OT - never expected this from a 1st grader

[waitn838]

so yesterday my son who is 6 years old was over at his friends house playing...i was at my home taking care of the baby and trying to get some cleaning done...DH told my son to be home at 7pm to get in the shower and ready for bed...i knew something was up when he came home before 7....i could tell in his face that something was wrong so i asked him what him and his buddy were doing and he broke into tears....i asked him why he was crying and he said XXXX told me to kiss his butt...so i thought ok my son i s being a little emotional today....and i asked him jokingly if he did and he ran into his room...i felt awful and seriously thought my son was just tired and over emotional today...so i went into his room to talk to him and thats when he told me that XXXX would not unlock the door until my son kissed his butt.....LITERALLY!!!!

ok...my heart sunk and i felt like i let me son down because i didnt protect him from this....and i couldnt believe this actually happened...so my hubby told me to go talk to the other kids mom...so i did...the other kids mom shrugged it off like they were just being boys and didnt seem at all concerned that her son locked my son in the bedroom and made him kiss his butt...i seriously could not believe it

so here i am in shock that this happened...they are 1st graders...i never expected this from 1st graders...the worse part is they are in the same classroom so i had to call the school and make them aware because i do not want that boy around my son at all....ever!!!!

im so worked up over this and the only reason im sharing is because it is amazing to me how young these boys are and what happened...it made me aware that i have to watch out for these things much sooner...i honestly didnt think this kinda thing happened until close to the teenage years....

and im pissed that the other kids mom has no concern for this....my thinking is if its starting now imagine in a few years from now...it will get no better....gosh, i cant even think of what could happen then ............

[LosingMyMindInGA]

the original incident occured at the boys home.  The school can not legally do anything unless the behavior occurs on school property during school hours. That's why she made the school aware so they can keep an eye on him.

[cherylsangel]

Is the school going to have a talk with the child's mother. I would think that someone should be getting involved if the mother doesnt have any reaction to this behaviour. If the school board knows that this is happening, I hope they step in, it should be there job to make sure that the children in this child's class and other children in the school are kept safe from this child and any actions he might take out on the kids.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

This type of child combined with the obvious lack of constructive parenting in his household is what breeds school shooters, etc.  Not that this child in particular will grow up to be one, but he is likely to bully or abuse another child so severely that the OTHER child feels it necessary to take his own life or those of others.  Why can't parents see this kind of behavior only snowballs???

[waitn838]

thanks lady....if the shoe was on the other foot and my son did that....oh man...there would be severe consequences....id also be completely embarrassed as well...

its just sad that this happened so early...its even sadder that i feel like this other kid could grow up to be a raper or sexual abuser...and then what his mom think.....

[alaysha]

I think the whole thing is horrible. What a weirdo of a parent to just blow it off. That is NOT normal 6 year old behavior.

[degriffdog]

That is crazy, yes kids will be kids, but that is going too far!!  That mother should have done something about her son.  I'm glad you called the school about it.  If that boy is doing those kind of things in first grade, he will just become a bigger bully!  Totally on your side!  So sorry this had to happen to your family.

[smjmekg]

That's so sad that the other mom is that way. I hate seeing a child suffer because of a parent.

I wasn't meaning you BTW. I've read some pretty disturbing posts about younger children, and know that if my son were to be doing some of the things I read...I'd be horrified! I mean, maybe I read too far into things but I would want to know why he was wanting him to kiss his butt, and where he'd gotten that from.

I hope his day went ok.

[LosingMyMindInGA]

Unfortunately I've seen the cruel and insane things first graders can do.  It's appalling and most of how they behave is a direct result of the parenting in their home.  It doesn't suprise me at all that this child would do something like this when his mother is the type to shrug that kind of thing off.  I think it would be best to keep your child away from this other boy as much as possible.  I would be absolutely LIVID if another child did that to mine and the parent wouldn't do anything.  I HATE parents who dont' feel it necessary to discipline their children.  Yes, it IS one of those things where "boys will be boys"  but that does NOT mean it was appropriate or that the child shouldn't face consequences for it.  I know that if someone came to MY house and said MY child had done that I would be utterly embarrassed, apologizing all over myself and my child would appropriately punished and made to apologize to the parent AND the child.

[waitn838]

i called the school and made them aware...they are watching the boys but i dont want my son to be moved out his classroom for this...i have no clue how things are going to go at school today...i know my son is not afraid of speaking his mind and its mostly recess and lunch time i worry about (which already passed) so we'll see after i pick him up from school today

im protective to an extent...i do not let my son watch just anything on tv...he can watch his cartoons and such but he cannot watch adult movies or even teen movies...i try to let him a boy but keep a leash on him too...luckily my son is playing football and about to join cub scouts so he can make new friends and stay busy

im still angered that the other mom does not see this as a problem and is too busy trying to find a boyfriend than to raise her son...ugh...and who suffers but the innocent children

[smjmekg]

Wow! I'm sorry you had to deal with this, but even more sorry for your poor son!

I'll probably take some heat from this, but sounds to me like that other kid gets to see stuff he shouldn't see at his age! I understand kids go through stages of "discovery", but kids are supposed to be kids.

It sounds horrible but thank you for sharing! It scares the H#LL out of me what could happen to my baby, and this just makes me that much more worried, but at the same time realize I'll have to be that much more protective! Is the school going to do anything about it? I'd be asking about moving him to another class if you could. I know I wouldn't want my child to stay in the same class, being that they are so young...you know how it can be. They're mad at each other one minute and bestfriends again the next. I'd be preventing that before it had an opportunity to happen. I hope your son's ok now, that boy's mom deserves a reality slap!