Need to vent

[Danilynn617]

So many people are telling me I'm not fit to raise my child. I have people telling me to give her up for adoption so that she will have a mother AND father that love her unconditionally. I already love my baby unconditionally. Yes I feel bad that her father wants nothing to do with her, but I know I will always be here for her. Dont get me wrong I want my baby to have a father, but it looks like its not going to happen. My mom and dad are divorced and that hurts me enough, I dont want her to go through what I went through, I want her to at least know who her dad is and be able to go to him when she wants/needs. Im a huge daddy's girl and idk what I would do without my dad. I dont want that to happen to her. Im not trying to sound selfish here or anything but I cant give her up. I just can't, I fell so in love with her already I just want her here in my arms. Im hoping that her father steps up.. But if not I understand that I'm on my own. Im going to give her the best life I possibly can. She's my everything

[Hunny25]

you will make it and just wait till grand daddy sees her she'll have an excellent father figure then ;)

[Lesley27]

I agree with the prev posts, you need to focus on you, that baby and those who support you... do you have the means to raise baby solo... income, somewhere to live, ect... if you cant quite do it on your own just yet do you have the support to help you? I wouldnt even worry about what the people have to say, its gonna be a struggle but you are just gonna have to prove them wrong... and forget that guy... he needs to grow up A LOT if he wants to be a daddy, takes a lot more than getting a woman pregnant to be a true father... good luck and take care!

[CR2010]

My husband passed 4 days after my son was born....

Doing it by myself is probably the most challenging most wonderful incredible thing I've ever done.

I do it all alone, 24/7 diapers. Bottles. Learning time. Play time bath time nap time bed time.

Sick, healthy and all the between! I don't ask for help I don't ask for things for my son because I am determined to do it all alone!

And guess what that's what we are born to do! And we can do it!!!!

You love her! Bump them!

[mrs_bagz]

A lot of my friends didn't have their father growing up... and honestly, they didn't need them. I didn't have my dad for a majority of my young years either. We have an awesome relationship now, but it honestly didn't bother me that we didn't at the time.
If he doesn't want to be around, then screw him. Your love is enough for your baby girl. Just don't let him pop in and out when he pleases. He's either there or not. Then when she gets older.. and if he wants to be there, let her choose if she wants him in her life or not.
But trust me, you two will be perfectly fine without him. Don't listen to other people...
I couldn't ever give up my baby either..

[Clysta]

Honestly, I would forget and ignore the father AND your ex. If they wanted to be a part of anything, they would stay on their own. The father has obviously shown he doesn't care currently, and if your ex left over a stupid fight he's not worth the time.

Children don't need both parents to grow up. I never met or know my biological father and for all I know or care he could be dead in a roadside ditch. You just need to focus on YOU and the baby and no one else.

[Ashelen]

Try not to worry about what other people say. A lot of the women you asked for advice are more traditional in their relationship views, so they frequently recommend to people who are in unstable/no relationships and are pregnant to consider adoption, but that does NOT mean that you are not fit or that you can't do well...and they absolutely mean well in the advice they are giving you.

Only you know if you are ready to handle being a single motherhood, whether or not your ex returns to your life is just a gamble at this point, so for right now all you can do is prepare to go it alone and hope for the best....but none of us can tell you if you can do it or not, so don't let it bug you if someone tries to advise you and you don't agree with what they're saying; they have your best interests at heart, even if they're a little callous about it.

I'm sure that you'll do right by your daughter..and if you know you will, that's all that should matter.