No Emotion Over Miscarriage?

[Kittykay20]

Hi there, Im 25 and just had my first miscarriage. I was in hospital for quite a few days, they did a camera Op to check for en ectopic pregnancy then the next day they decided that it was non-going so they had to do a D&C. I seem to have an emotional detachment from it all..I cried while in hospital when people spoke to me about the miscarriage or the chance that it would be one but now I dont seem to have any emotions concerning the loss of my baby. I named it and recognize it but..I cant seem to morn it. Is this wrong? Am I heartless concerning my baby? Or has others been through this?

[mamaof4410]

You are not heartless for not feeling grief over your loss. Everyone deals with it in their own way. My husband just said it will be OK. And that was it. Then about a year later a friend of his at work had asked him to borrow 700$ to pay for  his wife's d&c. He told me he was only going to lend him the money because he remembered how helpless he felt when we had "our" miscarriage. I wanted to cry because there I was thinking he didn't care and he did. We all grieve differently. No one can tell you how to react. I'm sorry for your loss and i hope you get your little miracle soon! Baby dust to you all!  

[MamaBear0612]

I have a friend who still feels like that, years later, because the man who she got pregnant by was being a complete a*hole. But there are several stages of grief, and I suspect you're just in the first one, where feeling like that is normal, and it'll hit you later. I lost my brother over 15 years ago, and at first it felt almost unreal and I rarely cried, just felt kinda numb...the feeling came later, and boy did it come. But however you feel is perfectly normal, there's no "right" way to go through something like a miscarriage.