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Please help! :(

I was online one day and my intuition told me to search my MIL and FIL. I found out my FIL is a sex offender and my husband nor the dad has said anything! I am due with a baby girl next month and I am hurt and beyond angry at my FIL. Should I not allow him to be near her I have no idea what to do? My family advised me to stay away I feel so uncomfortable knowing he's a pervert :( what would you do? I'm shocked and confused
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People like that don't change. Once a pedo always a pedo.
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I say find out what happened and all the details as to why he is registered. If you are really uncomfortable with him seeing her then yes keep him away but if you are unsure just always be there while he's around. I wouldn't let him be around for diaper or outfit changes. I would definitely talk to your husband and him to find out the whole story. Good luck
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I agree its odd he didn't bring it up sooner
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cwbaby19 u took the words right out of my mouth. Everyone is a threat these days and noone can be trusted. So sad but so true. A friend of mine knows a girl who. Left her three year old son with his grandmother, this girls mom. And the boy didn't want to be there he was fighting her when she was trying to leave she thought it was just natural separation anxiety for kids his age and left him there with his grandma. When she picked him up he was crying uncontrollably. Her mom said he'd been that way the entire time she was gone didn't know what his problem was. When she got her son home she went to change his diaper it was full of blood so she rushed him the the er. The three year old baby had been sotomized with a broom handle by his own grandmother..... poor babys little hiny and insides were so badly damaged he had to get a colostomy bag put on... and he will never fully recover.
Its sad this day and time when it comes to your babies your guard has to be on 1000/365. Even the people u think would never in a million years do anything to harm your little one you gotta watch em.
If I was in ur situation I wouldn't hesitate on the decision to never put ur precious angel in that high risk situation. N me personally wouldn't put myself in it either. Stay away from him and ur hubby should support that decision. And I also agree that even though its a sensitive subject that he didn't bring it up to u. Just be alert girl n goodluck with all this. Ur making the right choice.
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Umm yeah... if a man is okay with doing sexual things to his own daughter, what makes anybody think he wouldn't do it to his sons daughter? Or you for that matter.  If my husband's dad or mom was a sec offender for any reason related to sexual assaulting or harassing a child *theirs or not* my child, boy or girl, would never be around them.  If someone is sick enough in the head to do that to their own child, they're sick enough to do much much worse things if given the opportunity.  And personally, if I were you I would really be cautious of your husband.  Odd that he never told you (yes, I understand that is a touchy subject) but that isn't something to blow off and ignore.  So it bothers me that he didn't tell you or even hint anything.  Very odd.  Be careful, and honestly these days, you should treat everyone like your FIL.  I don't ever think my husband's dad would do that to my little girl, but I for damn sure am not gonna give him the chance or time to!!!
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I would know the story first. There are some cases were its simply sad technicalities like in my friends case. A girl said she was 20 and they hooked up she ended up being 17 and when her dad found out she said rape. But eatherway just be cautious
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Thank you I really needed opinions everyone around me was acting like it's no big deal and I was overreacting. I feel more confident in my decision of never seeing him again and she will be okay with just one grandpa even though he's my step dad he's a way better grandpa and not a creepy perv
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First of all, I would be very upset with your husband for not telling you this information. I would keep my child far away and personally I couldn't be around someone who tried to rape their own daughter or any person cchild or adult.
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Ew, that's really upsetting! Especially for your own and babies safety, I wouldn't let her see him, ever without you there, I do believe people can change and he may never be a threat to your daughter, but for her safety its better not having her around him.
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Well I'd never ever leave my daughter alone with him and I think my husband feels the same way. It's just awkward for me because the dad always insists we come over or something and I only went to visit for my husband now I guess my husband will have to go alone
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I would keep baby away!!! Does your husband share your concerns?
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You probably shouldn't have your daughter around him... explain that to your husband that if you left your daughter with him and he hurt her sexually how would your husband fill about that his own dad raping or trying to rape his own daughter I mean if this man would do it to his daughter what makes him think he want try with his granddaughter it's freaking sick that a grown man could touch a lil girl like that... goodluck I hope the best for you n your lil one
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I hate being in this situation :(
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Father n law :)
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Excuse my ignorance but what's a FIL?
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You need to keep your daughter away for him and think about the possability that he may also have asulted you'r husband and if he did and you'r husband was raised thinking it is acceptable ( witch he oviously thinks its aceptable to a degree coz he sided with hid dad not hjs sis ) then he is likely to do this to your daughter.
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@ribaby15 yes his own daughter. That is why he is a registered sex offender now and he's still on probation. I would never leave my daughter with my FIL I just don't know how to act around him. Ever since I found out I've been debating whether I should never see him again but I don't want to hurt my husband. I have seen him once after I discovered the truth about him and honestly I can't help but feel disgusted and extremely uncomfortable. I'm very angry he didn't fess up himself. I can't believe if I never "Google stalked" him I wouldn't have ever found out!!
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Keep you daughter away and do whatever u can to keep other kids away as well ... Don't feel bad at all ... You're husband should be understanding and actually want to.do the same for your daughter and if he's not then forget him too ... Its not worth it to take the risk of something happning to your daughter ... If u **** people off too bad at least your daughter will be safe
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Keep her away
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tried to rape your husbands sister? like, his own child??? or tried to rape his OWN sister.
regardless, if that's the reason - that's pretty gross.
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My husband told me he doesn't know the details but the dad tried to rape the sister or do something perverted and now they don't see each other or talk
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9884089 tn?1406756206
That's gross. Keep your child away. Even if he wouldn't do anything he would probably think about it.
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I would first find out why he's a registered sex offender. A lot of the people who have yo register arent perverts but were just caught in an unfortunate situation. There's so many stupid reasons to get you on that list that(in my opinion) don't belong together. Like MSmith said. Find out first then make your decision. If he really does turn out to be a pervert then I probably wouldn't want my kid around that
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I would talk to your husband and find out what he did to get put on the registry. Some people get put on it for dumb stuff- like urinating in a public place. but i would no way allow my little girl around a true sex offender. Wouldnt your husband not want your daughter around him?
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