Midwife vs. OB

[julianovak]

ok, i just called about 10 different ob/gyn offices in the area. we only have 3 hospitals that deliver babies...... and only one has waterbirthing. and not all ob/gyn offices are affilated with which hospital i choose. uhh, so confusing. ANYWAY..... sorry for rambling on............. what do you think about a birth with a midwife vs. an OB.............
tell me all you know........... im getting confused....... do midwives help you with breathing throughout labor? or maybe other techniques????     LET ME KNOW GIRLS....... I want to get everything to go like i plan on. (first pregnancy i saw like 3 or 4 diff docs. --- i couldnt connect with any of them........ I hope this time around will be different!!)

[Quinns momma]

Believe me if I have something to say to you directly I will not hesitate to do so.  I certainly was not directing this to you. I truly wish you the best.

Also I do not work with just one ob-gyn office. I work with multiple offices throughout the US as part of a Special Investigations Unit of fraudulent practices.  A particular review that I conduct for the insurance companies is the fradulent overuse for c-sections.  So I am very well educated on percentages.

[julianovak]

Yes, obesity, induction, and some people actually just have an elective c section........ i guess in a way you dont have to worry how the labor process will go............ i mean the pain and pushing, but then again many ppl do not understand c sections are considered major surgery.................. not to mentian the pain you will have at the incision site yrs down the road............. MANY women can PREVENT a c section. but they may not know that......... i just wish women were more educated with this crazy number......... 46%???? i couldnt believe it either. i mean 46% thats not "emergency"................ maybe 15% of it is...............

[Sunkissed19]

thank you for your understanding...im actually not scared of the labor part (yet anyway lol) i havent really worried about it at all. its the rest of my pregnancy that scares me...the things that could go wrong. my Ob hasnt said that i have to have a c-section or anything so far as far as we know i can have a very normal vaginal delivery...and i innitially wanted to do it without pain meds but i also want it to be somewhat of an enjoyable experience, i want to be calm for my husband and my baby. So, im going to take it as if im handling it okay than no epi...if im not then ill get one. my DF said something i thought was very clever....when i asked him what he would do if he had to give birth (mind you i cant even get this man to take tylonel for a headache) he said he would get an epidural and i said "you would, why?" he replies with "well you obviously know its gonna hurt like hell...not one person says it doesnt...why would you go into something knowing its gonna hurt like hell and not try and lessen some of that pain if you had the choice" and i said but wouldnt you be more proud of me and think i was sooo brave? and he said "honey, in my opinion thats not brave, its stupid. its like not filling out the extra credit on an exam" and then he went on to say "your bringing my baby into the world....my son...no matter how you do it you will be my hero"
i also think the obesisty rate should be taken to account...you make a very good point on that one.

[Ashelen]

that's very true m3lanie :) I actually didn't like my OB but he definitely saved my life, and it was worth it to me. I had my delivery nurse with me the entire time so I don't feel like I was stuck with bad bed-side manner, because my doctor truly DID come just in time to "catch", but he also came just in time to save my be-hind! hehe

but yeah not all OBs are good or bad, however not all midwives are competent enough to stabilize in emergency situations either while a lot of them are...so it's all a toss-up and it depends on what makes you feel most comfortable.

julianovak I don't think quinns momma was being rude or accusatory she's always very polite....
but I do think that the increased c-section rate is caused by the increase in obesity. obese (or heavily overweight) women are HIGHLY more likely to require a c-section even without the added problem of additional complications for many reasons.....so you might want to take the obesity rate into account when considering why the c-section rate has increased?
i dunno but I thought about that when I read your reply :)

[julianovak]

Oh watch the documentary "the business of being born" ----- new research that was done past 2 or 3 yrs............ need i say more?

[julianovak]

WELL "certian facts" i wonder if u really think i would make this up.......... look it up ANYWHERE............... these facts dont just "pop" up anywhere.......... this is statistics im talking about........... personally i could care less where you worked............... look at what research gives you.  46% is a FACT!! -------- if you have something to say.............. just say it directed towards me...........  And your "obgyn" office needs some new updating.