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RE: BAD back pain + bleeding =miscarriage.
I posted about having BAD back pain and red bleeding. NOT spotting But actual flow.... I just got back and it's not good news :'( Looks like a miscarriage in the making. Why did I let myself get so excited. It's like I totally forgot that I could miscarry :( I don't know if I'm going to TTC in July or not now. Maybe with time. I don't know. And If I end up pregnant before then, I'll know not to get this excited :( It was too good to be true. Poor little jelly bean didn't have a chance. It was ALIVE with a beating heart. And now it's slowing leaving it's mommy. I don't like calling the bean an "it" :( I'm really upset. I want to say I'm still a mommy to an angel. But I just wish the angel was still here.
I thought I was lucky to be pregnant. I was blessed. Why does God give you a baby and takes them away before they have a chance. :( Okay im sorry I'm not blaming God. Just having a rough time.
Thanks for all your prayers, even though it didn't work out that great for me :(
*R.I.P MOMMY'S LITTLE JELLY BEAN*
I thought I was lucky to be pregnant. I was blessed. Why does God give you a baby and takes them away before they have a chance. :( Okay im sorry I'm not blaming God. Just having a rough time.
Thanks for all your prayers, even though it didn't work out that great for me :(
*R.I.P MOMMY'S LITTLE JELLY BEAN*
You need to talk to you dr first. Most of the time they tell you to wait 2 cycles. Just to let your body heal and your hormones return to normal. Thank God the " gunky stuff" passed. DNC's hurt. Just keep positive... I lost 3 before this pregnancy. And one tube! ( Ectopic pregnancy.) So you will get pregnant again... We will be praying that it dose not take long. God Bless, Antia
The "gunky stuff" passed about 35 minutes ago. How soon after a miscarriage can women get pregnant? I've heard a few people say they got pregnant right away, but I don't plan to BD until the doctor says I can..
I am so sorry:( I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain..........your in my thoughts and prayers:)
Hugs! Wish I had the right words to say, but having been in your position myself, I know there is nothing anyone can say that will make this any easier.
Yes she did, but I was so out of it last night. I haven't passed anything just yet, but feels like it will be soon. I'm cramping like crazy and my back hurts. :( Still bleeding heavily too.
The bleeding is not always the same for every one. You will bleed until you pass every thing. Have you passed any clots or gunky looking stuff? Once you pass that then the bleeding will stop soon after. The dr will check you too. Because if it dose not pass then you would have to have a DNC. Did you dr. talk to you about that? :-( Anita
i am so sorry for your loss.
mumita and lance are so right.
i had 2 MC's back to back within 5 months and i did not realize how common they are but it does not take away from the sadness you feel. i had 2 back to back and was pregnant again within 3 months of the 2nd and just gave birth 5 weeks ago to my lil boy, so it can happen again so fast.
give your self time to mourn and cry. and use this forum to ask any and all questions. we are all here for you.
but yes each woman varies with length of bleeding. it could be a couple days or a couple weeks. i had 2 d and c's so my bleeding was different.
mumita and lance are so right.
i had 2 MC's back to back within 5 months and i did not realize how common they are but it does not take away from the sadness you feel. i had 2 back to back and was pregnant again within 3 months of the 2nd and just gave birth 5 weeks ago to my lil boy, so it can happen again so fast.
give your self time to mourn and cry. and use this forum to ask any and all questions. we are all here for you.
but yes each woman varies with length of bleeding. it could be a couple days or a couple weeks. i had 2 d and c's so my bleeding was different.
Thanks for all the well wishes. Means a lot to me.
On another note, how long do you usually bleed during a miscarriage?
Does it differ with everyone?
On another note, how long do you usually bleed during a miscarriage?
Does it differ with everyone?
I agree with Mumita. I'm so so so sorry hun. If you need to talk then write me. I know how you feel. I have lost 3 total. I lost a baby girl at 19 weeks and 5 days. I gave birth to her... its better when it happens early on. I'm going to be praying that you get a BFP soon and everything works out. This is common. Think of it as God saving you from a horrible out come. Your in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless, Anita
i am so sorry to hear you're going through this....if it helps you and your lil bean are in my prayers...hopefully the bleeding will stop. a lil pick me up: my sis bled red for 2 weeks and again bled red for 5 days in jan. and feb. and she is almost 9 weeks now and baby is fine....my mom also done the same thing with my lil brother! i hope you can get past this and try again soon if an m/c is the problem...i wish you the best of luck and many, many prayers!!!!!!
Thank you ladies. I know some how I will pull through this, it's just hard to get used to.
Dh doesn't want to eat or go to work today. He was extremely happy and couldn't wait.
Seems all he wants to do is just lay around.
:( I'll get through it.. Just happened so fast before I could truly enjoy the pregnancy.
Thanks again ladies. Means a lot I have a support group to help me through this.
Dh doesn't want to eat or go to work today. He was extremely happy and couldn't wait.
Seems all he wants to do is just lay around.
:( I'll get through it.. Just happened so fast before I could truly enjoy the pregnancy.
Thanks again ladies. Means a lot I have a support group to help me through this.
i m/c in march last year and i felt the same way for along time but i found this web site and this has helped me more than anything me and my sister enlaw were pregant at the same time she lost hers first and then me but she got pregant again and is due in april and i still have not got pregant again but it was really hard for me the first time so i just have to take the good with the bad i will be thinking about you and try to hold your head up high lots of hugs!!!!!!!
I am so sorry for your loss, there is no words that can comfort a mother who has lost a child. I had a missed m/c June 08 and i was a total wreck. And i never thought about a m/c happening bcuz people never discussed it with me or told me they had one so it was never a thought it could happen to me. I am 13w 5d now and im still nervous about it happening again. With time the pain gets less. I still think about the m/c to this day and how i wouldve had a baby Jan 09. I just try to stay prayerful and ask God for guidance.
I will keep you in my prayers, also the girls are so wonderful on the miscarriage forum if you need to talk to other women who are going threw what you are going threw now. I must say, everyone on this site is very helpful with all types of problems. If you need to talk or vent we are here.
I will keep you in my prayers, also the girls are so wonderful on the miscarriage forum if you need to talk to other women who are going threw what you are going threw now. I must say, everyone on this site is very helpful with all types of problems. If you need to talk or vent we are here.
I never realized until I was googling a year ago about my miscarriage and found medhelp...just how COMMON miscarriages are. I thought to myself, why me....until being on this site I see so many women go through it. It is nothing that you did wrong. Hang in there. It is hard but just know that in time.....at the right time....you will be on your way to being a mommy...but until then you have an angel watching over you!
I had a mc in June 2008 and I am 5 months pregnant now. I can tell you it is very hard to deal with, however these are the thoughts that helped me through it.
1. Its better that it happens early on because it would hurt more to find out that there's something wrong with your baby later on. I have a friend that lost her baby at 5 months and I couldn't imagine the pain.
2. You didn't do anything wrong, mc happens because there is something that is not developing right and your body naturally takes care of it. It also doesn't mean that there's something wrong with your body.
3. You are fertile.
4. Your body is doing it on its own which is the most natural and best way, having a D&C is not great for your body and it takes longer to recover from. In other words, your body knows what its doing and its protecting itself.
5. It was not meant to be this time.
6. Miscarriages are more common than you would think, its just that people don't really talk about them, they only talk about successful pregnancies, because miscarriages are sad and you don't want anyone to ask you about it or think that you did anything to cause it, so its always something no one talks about.
7. There's no way to prevent it, it usually happens because of some abnormality during conception.
I hope that you feel better soon, every day it gets better, trust me. Don't blame God or nature or anyone, this is life, this is nature, and you will have a baby one day.
1. Its better that it happens early on because it would hurt more to find out that there's something wrong with your baby later on. I have a friend that lost her baby at 5 months and I couldn't imagine the pain.
2. You didn't do anything wrong, mc happens because there is something that is not developing right and your body naturally takes care of it. It also doesn't mean that there's something wrong with your body.
3. You are fertile.
4. Your body is doing it on its own which is the most natural and best way, having a D&C is not great for your body and it takes longer to recover from. In other words, your body knows what its doing and its protecting itself.
5. It was not meant to be this time.
6. Miscarriages are more common than you would think, its just that people don't really talk about them, they only talk about successful pregnancies, because miscarriages are sad and you don't want anyone to ask you about it or think that you did anything to cause it, so its always something no one talks about.
7. There's no way to prevent it, it usually happens because of some abnormality during conception.
I hope that you feel better soon, every day it gets better, trust me. Don't blame God or nature or anyone, this is life, this is nature, and you will have a baby one day.
This just breaks my heart I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words of wisdom and comfort, but all I can think of is to say that you will be in prayers.
I am so very sorry you are going through this. I never know whether to respond to m/c threads because I don't know what to say other than I am sorry and will pray for you and your little one. There are a lot of people on here that have sadly had miscarriages at some point, so I think this can be a good source of support for you. I believe there is also an actualy m/c forum as well. I am not for sure, but I think there is.
Take care and get some rest. I am glad you had family with you during this difficult time.
Take care and get some rest. I am glad you had family with you during this difficult time.
I ment to add that I had to go to the E.R where my cousin works. I'm thankful she was working tonight. I needed the support. It was definitely hard to hear that I'm miscarrying by my own family member. But, she was the only one working the walk in emergency's.
I think I'm going to go lay down now and maybe pop in tomorrow. :(
I think I'm going to go lay down now and maybe pop in tomorrow. :(
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