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Just a few rants...Kinda OT

I have a few rants to make today...It's been a hectic and stressful day, well week.

First Rant- My hot water heater went out earlier this week. We told the landlord and he came to fix it pretty quickly(The next day), so with that I had no complaints. However I was told by a friend of mine who lives in the same neighborhood, that the landlord was getting a divorce because he has used his keys to enter people's houses, and had been harassing a young woman to have sex with him. He did go to jail for a few days, as DF and I seen the cops and the landlord taken away. If the stories are true...It makes me slightly paranoid. I am home alone during the night until early morning as DF works. And I feel like my privacy is at stake. I'm scared to have windows open, I'm scared to take the dog out at night, and even more scared to sleep alone. DF and I have been discussing moving pretty soon because of this, so we will see where it goes. Hopefully we can move before Kora is here in December.

Second Rant- I was dropping my oldest DS off at school today, and his principle was outside helping children off the school buses. As I was walking my son to class, the principle makes a few comments. The first one was "Looks like you could go into labor any minute". I said no, I am not due until December, so I have a few more months to go until then. The principle then raises his eyebrows and says "WOW your HUGE".....You know, I really wanted to say a few choice words to him, but I didn't want my son getting expelled or suspended for my mouth...so I bit my tongue. But seriously, there are things you just DO NOT say to pregnant women. I do look like I am full term, however I am very small...just 4'9 and 100 pounds before pregnancies. I have only gained 15 pounds this entire time...so I don't see how I am so huge? I am all belly....DF says you can't even tell I'm pregnant from the back, it's only when i'm sideways or if you see me from the front obviously. I wanted to just stick my foot so far up this guys @ss it wasn't even funny.

Third Rant- I need sex...wait, no...I NEED NEED NEED SEX!!!! LOL. I have been treating a yeast infection for a week now, so obviously no sex until it's taken care of, and i'm withering away, or at least I feel like I am. I so cannot wait to be all better so I can finally have sexy time with the DF lol. It's hard going from 5-6 days a week to a big fat 0 times a week. I pleasure him....but since I have this yeast infection...i'm left out to dry so to speak lol.

Last Rant- My son is 6. He has been tested for school and is at 1st grade reading, and writing levels. However he is in Kindergarten. I spoke with his teacher about possibly challenging him with harder reading material than what he is bringing home, which is basically 2 pages of pictures. His teacher told me today that she wouldn't have ANY issue giving my son more of a challenge or even bumping him up to first grade, but when my son is at school, he claims he cannot even read the picture books, and he is very slow and pokey at doing his class work. I am sooooo irritated at hearing this. This little boy can read pages from the bible...a regular, not children's bible. He reads the dictionary and encyclopedia's for his bedtime stories(he chooses his own books to read), and it is NOT forced at all. But yet he is playing "stupid" in school. I just don't get it. I told my son he needed to get his act together or he will be home schooled...which he didn't want to hear. My son can read, write at 1st grade level, do 2nd grade math, and is bilingual in Spanish...and is currently learning to speak French as DF speaks it. I don't know how to approach my son about this, and get him to show his full potential in class. I obviously want what's best for him, but not using the knowledge he has as he is not in the grade he needs to be in, seems to be making him fall back instead of move forward in his studies. I'm just at a loss.

OH BTW- Wal-Mart here has a TON of baby onesies and outfits for $2 bucks. DF is taking me shopping for Kora tomorrow to get some. I'm soooo excited to FINALLY be buying PINK!!!!! LOL.
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184674 tn?1360860493
Some private schools have a financial aid program.
I send my son to a private school and the only way I'm able to send him there is because we qualify for the financial aid they offer through their own private program. It's a wonderful school and well worth the money; they have a 100% graduation rate of their alumni going into college, and more than half of those alumni get into college on a scholarship. Just this last year, two or three of their students got full academic four year scholarships from winning the National Merit Scholarship. In fact, most of their alumni graduate college and further their educations to get master's and doctorate degrees as well.
I'm thankful beyond words that he can go to this school on financial aid. But we still pay just under 50% of his tuition, plus his uniforms, lunches, field trips, school supplies, book orders, and contribute towards certain fundraisers. It's expensive! So I know what you mean...but check out some of your local private schools and see if any of them have a financial aid program or tuition assistance. Many do. Either that, or they work out a way for you to make payments that fit into your budget.
Good luck!
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1303813 tn?1303159362
I wouldnt either (With the candy thing) Halloween is an Exception! LOL.

I think as you threatened home schooling he might buck his ideas up. Maybe! As well as talking to the teachers might help too..

xx
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Yeah it's just frustrating to know that he is getting babied. I do agree that being babied to a certain extent is okay, but not when it comes to education. I feel bad for not being able to put my son in Private school this year, but it's a HUGE struggle to pay $483 a month for school, and Private school's nickel and dime you for EVERYTHING! on top of the tuitions. Paying them the $483 a month is definitely worth it, but just not in my budget this year. I would be able to afford it, if they didn't charge so much money for everything else lol.

I remember last year, they would send home the normal candy bar fundraisers, but whatever candy was not sold, the parent's had to pay for. I do not believe in going or sending my children door to door to sell candy because you NEVER know who's doorstep your walking up to...I.E. Sexual Predator, Burglar and so forth, so it wasn't something I wanted to do, but couldn't opt out of it. I had 2 of my children in Private school last year, and with the candy bar's x2 I had to pay $60 dollars out of pocket per child as neither of my children sold any candy. A tuition of $483.00 would end up costing me about $755.00 a month for one child, that's not including lunches....which are pricier than public school's, because they mainly do catering from catering companies.

I'm willing to see if my son's school will work with me first, but if not...then yes I will be leaning towards home schooling. Either that or my son needs to get his act together.
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184674 tn?1360860493
Homeschooling is a wonderful option. I was homeschooled and so was my younger sister for one grade. There are probably a lot of support networks in your area as well, so you can keep your son involved in social aspects. I'm not downing the public school system, but sometimes when you know your child's potential is beyond what that school or particular teacher can offer, than there is nothing wrong with aspiring for something better for the sake of your child.
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1303813 tn?1303159362
Schools baby kids!!!! And it annoys me! I havent had Harry yet but I can tell me and his school are not going to get along AT ALL! because they will baby him as well as other kids!

My brothers who live with my dad HAVENT learnt from school but from eachother and motivattion from my step mum, Its the same with Sex Ed at school, They baby it. There was a sex education aimed at 16 yr olds on TV, I sat my sister down and MADE her watch it (My mum works 6 days a week so I have my brother and sister) my 3yr old Bro watched it but was interested in the boobs only..... as he always shouted BOOOOBIES!

Its like me in maths in yr 11 (Last year of necessary education in England) I didnt understand maths was in the LOWEST SET, I wasnt helped at all.... But still managed to get a GCSE :) Woo. But they do baby you even when you're nearly done with school!! Piddle take really.

Schools have really let themselves down! I mean my school cared more about your apprence like Shirt tucked in, blazer, tie a certain amount of stripes... than your actual learning. Say I walked up to my teacher with like my top button undone, thats a detention and she refuses to mark your work untill its done... Soo hmm... I never followed the rules EVER... But that aint the point...

I think you're right by home schooling... (If I read that right) Because it does sound like he will learn more than what he is/will be learning at school if he now Rely's on pictures to do stuff...

xx
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Hey gals! Well I had "muffins with mom" today at my son's school, and I discussed a few things with my son's teacher. I also brought in a novel I had been reading "The Horse Boy", something my son has NEVER read or even looked at, and I had my son read one whole page, and his teacher was completely shocked. At one point she said I was being to harsh...when he said he didn't know the word "grass". I told my son to sound it out on his own and aloud, and he wouldn't do it. So I told him that he was not getting to do cupcakes with mommy tonight if he does not do what I ask him to do....and he immediately continues reading, without skipping a beat.

The teacher admitted that when Michael claims to not know a word, she either tells him the word or shows him a picture of the word, so NOW my son is relying on pictures to read a book, which is ridiculous. We had to do an activity today....and I asked him to read the directions on the sheet, and he said "I can't, because there are no pictures"....mind you this was AFTER he read a whole page about a boy, who's Autism was helped with the use of horses....and it had some pretty big words in it that he had no issues tackling on his own. I am hard on my son...I do know that. BUT I am hard on him because he know's how to do this stuff, and it breaks my heart to watch everything he knows go down the drain because he simply get's away with it.

I am going to talk to his teacher today, and I am going to set up some type of plan for both the classroom and at home. It will be a reward type basis, I just haven't figured out HOW i'm going to do it just yet. But I told the principle, that if his teachers cannot be concerned about their student's academics....then maybe they shouldn't be a teacher. I care VERY much about my children's future, and I am working on bettering him here at home, and the school should be working with me and him on bettering him there as well. IF my son's needs and my needs are NOT being met....I'm going to home school him.
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1303813 tn?1303159362
Wal-Mart is the American Asda, and I get discount in both :) Woohoo and they are doing the same in asda.

And Awh, I know how you feel about the sex bit. I only see John once a week ad pregnancy has decided to make my high sex drive... higher... and its not fair!!! LOL

Do you have like Reading records at in the U.s like your child brings home reading records and you write down what they read (Out loud) and you write in this book what they read, how many pages and stuff.... can be home books or school books whatever they are comfortable with. y brother is in pre school he is only 3 he chooses his own books I will read it to him once he might read it back depends on whether he is tired or not. Other books he will get is like 'the clock is....' and I make him say the shape and colour, and sometimes the time!

And AHP84 is right with the bordem thing... he knows he has to do real work and is gettin attention by saying he cant do it. so then he gets the one on one session that he gets at home... Might be why??


xx
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184674 tn?1360860493
On the subject of your son in school--my now 15 year old sister was the same way when she was in Kindergarten. She had been in a private school for pre-K and at home, she was semi-homeschooled because I was also. For K, my mom put her in a public school that was supposed to be one of the "better" ones as far as curriculums and test scores, etc. However, she ended up doing exactly what your son is doing. She was acting like she couldn't do the stuff (which was color in the lines, matching...super basic stuff like that, when she was already learning to read at home), but really, she just didn't want to do it AND she was getting away with it because she was a "good kid." Meaning, she was quiet and cooperative and socially compatible with everyone, never caused problems that needed immediate disciplinary actions. So when it came to doing her work--for example, if she had to do a worksheet and circle all the animals with four legs, and draw a square around the animals with no legs--she would instead color the animals...in rainbow colors, to top it off...and completely ignore the instructions. If the teacher would "confront" her about it, my sister had mastered the blank stare and would look at the teacher like that. Ultimately, that led to them calling my mom in for a conference, in which the teacher and some other "child psychology professionals" or whatever recommended that my mom consent to having my sister put in special ed classes. Of course, my mom didn't agree and asked for more details about what my sister was doing to make them so concerned. When they told her, my mom said, "Well, I can tell you that she is understanding perfectly what she needs to do, but she's not doing it because she doesn't want to. So...what are YOU doing to discipline that behavior from her?"
They were baffled, and were like, "What do you mean, discipline her? She does not seem to be understanding the work. She should not be disciplined for that."
My mom agreed that she'd consider special ed on the condition that they tried disciplining her behavior for one week by sitting her out during recess if she did not follow instructions on her worksheets.
Amazingly...it worked. Imagine that.
The teacher called my mom at the end of that week and said my sister had made "significant improvements" in that week.

I think it's exactly like you said in your last post: "Or he is just getting the 'babying' at school instead of at home, I think a lot of it is laziness due to boredom. He knows the work, and is bored with it so he pretends to not be able to do it, so the teacher will do it instead."
Besides that, they are probably not disciplining his behavior because he's a "good kid."
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Joy- Thank you...I have always wanted to name my little girl Kora since back in the day lol. DF thankfully liked the name as well, and he got to choose the middle name. Her whole name is Kora-Rae Elyzabeth (Rae, was my daughter Bailey's middle name) and DF wanted it included in her first name...so it's Kora-Rae, but Kora for short lol. As far as my son and 1st grade goes, he was in private school last year for Pre-K, and private school's here teach things one grade ahead...so pre-k was essentially kindergarten stuff. I couldn't afford private school this year with everything going on, so I had to put him in public school. In public school they teach kindergarten kids kindergarten stuff....the curiculum(sp) in public school isn't as difficult or advanced as private school.

smjmekg- Yeah the stuff at walmart is definitely worth looking at, they have a ton of stuff on clearance, granted it isn't really winter clothing...but onesies can be worn indoors obviously lol. I would have got to shop today, but DF had to get home to get ready for work, so he promised he would take me tomorrow to do some shopping before he has to go in. The sex thing....I could do it myself lol but with the yucky cream that I am using to treat the yeast infection is well...yucky lol.

And the "dork" complex is something I could talk to him about. I know he is always talking about his girlfriend, so maybe he is to busy thinking about her instead of his work?? Or he is just getting the "babying" at school instead of at home, I think a lot of it is laziness due to boredom. He knows the work, and is bored with it so he pretends to not be able to do it, so the teacher will do it instead lol. But he needs to show his skills, that way the school will agree to put him in first grade. If not....I will have no choice but to home school him this year, he will HATE it, but I can't let a good mind go to waste when it comes to my baby's!

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THANK YOU FOR THE WALMART INFO!!! I MUST go this weekend and check and see if ours is doing the same, we literally have one five pack of onesies for Miss No-name, and that is IT...

I would have said in a polite way to f off to that principal! What a jerk, well he's a man for one, and for two...people speak before they think.

Sex? Huh? What's that? Yeah...um...I don't even remember the last time...it's been at least three weeks I'd say, and NOT by MY choice. LOL. Um...hmm. Do you have a way to "do it yourself" I mean, I don't see how it would hurt you to even with an infection, but maybe if you're like me (sorry TMI) you can use outside stimulation, not oral of course! BUT if you have some kind of toy...just a thought.

Not sure what to say about the kiddo...I don't think he's old enough to have that "I don't want to be looked at like a dork" complex, but maybe he doesn't like the idea of being smarter than the other kids...have you tried talking to him about it? Maybe he's distracted by so many kids around him?
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So you decided on a name?! KORA IS SO CUTE! I love it, love how it is spelled and everything. Well I agree with your rants. Everything sounds valid. Maybe if the principal says something again you can just politely tell him that his remarks make you uncomfortable.

For your son- just keep on him. Keep encouraging him to read at home. Why is he not in 1st grade if he's already 6? Did he miss the cutoff? My daughter is in Kindergarten and she just turned five.
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