 months and his girl for 3 years... i didn't know at first but found out pretty soon.. i thought out was just going to be a fling kind of thing.. he kept saying he was going to leave her(i never ask him to) but is Ben one excuse after another on why he hasn't yet... he has been there financially for me but not emotionally... his family doesn't even know his first baby is on the way... he is 38. I am 21... i thought he was more grown then that.. i love him but im hurting... i think this is just best... i fell horrible for what ice done
Glad you made the decision to stay near him for your childs sake ! Not many people would i think its selfish, but i wouldnt contact him unless its about the bby, that way he will realize your not interested & maybe realize wat he realy wants! Is he with somone else?
I say if he puts forth the effort to come around as long as he is calm, clean and shows he truly wants to be there for the baby then yes. Let him come around. If he seems to only want u and isn't too concerned about what's going on with the baby then no way. I think you are doing the right thing. Baby always comes first. Way to go!
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