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Needing to touch base with others TTC
Hi, I'm new to this forum and I would just really like to talk to others who are ttc at the same time as me. All my female friends either got pregnant with a seeming snap of their fingers or else aren't trying yet. I just got my 4th straight "no" today and, even though I know it's silly and still very soon, I just started crying. My husband is being so sweet but he must think I'm a bit of a nut to be so upset already.
Does it get any easier getting negatives? I'm afraid I'm going to make myself crazy over this.
Hailey
Does it get any easier getting negatives? I'm afraid I'm going to make myself crazy over this.
Hailey
Oh man, I am SO crossing my fingers for you guys. Motherof18mnth, hope this is the time for you and you too Mrs. B., you must be a totally patient woman. I hope I'll take it with grace if it takes me a few years. I keep hearing stories of women who kept trying for a long time and it eventually paid off with a healthy baby. That helps.
Zakanunu, I know just how you feel. I think maybe if I stopped tracking so obsessively I might be less consumed by this, but then I think "what if something is wrong and I could have been collecting all this good data to show my doc someday?" Plus it's hard to not start getting excited every month thinking "this could be it!"
X-mas will be tough if it doesn't happen again. All my family (and everyone at work too- my enthusiasm has been rather boundless) knows I'm trying and they try not to ask but I know they're wondering. I've asked my DH to get me a puppy if it doesn't take next month to cheer me up... but he's a bit hesitant. I think he pictures himself down the road cleaning up after puppy poop and wifey vomit at the same time. Guess I can understand the hesitancy. :)
Zakanunu, I know just how you feel. I think maybe if I stopped tracking so obsessively I might be less consumed by this, but then I think "what if something is wrong and I could have been collecting all this good data to show my doc someday?" Plus it's hard to not start getting excited every month thinking "this could be it!"
X-mas will be tough if it doesn't happen again. All my family (and everyone at work too- my enthusiasm has been rather boundless) knows I'm trying and they try not to ask but I know they're wondering. I've asked my DH to get me a puppy if it doesn't take next month to cheer me up... but he's a bit hesitant. I think he pictures himself down the road cleaning up after puppy poop and wifey vomit at the same time. Guess I can understand the hesitancy. :)
I wish its all easy for us women to get pregnant when we want it! But Time will tell and no one knows When! I am married & TTC for 2 yrs now, and no luck at all. I have left polycystic ovary, while hubby had low sperm count! So, i think that's the reason why were not successful each month. Im due for IVF (fertility treatment) by Jan 09. But, Im still waiting if my period will arrive tom or not, as I haven't feel anything that it will come. No PMS symptoms. Tested last monday but it was faint positive, then tested this morning it was negative. So I am praying really really Hard that I am pregnant this month, so that I don't need to do the IVF treatment. Super Sticky Baby Dust For all of Us who are TTC!!!
it never gets easier. I have been tryin 4 goin on 5 months now & keep getting "no's". I even had my period b sneaky on me & come a week late. It had NEVER done that b4... If any1 has any ideas or suggestions Im sure Im not the only 1 that will appreciate it!!!
welcome to the forum!!! you are definitely not alone! i have had my fair share of BFN'S & FALSE BFP'S (big fat negatives & big fat positives) over the last 10 months to know how frustrating it is. in Jan., march, and April i had a total of 7 bfp's and later found out i wasn't preggo (possible chemical pregnancies) i was crushed with everyone of them! my DH (darling or dear husband) put ttc off in early October but since mid October i have had flu like symptoms and spotting light pink a week before AF was supposed to show. i have yet to take a test (trying to wait for next AF in 9 days) just so i don't get my heart broken again. sore bb's (boobs), nausea, vomiting, head colds (3 in the past 4 weeks), extra discharge, lower abdominal and back pain are among the symptoms i have been experiencing over the past 3 1/2 weeks!! hopefully this is it for me!!! it would be a nice thanksgiving or maybe Christmas present!!
Welcome to the forum.. You are not alone in this. I have been on Birth Control for almost 5 years and DH and decided to try this year... Well its more like I was desperate to try...LOL I went off the pill at the end of July and here I am in November and still nothing. I saved myself the pain of doing HPT's (Home Pregnancy Test) and the need to test only arised once, and it came out a BFN (Big fat negative). I am ovulating this week and I am so praying that things work out this time round. But all i can say it doesn't happen over night.
People say stop stressing about it and it will happen but how can you stop stressing about it when you are busy charting and know when you are ovulating. The 2WW (2 week wait) is the worse for me and I start imagining signs that aren't there and that I know are impossible during the 2WW.
Lotsa baby dust to you, I hope things work out for both of us and all on this forum that are trying...
People say stop stressing about it and it will happen but how can you stop stressing about it when you are busy charting and know when you are ovulating. The 2WW (2 week wait) is the worse for me and I start imagining signs that aren't there and that I know are impossible during the 2WW.
Lotsa baby dust to you, I hope things work out for both of us and all on this forum that are trying...
With my first pregnancy, I was not trying and got pregnant. My last pregnancy I tried for 3 months and when I finally got the BFP I was so much more excited. Not because I wanted this baby any more than the last, but because I felt successful or something so with great pain comes greater excitement. I am currently getting ready to try again (lost the last pregnancy) and will be right here with you! Good Luck to you and all of the others out there TTC!!!!
Thank you so so much, everyone. I really appreciate you guys sharing your experiences, even if the answer (it keeps right on sucking getting BFNs) isn't all too comforting. I feel less alone in this right now. The DH (thanks for terms alwashopeful) is supportive, but he's way more chill than I am. I keep jumping to conclusions thinking there's something wrong with my inner workings, when I certainly don't know that yet. I've always wanted kids but have been very focused on career. Now I've just turned 30, my life is settled enough to try, and I just want it to happen so badly! Got to try to accept not knowing- but, ugh, I've never been good at giving up control and just letting happen what will.
Yes, liscam, I've been using OPK for 3 mos. And charting kind of obsessively. I never really noticed much about my cycles before, so I'm learning! I was on the pill for 3 years, stopped in June, and had normal cycles before and after (except for, I've noticed with charting, a possibly short luteal phase).
Latrice, I think you and I have near identical cycles, actually- I usually have 28 day cycles and I'm due for AF Th or F.
Anyway, thanks for listening and I am keeping my fingers crossed that none of us have to suffer many more BFNs. Will definitely keep checking in on this forum. :)
Yes, liscam, I've been using OPK for 3 mos. And charting kind of obsessively. I never really noticed much about my cycles before, so I'm learning! I was on the pill for 3 years, stopped in June, and had normal cycles before and after (except for, I've noticed with charting, a possibly short luteal phase).
Latrice, I think you and I have near identical cycles, actually- I usually have 28 day cycles and I'm due for AF Th or F.
Anyway, thanks for listening and I am keeping my fingers crossed that none of us have to suffer many more BFNs. Will definitely keep checking in on this forum. :)
Your not alone, i have a 13yr old son(had him when i was 19) and i was convinced i did not want anymore kids especially not being in a relationship leading to marriage. 8 YEARS LATER, i meet this wonderful man with no kids and one day wanted kids. I was on birthcontrol for the first year of the relationship, then we discussed having children so i got off birthcontrol and we really never bd'd around ovulation time(bucz i always visted him when i was not ovulating) he lived in georgia and im in wisconsin(it was a long distance relationship) then 7 months after being off birthcontrol we bd'd a day after ovualtion and i got preggo(had a missed m/c at 10weeks and 1 dayin june). After that i was crushed bcuz it felt to great to be preggo especially by someone i was going to be spending the rest of my life with. So we ttc after my first cycle. All BFN August September, and October.(Well i graduated May and he just graduated October 26 and moved here to wisconsin) Im glad to say that some months i ovulated twice, beggining of month and end of month(with a 28 day cycle).
DF ask me all the time whats wrong, i say nothing but i guess my face says it all, i want to be preggo. The last cycle i didnt tell him when i was ovulatiing bcuz it was making it very stressful telling him, i need a new approach bcuz its like your in a no win situation, if i dont tell him, we may not bd on the right days or mayb only one day during the ovulation period.
Af is due friday for me, i didnt do any opk this month or taking in hpt unless im 3 days late, i am still taking my temps, and like clock work temp dropped at 10dpo like the rest of the cycles which mean it will keep dropping until AF is here ughhhh.
As you can see HMAINE everyone has a story to share and may be feeling how you feel about ttc, it is a great feeling to have people who understand and to talk to about ttc bcuz friends and family get tired of the same ole story.
Good luck on ttc and we are here if you need to talk,vent or have questions.
DF ask me all the time whats wrong, i say nothing but i guess my face says it all, i want to be preggo. The last cycle i didnt tell him when i was ovulatiing bcuz it was making it very stressful telling him, i need a new approach bcuz its like your in a no win situation, if i dont tell him, we may not bd on the right days or mayb only one day during the ovulation period.
Af is due friday for me, i didnt do any opk this month or taking in hpt unless im 3 days late, i am still taking my temps, and like clock work temp dropped at 10dpo like the rest of the cycles which mean it will keep dropping until AF is here ughhhh.
As you can see HMAINE everyone has a story to share and may be feeling how you feel about ttc, it is a great feeling to have people who understand and to talk to about ttc bcuz friends and family get tired of the same ole story.
Good luck on ttc and we are here if you need to talk,vent or have questions.
Every Woman is different, yuo only have about 20-30% chance of getting pregnant EVEN when you have sex around Ovulation days. So, only the lucky ones get pregnant right away after ttc. I have many friends that are extremely lucky and just have to say "I want to be pregnant" and suddently POOF! they are pregnant!
I am not so lucky. I got pregnant two months after starting to ttc but it ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks. That's another thing they don't tell you is that miscarriages are VERY VERY common. So, its been 5 months since I had a miscarriage and I'm not pregnant yet.
It gets very frustrating, BUT I can tell you this:
-you'll get pregnant when you least expect it.
-from what I've seen around me and in this forum, The ones that shouldn't, aren't ready to BE pregnant, get pregnant a LOT faster.
-If you don't plan anything at all and forget your ovulation day you may get pregnant before you know it!
-Worry about it when you've been ttc for over a year with no results.
-you'll most likely get pregnant when you've done everything wrong.
-sorry if I seem frustrated, but it is frustrating...
This doesn't mean that you have fertility issues, its just that you like everyone else has about 20-30% chance of getting pregnant with the right conditions.
GOOD LUCK AND BABY DUST TO US ALL.
I am not so lucky. I got pregnant two months after starting to ttc but it ended in a miscarriage at 7 weeks. That's another thing they don't tell you is that miscarriages are VERY VERY common. So, its been 5 months since I had a miscarriage and I'm not pregnant yet.
It gets very frustrating, BUT I can tell you this:
-you'll get pregnant when you least expect it.
-from what I've seen around me and in this forum, The ones that shouldn't, aren't ready to BE pregnant, get pregnant a LOT faster.
-If you don't plan anything at all and forget your ovulation day you may get pregnant before you know it!
-Worry about it when you've been ttc for over a year with no results.
-you'll most likely get pregnant when you've done everything wrong.
-sorry if I seem frustrated, but it is frustrating...
This doesn't mean that you have fertility issues, its just that you like everyone else has about 20-30% chance of getting pregnant with the right conditions.
GOOD LUCK AND BABY DUST TO US ALL.
I know exactly how you feel, and I would love to tell you it gets easier, but so far it hasn't for me. Its only been 6 months, but I'm already at the point where I expect to see a BFN each month. However, this forum is the best for keeping you sane! Its so wonderful to have women to talk to who really understand what you are going through!
it doesn't get easier....but the forum is definitely a GREAT place to find support. my husband and I have only been trying for 2 months but I was surprised to find how frustrating it can be and have found this place to be such a wonderful way to talk to women in the same boat and get good advice. who knew getting pregnant would actually be difficult??! a girlfriend of mine just got pregnant after having sex once post-IUD removal!!! everyone is different but we all have shared experiences and this is a fabulous place to ask questions, vent, and just generally find support :) WELCOME!!!
No it never ever gets easier! i have been wanting kids since well 4ever since the first time i got married at 19 it didnt happen and now im re married to my new DH 2yrs now and im 27 and still nothing!! I hate the BFN's so much i just refuse to test since i know what will happen and i always feel like an idiot for not knowing my own body! Al-I know what you mean my SIL is 21 and she had her and my DH's brothers 2nd baby at 19!! That was a slap in the face i was so mad when i found yet again they wanted another baby!! I'm currently out of the TTC game as some of you know due to a bad pap so im waiting on the all clear again b4 i start trying again but i definetly want a baby as soon as i can get pregnant so at any rate i know how you feel i can relate and if you need to vent im here and so are the other girls as you can see!! GL and dont give up hope i know its hard but im trying to do the same!!
Welcome to the forum. This is a great place for support and advice. I have found so much advice here. I too had trouble for one full year getting pregnant after miscarrying last september. I kept trying though. Do not get discouraged. When it is supposed to happen, it will. FOr me, what I thought to myself, was when my body is ready to carry the baby, it will happy for me. When I miscarried I was devastated and my dr.said my body was just not ready. It will happy for you. Are you using Ovulation Predictior Kits?? And tracking your ovulation? Are you testing too early?
Don't feel alone! There are alot of ladies on here who are TTC including me. It's been about 2 months since we started trying! I guess I just thought it would happen on the first try! Once you decide to "try" we become very emotional when it doesnt happen right away. Trust me I've cried several times over this whole TTC business! I have taken about 6 HPT in total and I must say, it doesnt get any easier, at least none for me anyway! When I test now, i expect it to be negative so I will say that it does take the edge off while waiting. It still s u c k s to get that BFN though!!! : (
No, it doesn't get easier at all!! I've had probably 8 BFN (big fat negative) within the past year and a half for me and DH (dear husband). I recently took a test yesterday after being 4 days late for AF (aunt flow) and it slowly came to a negative. All the ones in the past were immediate. I'm trying to stay positive but I know how hard it is!! I just about cried myself to sleep last night!!
All other friends I know got pregnant immediately without wanting to trying!! Here I am, married, trying and still have nothing!! One friend doesn't even know who the father is!! I'm sorry but I'm a little emotional lately!! I don't want to offend anyone with that statement!! Plus she's only 20....UGH, I'm sorry!!
Trust me, you're definitely NOT alone on this forum!! This is what these ladies are for, pregnant or not!! Those who have been, will give you the best advice they can offer and help you through almost anything! They've helped me I don't even know how many times!!
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All other friends I know got pregnant immediately without wanting to trying!! Here I am, married, trying and still have nothing!! One friend doesn't even know who the father is!! I'm sorry but I'm a little emotional lately!! I don't want to offend anyone with that statement!! Plus she's only 20....UGH, I'm sorry!!
Trust me, you're definitely NOT alone on this forum!! This is what these ladies are for, pregnant or not!! Those who have been, will give you the best advice they can offer and help you through almost anything! They've helped me I don't even know how many times!!
************SSBD***************************
(super, sticky baby dust)
Just thought I'd help you with some of the abbreviations!!
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