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Oh Crap.
What the hell am I suppose to do now? My bf's dad just found the websites I've been going to and asked if their was something I needed to tell him... And what he printed out was for my cousin cause she's 2 months pregnant. So I said no. He said he hopes it wasn't mine cause he doesn't want any grankids right now! What should I do? There's a chance I am, and I don't know how to tell him I am without him getting mad as hell at me.
yeah that's true. But I love their son more than life itself. And, I would do anything I have to do to make sure HE stays happy. I'd rather put him before myself. I love him that much. So I'm not letting his family get in the way of us. I would die without him cuddling me at night.
So I think after talking to you ladies, I'll say BABY ON THE WAY SOON! Let's just hope so!
So I think after talking to you ladies, I'll say BABY ON THE WAY SOON! Let's just hope so!
Do what makes you happy not everyone else. My mom does not want me to get preggo b/c she wants me to finish school and all....it's going to be another year before I get accepted into the school I want to go to. And as for how to tell him...I would make BF do it. It's his parents not yours........It takes two.....you tell yours and he tell his..that's what my brother and sil did!
Well I guess all I can say is congrats if you are , let us know in 2weeks, I jsut wish you were marring into a family that you could see more eye to eye w/ . b/c once you get married they prob are still going to treat u to like children, but hey thats what parents do,.
I'm 8dpo! not 8 weeks. I wish I were 8 weeks!
I'm still waiting. basically I'm in the 2ww.
af won't be here for another week.
I'm still waiting. basically I'm in the 2ww.
af won't be here for another week.
ok i'm dont care what you in-laws say it is your life, but i did read that you are 8 wks and cramping or maybei mis understood not up with all the abreveations. I just want you to know in great concern if you are cramping you should go to the hospital it is not good. also if you bleed just a tiny bit go to the hospital. i just lost my baby and i would hate for anyone else to have to go through that!!!
Ohh they don't care who he's with. And yeah we told everyone and they're all for it. It's just the baby thing throwing them off track. His dad told his mom, and she said, well I only ask that their married first. So it's ok with her I guess....?
okay does the dad not like you and his son together?
did you tell him about the engagment?
did you tell him about the engagment?
Thanks ladies. I just want to smack my head against the wall b/c the words.. " I hope she's not pregnant, I don't want grandkids right now" keeps playing in my head over and over. But you know what? After listening to you girls, I'm just going to say screw all of them. If they want to be a part of the babies life, they'll shut up and deal with it.
thought I'd tell you countrygrllvin, that my m-i-l (mothernlaw) said she didn't want a grand child either... but she's had to learn to accept it since she's getting one in about 5 months.
Cindie
Cindie
I got pregnant when I was 19 and we had to tell my [then] boyfriend's family. My husband was a pastor's kid, a worship leader, his dad was the senior pastor, etc. So it was hard and I felt like I couldn't breakthrough with them. But once my daughter was born, they were practically breaking down the door at the hospital to see her. Ever since then I have been extremely close to my inlaws and my daughter is spoiled rotten by them.
You know, you're an adult and you're going to make choices and if you're pregnant, there's nothing his dad can do about it. He can have his opinions and think what he wants but at the end of the day, it'd be YOUR child that YOU take care of, not his.
My dad can be a pain about stuff like this all the time. He doesn't believe ANY OF HIS 5 KIDS should be reproducing. When my sister said she was pregnant for the third time (she's married by the way) he told her she needed to close her legs or "get fixed". But my dad loves his grandkids. He only sees them every couple years, but I'm sure he loves them.
You know, you're an adult and you're going to make choices and if you're pregnant, there's nothing his dad can do about it. He can have his opinions and think what he wants but at the end of the day, it'd be YOUR child that YOU take care of, not his.
My dad can be a pain about stuff like this all the time. He doesn't believe ANY OF HIS 5 KIDS should be reproducing. When my sister said she was pregnant for the third time (she's married by the way) he told her she needed to close her legs or "get fixed". But my dad loves his grandkids. He only sees them every couple years, but I'm sure he loves them.
Well, if you are CONGRATS...... But really it's non of your boyfriend's father's business! If you do turn out to be prego's, it is really none of his concern... And what is he doing checking what your doing online ? To me that just seem's down right rude...... GOOD LUCK!
I got pregnant when I was 19 and my parents flipped out! Honestly they were so mad at me and at the time I was going to college and living at home with them. They actually kicked me out of the house and said that they were disappointed in me. Well about 5 months later when I started to show suddenly I was their favorite person again. Since then they have apologized for their behavior and we've talked about why they reacted that way. Its hard for parents to see their son or daughter as being a parent. I remember my boyfriends mom kept saying "Zach can't have a baby he's not responsible enough you need to give it up for adoption". She is 3 months now and wants for nothing and ALL of her grandparents are in love with her. 9 months is a long time and parents (once they see that it will make you happy) get over it after a while and embrace the idea. Infact, my parents keep telling me that if I want to come back home (since I might be moving to Utah with Zach) that I am more than welcome to. :)
Congrats, and I never said they had the right to say what they are saying to you. I hope you do get pregnant, it was the best thing for me and I was glad to start while I was still young. You're right you are not a child nor is your bf. Those were just my thoughts. All will happen in due time and if you are pregnant they will get over their childish behavior towards you, sooner or later. Keep us posted on your 2ww.
Girl, you need to do what makes you and your bf happy. I'm 25, Married, stable life, and I told my friends we were going to TTC on our Honeymoon and a lot of my friends shunned the idea. One of them told me that was the dumbest thing I could ever do. Saying I was too young and I needed to enjoy Married life first. Uh okay, nothing has changed in our relationship besides the fact he calls me his wife and I call him my husband. Oh yea and we both have Wedding rings. And we've been together for 7 years! I think thats plenty of "enjoyment" time. AND on top of it all, my friend who said that to me has been Pregnant MANY times..had at least 2 abortions that I know of and finally kept her third Pregnancy and gave birth when she was 20 years old. Talk about people in glass houses...I can see how maybe it negatively affected her life...but it just hurt me that my friend reacted like that. After thinking and thinking about it, hubby & I realized that we don't live our life for anyone else but ourselves and ya can't please everybody. And ya can't even count on anyone but each other...so we "appreciated" their concerns and decided we're gonna do whats right for us and what makes us happy.
Thats how you gotta look at it. Think about it, no body is ever gonna be 100% happy with all the choices you make in life, so their just gonna have to deal with it!
Thats how you gotta look at it. Think about it, no body is ever gonna be 100% happy with all the choices you make in life, so their just gonna have to deal with it!
They want us to live here with them. The house is very big that's why their 25 year old son lives here too. And, while we can't afford a house of our own JUST yet, we kinda want one. Here we have the entire downstairs to ourselves. With a kitchen, 2 bathrooms and two rooms. They honestly shouldn't have the right to say anything right now anyways. I'm not a child nor is my bf ya know? If anything, their acting like a child.
I said I didn't want to get married just yet, but I do want to marry him.. And, well I haven't posted this yet, but he asked me to marry him yesterday! And I said YES! I haven't posted about it or said anything on here yet cause I was helping the ladies who kept getting bfn's and were upset. Didn't want to spoil it even more with my news..
I just can't stand this whole situation. But, I'm keeping in mind that I'm not a child and I should do what I want and need to do. On my own...
I've been cramping for 3 days. And I'm 8dpo so I STILL hope I'm pregnant. Even through this.
I said I didn't want to get married just yet, but I do want to marry him.. And, well I haven't posted this yet, but he asked me to marry him yesterday! And I said YES! I haven't posted about it or said anything on here yet cause I was helping the ladies who kept getting bfn's and were upset. Didn't want to spoil it even more with my news..
I just can't stand this whole situation. But, I'm keeping in mind that I'm not a child and I should do what I want and need to do. On my own...
I've been cramping for 3 days. And I'm 8dpo so I STILL hope I'm pregnant. Even through this.
I'm assuming that you live with your bf and his family. Have you thought about getting your own place or getting married. If you did either one of those then his family couldn't say anything. Not that it's ok what they're doing to you now, but do you get it. My parents weren't very happy when I got pregnant at 20, but it wasn't there decision and I was married and living outside of their home. After they got used to the fact, they did regret saying anything to me about not being ready for a baby. Just some food for thought!
I'm so upset now. See, his family makes me feel like I have to answer to them before we can do something. They claim it's only because they care. But, I'm 20 years old. I'm not a child. My bf is about to be 22 and they STILL treat him like he's 15. His brother who is 25, still lives at home with us. He calls me a bit*h and it does hurt. So I forgave him the FIRST time he did it. But, then he did it again. I'm tired of being treated like a child.
I can't stand people who say they can afford a baby.. Since when is that possible? Even people with good paying jobs arn't that great at it. Considering milk here is up to 4.99 a gallon and gas. Gosh, It's right up there with the milk. Insurance can get costly too.
But, I'm ready for it all. I don't mind it. It's the little things that EVERYONE needs that get's costly. And I'm very understanding of that. But, if I had a baby, he/she would come before me always!
I don't know how I put up with his family. It must be LOVE. Seriously.
I can't stand people who say they can afford a baby.. Since when is that possible? Even people with good paying jobs arn't that great at it. Considering milk here is up to 4.99 a gallon and gas. Gosh, It's right up there with the milk. Insurance can get costly too.
But, I'm ready for it all. I don't mind it. It's the little things that EVERYONE needs that get's costly. And I'm very understanding of that. But, if I had a baby, he/she would come before me always!
I don't know how I put up with his family. It must be LOVE. Seriously.
My fiance and i decided to take me off the pill.. We arent trying to get pregnant but were not trying not to either.. I worry about what my family will say because im 20 and we are getting married in less then three months.. Also we dont have a great deal of money but this is the way i look at it.. If you want a child or children have one.. (if youre responsible and know what you are getting your self into) no one can ever afford to have a baby and if you wait until you can such as waiting until your 40 chances are you wont have children.. Have a baby and forget what everyone else is saying!
Well,if you are then I think your bf should tell his father. If he wants you to be there then be there with him, but dont say anything to his dad. I would let him be the one to tell him. I know when I told my dad, I was 18 and not married, and he was a bit surprised, and disappointed that I didnt wait a little while, but was still happy once he took it all in. He was going to be a Grandpa!!! Thats hard to take in at first when your daughter is your only child. I was a daddy's girl al the way even though I barely saw my dad.
how old are you , i was 19 with my first and i didnt care who got mad. i wanted my baby and they just had to get over it, i was told not to have my son, but you see no one told me when to have a baby and when to get rid of it,i say stand up to them and be proud your going to be a mommy. this is your body your life and no one can tell you what to do, if he gets mad i agree with lacy5 when he sees that sweet baby he will forget about it, and if he dont guess what thats his lose, enjoy your pg worry only about you and baby and the dad.
well yeah he knows. He's the one who wanted to start trying!!! Were not telling anyone (If I am pregnant) Until we know for sure...
His dad can be a real pain in the butt to me sometimes. And, a baby would drive him crazy.
His dad can be a real pain in the butt to me sometimes. And, a baby would drive him crazy.
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