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4281488 tn?1353905580

Just wanna give up *vent warning*

After everything that went on with my 13 yr old last night. I feel worthless, like a POS...not worth anything.  The things that BOY said to me I would have taken a full grown man out for!! But because society is so ****** up we aren't even allowed to slap our children for speaking to us this way. When I was a kid my mom woulda knocked the shot out of me and I would have deserved it but bet your *** I would not have ever disrespected her that way again! Kids have NO respect for their parents and the damn public schools encourage it!! Mind you My 13 year old hasn't until just recently started pulling this crap. I demand respect in my house but his stupid dad encourages him to treat me like crap!! I am SO over it!! My hormones are raging and I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying and just feel like there is no hope. He strait up said he wants nothing to do with this baby and to get rid of it or him.......
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My mom used to say if its so bad here call them. It really made me think. Foster homes are not pretty. I wasn't beaten ever not even a spanking. I had it good and I knew it. Of course I never called there was no reason to. Remind him how nice foster homes are. < sarcasm.
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4122185 tn?1358446749
I would not for ONE SECOND allow my son to threaten the CPS on me & i hope you don't either!! I know someone who used to say that all the time & got sent to a foster home from hell!! It was so bad he cried constantly to come back home but he had to live with the can of worms he'd opened. You sound like a great mom. Little kids little problems, bigger kids bigger problems. Sounds like adolescent hell & i feel so bad you are the punching bag for his emotions right now. If he threatens to call again hand him the phone with the number and say go ahead and do it. He's at the age where dealing with outcomes of his decision making whether it be good or bad should fall on him now. I promise that in this case the grass will not be greener on the other side!!
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4281488 tn?1353905580
The little ****!! I tried talking to him after school and he laughed and said he has NOTHINGto apologize for!!!
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Fyi you can call the police department and have them sit in for a spanking. Also, you are allowed to as long as it is not exceasive and not ona vital body parts. Use to work for cps and would have parents do this all this time. And 13 is not too old for spankings. Had plenty of moms protect themselves of child abuse accuations that way.
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2020005 tn?1628125976
I'm sorry you're going through this, the one time you should be getting all the love and support from your family. As much as it hurts right now, remember he's a kid, and although we were raised that if you say something you get swatted and you'd NEVER say it again, we did THINK some terrible things sometimes (I know I did haha), and I completely, 100% regret anything bad I've ever said or thought about either parents, he will learn his mistake, whether you make it a point to punish him or not. CPS isn't going to do anything to you, an open hand slap is COMPLETELY legal, and unless he can prove otherwise then there's nothing to worry about. I hope you feel better hun!! :(
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3147776 tn?1549545810
That's what we do in between complaints. :)
We cruise around checking for trouble, or questions misplaced, or members who need other help... and sometimes we come across posts that we can relate with.  I like to pop in here because I have a daughter in the same age range as you ladies!
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Wow... I was gonna say roughly the same thing but based off my effed up relationship with my Mom. Didnt realize mods actually read our posts when there wasnt any complaints. Kinda cool though :)

Anyway! I agree with the mod.
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3147776 tn?1549545810
Oh, those teenagers can be MONSTROUS, eh?  

I'm not speaking with any special "moderator insight" here, just as a now older mom who has been through this phase with four teenage boys.  Their hormones are raging and they don't know what to do with them - they lose control of their emotions, and they seem to lose all sense of what is appropriate to say.  This doesn't excuse his behavior, but it's been my experience that they all go through a phase of being downright foul and disrespectful.  If he can achieve a reaction from you, then he's reached his goal.

Unless his behavior escalates, or you're threatened with physical violence, please understand that you kind of just have to hold your breath and make it through this period, and it will pass.  We still have one in that phase, and there are plenty of times when me walking out of the room is the best thing for my own sanity.
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4293524 tn?1358044300
sorry to hear that. I remeber when my sister got spanked by my dad she called the cops and my dad told them that they are not going to tell them how to discipline his children and to get out of our house so they left they ddnt make a big deal about it. if my son ever talks to me in a bad way he will be in trouble and I wont care if he calls the cops. Also ur son might be going through a stage where he just feels all grown up. just try to calm down and if u give him time to think of what he  has done he might apologize
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Me and my brother, wanted nothing to do with out younger sibling when he first came (he's 3, i'm 20 and my brother is 21). We were content with life exactly as it was. But my mom was pregnant and we had to deal. I was my mom's labor coach for my lil bro, but as soon as he was born, I left the hospital. I eventually came around after seeing him and holding him and just observing how much he reacted to my voice. My brother however, took months to come around. But now, my brother is one of my lil bros main care takers.
And just fyi, my brother said something very disrespectful to my mom before and she LITERALLY punched him square in the face. He never spoke like that to her again. lol.
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4281488 tn?1353905580
Thank you ladies for all the advice.
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Im about to be 23 & my mom be like that her hands itch when my sister and i argue lol
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Im sorry to hear that. I have a 10 yr old boy and his dad pulls the same crap! I never once bad mouthed his dad to him cause I knew one day when he got older he would realize the truth. He already realizes that his dad is a liar and all of the above. When we get into an argument, I go to my room and shut the door so that I dont say the wrong things to him. He then apoligizes to me about being wrong and I do the same. My best advice to you is.. Dont add fuel to the fire. Youre the parent, not him and he needs to realize that.
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That is just wrong of his father to encourage that. My son is only 7 and sometimes has a mouth on him and can be very rude and disrespectful towards me and his sister and i tell him every time i will not have a son who treats or talks to woman that way. Im thankful his dad and i have a great relationship now since we arent together and he in forces what i say. Its just wrong and im sorry your going through it. All kids go through phases and do things they shouldnt but us as parents need to be there and encourage the good behavior no matter what,yes it is going to be hard but we especially as women have to be strong and make it happen. Im about to be a single mom to 3 and i know i got my work cut out for me but im not giving up.
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3828469 tn?1358462325
Lol Zaira you had me crackin up with "us Mexicans" its so true I got the chancla when I was bad
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3828469 tn?1358462325
I wouldn't worry too much. I doubt he will say anything and even if he does cps can't do anything to you just on his word. He's a teenager they arent stupid
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4331946 tn?1355816857
I wish i wuda had u as a mom! I jus turned 20 as ppl may kno how it gets down in a mexican family wuu if i wud talk bak to my mom or dad the least i can expect is an as beatin lol i mean even still if i wud do it rightnow they wud care less if i was older now they will still do my mom jus said she wud jus make sure she left no marks but his starting teenage years all his hormones r kikig in tooo...try to relax and take charge! If it means sending to boog camp do it idk if thats harsh but now i see how it is and well i wud do it to my kids make them learn that mother they r only going to have once! So if u aint into the hitting like us mexicans lol we sound bad u shud maybe do sjmthin like that idk i wud idk if im giving bad advice but thats my opinion?
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I kinda just went thru the same thing. I have a 14 yr old step daughter who was very upset when she found out I was pregnant. I tried talking to her but everything I wanted to say came out awkward so I wrote her a letter and it helped a lot. That age is emotional and they don't understand everything even tho they think they do. I think she was worried about getting less attention from her dad. But just relax, he won't stay mad forever. Good luck!
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4281488 tn?1353905580
Oorah.....I did do all of the above including taking his stuff away. He just looked at me and told me he would turn me in for child abuse at school today. I didn't bruise him but I slapped him as hard as I could. I'm not proud of it, but he is 5'7 and 192 lbs I cannot (pregnant) hold him down to swat him. So I guess I just wait for CPS to call me and tell me what a horrid mother I am...
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3828469 tn?1358462325
I'm sorry but I would have whooped his butt! Since you are against physical action I guess I would have taken the door off his room taken away all electronics and left him with a mattress on the floor. Kids are so spoiled these days and people treat them as if they are made of glass. I'll be damned if a CHILD speaks to me with disrespect
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4368956 tn?1357406071
Your welcome im here for you if you ever need to talk.
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4281488 tn?1353905580
Thank you searra
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4368956 tn?1357406071
Give yourself time to calm down take a nice warm bath and relax. When I was younger my mom and I had a horrible relationship when we would get in arguments we would yake time to calm down and sometimes she woild write me letterx lettinh me no how she was feeling but she also let me no in the letters that she loved me veru much and wanted to find ways we could grow closer. We never could talk it would wind up with the cops at the house. But u cant fight with a letter and u soke the words in better. I would save them because they meant alot yo me. Maybe when your ready u can try somethong like that.
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My mom said if your kid doesn't hate you in his teen years your not doing it right lol. I sd some horrible things to my mom. My single hard working mom. Now I'm 30 and think the world if this lady and the things she must have gone through for us kids. He's a teen and will regret it one day. And one day he will respect you as a women and his mom
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