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Time to vent...
I've been reading on here lately that some members are getting a little heated in some conversations. I don't want to be rude or pin point people out, but we are here to support and offer advice. Not judge someone based on their decisions they make or not. I realize some may get upset over certain topics (as do I) but I don't think it's any means for an attack or to take your aggression out on. I just wanted to post something so people can vent. Yell at your DH, sister, children, boss..whatever it may be. I know I haven't been on lately, but no new news for me to report. DH and I are still avidly trying but taking it slow.
I'll start:
I HATE MY JOB!! I work as an Email Correspondant and we have A LOT of work to do. We have almost 5,000 unanswered emails to do. To top it off, our entire department (the only one) is working 10 hour days!! Customer Service are working normal 8 hours. So, when they get high in waiting time, our entire department gets put on to help answer calls. I realize that a customer waiting on the phone matters, but some customers don't bother to call in anymore. Our company is just so backwards in the way they think it's irritating as heck!!
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I'll start:
I HATE MY JOB!! I work as an Email Correspondant and we have A LOT of work to do. We have almost 5,000 unanswered emails to do. To top it off, our entire department (the only one) is working 10 hour days!! Customer Service are working normal 8 hours. So, when they get high in waiting time, our entire department gets put on to help answer calls. I realize that a customer waiting on the phone matters, but some customers don't bother to call in anymore. Our company is just so backwards in the way they think it's irritating as heck!!
It really feels good....feel free to try it out!
I agree there is no need to be rude but sometimes you need to put your foot down when someone is just being purely ignorant and not taking certain forums seriously.
I get the same thing Im 23 also.. but i only have one child... and we too have our own home and i am a sahm.. he works full time and goes to school so Eff all the people who are rude and nosey and think they have the right to judge our lives. so i know exactly how you feel.. i actually told a lady off at the supermarket yesterday.. aubree was screaming at the top of her lungs and I was trying to get my shopping down.. ( she screams when Im not giving her ALL the attention) and a lady goes to her husband.. thats why young girls shouldn't have kids.. they can't even take care of them.. i looked straight at her and said.. excuse me god forbide Im not perfect.. Im 23 years old and look at my child.. does she not have clothes on her? does she not look well fed? .. okay then butt the f**k out... and she goes how rude.. I said exactly you are rude..
dumb judemental people * sighs*
dumb judemental people * sighs*
i have a little vent to....
my big gripe is nosy people. people who like to but into your life..uninvited and tell you how to raise your children, go about in your marriage or how to manage your household. what's bad is it's not even anyone in my family. it's complete STRANGERS. i know i'm considered a young mother. i'm only 23 and i've got twins. it's tough yes i admit it and when my MOTHER or my MIL gives me advice i love it. they know me and the dh and they know what we're going through. and they're not intrusive. they don't give advice if we don't ask. i could be at walmart or at the mall with greg and we'll have these women and even men coming up to us and pretty much b*tching because we're "to young to have one baby let alone 2*. and that is a direct quote from some old woman. i'm 23, he's just turned 24. we have our on home, he works full time, i stay home with our kids, they're well taken care of, (i'm a clean freak and a germ a phob) our house is spotless (even the cat gets a monthly bath....). ok so my big problem is.....why but into someones life if you don't know them? how can someone tell parents that they shouldn't be parents because they're "soooo young". sure i think there is a point when you are too young to have kids but we're not teenagers. we're adults. grownups. we take care of our children. we love our children more then anything else. i gave up going to law school (for the time being) to stay home and be a full time mom. greg left the marines (he was honorably discharged his 4 years were up) to be able to work closer to us and be home with us for more then just the weekend. (and he was up for a promotion this month and another pay raise but he left so we wouldn't have to live the military life) so how does that make us not worthy to be parents?
*sigh* people really frustrate me sometimes.....
my big gripe is nosy people. people who like to but into your life..uninvited and tell you how to raise your children, go about in your marriage or how to manage your household. what's bad is it's not even anyone in my family. it's complete STRANGERS. i know i'm considered a young mother. i'm only 23 and i've got twins. it's tough yes i admit it and when my MOTHER or my MIL gives me advice i love it. they know me and the dh and they know what we're going through. and they're not intrusive. they don't give advice if we don't ask. i could be at walmart or at the mall with greg and we'll have these women and even men coming up to us and pretty much b*tching because we're "to young to have one baby let alone 2*. and that is a direct quote from some old woman. i'm 23, he's just turned 24. we have our on home, he works full time, i stay home with our kids, they're well taken care of, (i'm a clean freak and a germ a phob) our house is spotless (even the cat gets a monthly bath....). ok so my big problem is.....why but into someones life if you don't know them? how can someone tell parents that they shouldn't be parents because they're "soooo young". sure i think there is a point when you are too young to have kids but we're not teenagers. we're adults. grownups. we take care of our children. we love our children more then anything else. i gave up going to law school (for the time being) to stay home and be a full time mom. greg left the marines (he was honorably discharged his 4 years were up) to be able to work closer to us and be home with us for more then just the weekend. (and he was up for a promotion this month and another pay raise but he left so we wouldn't have to live the military life) so how does that make us not worthy to be parents?
*sigh* people really frustrate me sometimes.....
I see you guy's point about peeps being rude about using IUI but did you know i actually saw it on TV i had NO idea it is against some peeps religion to use 3rd party intervention to get pregnant!!! I'm glad its not mine thats all i can say!! i have no disrespect to religion so im not going there but man i agree with you guys it may be a struggle but do what you can to get there!! I have every SINGLE intention to do what the drs tell me when i do get my fertility testing done!! and if it is IUI or IVF then so be it I will do everything in my power to try and make it happen!!
I understand that you started this post to give people an outlet to vent but I think open communication regarding specific topics is just as valuable as a vent session. I think it is actually unhealthy to stifle your opinion especially if it is said tastefully without being derogatory. If someone is 'out of line' with their comments, I think it should be up to Med Help and the Community Leaders to call them out on it etc.
GOOD POINT!! I completely agree with you! I mean I believe everything happens for a reason, but if you are doing something to only benefit you, what anyone else says is just their opinion! The cancer comparison was great, I've had many family members who were diagnosed with cancer (lung, brain, etc) and they've done all they could do to help themselves. My aunt got brain surgery to remove tumors and it prolonged her life for another 4 years! May she rest in peace! But, I agree. Some people always have something bad to say no matter what the good news. I say a BIG congrats to the couple and good luck! Apparantly that is too hard to say for some people?
Another thing that got to me. . .
They were saying that we shouldn't be able to seek medical help for infertility because that's way nature has dealt our cards to us. Well I compared it to having Cancer. If I got Cancer I'm still going to seek medical help. I'm not going to sit around and die just because it happened to be the cards I was dealt.
Anyways. . . .
They were saying that we shouldn't be able to seek medical help for infertility because that's way nature has dealt our cards to us. Well I compared it to having Cancer. If I got Cancer I'm still going to seek medical help. I'm not going to sit around and die just because it happened to be the cards I was dealt.
Anyways. . . .
I do have a small vent. . .
I was reading a front page article in the AZ Republic during lunch today (online) and the headline was announcing the birth of a set of quads born to a couple born here locally. There were 3 girls and a boy. All of them are healthy, and doing great. My vent is that in the comments section of the article people are so rude regarding the parents decision to use IUI. They were saying things like "it's just Gods will that these people shouldn't have children and they should leave it at that.". . . .GGGGRRRR. Are they serious??
DH and I got pregnant using IUI, and if I got pregnant with multiples then great. I don't think it's God's will for DH and I to never have children, but perhaps it is his will that it be a struggle and trial for us. . . .
Anyways. . . . people just don't understand sometimes.
I was reading a front page article in the AZ Republic during lunch today (online) and the headline was announcing the birth of a set of quads born to a couple born here locally. There were 3 girls and a boy. All of them are healthy, and doing great. My vent is that in the comments section of the article people are so rude regarding the parents decision to use IUI. They were saying things like "it's just Gods will that these people shouldn't have children and they should leave it at that.". . . .GGGGRRRR. Are they serious??
DH and I got pregnant using IUI, and if I got pregnant with multiples then great. I don't think it's God's will for DH and I to never have children, but perhaps it is his will that it be a struggle and trial for us. . . .
Anyways. . . . people just don't understand sometimes.
that sounds great Alw..!!
Oh and i know what you me and my DH have wanted a child together ever since we met 4 yrs ago!! But like you said we are now accepting it and agreeing when the time is right it will happen and we are enjoying married life and each other! We have actually NEVER had our place as a married couple and we finally got moved a couple months ago so it has been GREAT!! All the peace and quiet!!
Oh and i know what you me and my DH have wanted a child together ever since we met 4 yrs ago!! But like you said we are now accepting it and agreeing when the time is right it will happen and we are enjoying married life and each other! We have actually NEVER had our place as a married couple and we finally got moved a couple months ago so it has been GREAT!! All the peace and quiet!!
I know what you mean about TTC being stressful!! We've been trying it seems like forever, but we've come to accept that it will happen when the time is right. We're just enjoying being married and eachother company right now.
I agree that we all have strong personal beliefs, but I don't think people do it to make others mad. Some people may just have been having a bad day and this was their way out. I think posts like this are always needed, at least for me!! LOL!!
I'll make it a point to post a vent post every Thursday for all of us! That way we can look forward to the weekend but get the week's stresses out!!
I agree that we all have strong personal beliefs, but I don't think people do it to make others mad. Some people may just have been having a bad day and this was their way out. I think posts like this are always needed, at least for me!! LOL!!
I'll make it a point to post a vent post every Thursday for all of us! That way we can look forward to the weekend but get the week's stresses out!!
I AGREE lets not be rude yall! This site is awesome! let it stay that way and every1 too!! if we need to vent then lets vent but we shall not be rude to others!! if we have to make a vent post like this then lets do that but our strong personal beliefs we shall keep that to ourselves!! if asked we state our opinion but keep in mind just opinion!!
A.. We are taking it slowly too we have things we would like to do but a baby would nice if it happens of course!! TTC is stressful i know that!! I hate infertility is hard and that peeps treat you like you are ignorant just cus you aint got a baby!! ok thats my vent, lol sorry Joy im still heated over last nites debate lol!!
Again lets be nice!! after venting here lol!!
A.. We are taking it slowly too we have things we would like to do but a baby would nice if it happens of course!! TTC is stressful i know that!! I hate infertility is hard and that peeps treat you like you are ignorant just cus you aint got a baby!! ok thats my vent, lol sorry Joy im still heated over last nites debate lol!!
Again lets be nice!! after venting here lol!!
JoyRenee - I live for nap time! It is the all high and holy time for me. I fear the time my son stops taking naps. I sense it coming closer. He just turned 3 on Dec 12 and is beginning to fight i about 3 times a week... I wish nap time could last forever! But thank you for your understanding! Means a lot!!
bryanarae- I get frustrated, too! Being a stay-at-home mom is hard. You are constantly stepping on toys and yelling, "Don't do that!" or "Say you're sorry!" or "No hitting!" and when you're not wiping dirty bottoms or reading books or singing songs you're making food. It's like a circus!!! There's always a whirlwind of activity until............ naptime. Oh sweet naptime how I love you!
Luckily, at this point, both of my girls take naps at the same time. The older one, though, won't be taking naps for very much longer.
Luckily, at this point, both of my girls take naps at the same time. The older one, though, won't be taking naps for very much longer.
I am so tired of people expecting me to be the perfect mom! My son was eating his dinner tonight, and I was getting pretty frustrated as he has begun this annoying control thing when it comes to dinner time. And of course as I am getting frustrated my hubbys step father comes on over. All he can say is "I've never seen you like this before! SInce when are you a frustrated and annoyed mom?" HELLO! Being a stay at home mom is not all fun and games! Sure I love being able to stay home with my son, but for gawd sake, by no means is it easy!! Of course I get frustrated and annoyed and yell every now and then... but come on?! Who doesn't??
ANyways.... annoyed... that's all! :o)
ANyways.... annoyed... that's all! :o)
Mot to dissagree and cause an argument but sometimes I think we keep our mouths shut instead of telling someone your real opinion and I think that's wrong too. I don't think that we all should be fake, I think that we should share our opinions respectfully. Now if someone starts being directly offensive that's another thing.
My vent, I hate my f'ing job too, I'm 11 weeks pregnant and starting to freak out about what we're going to do about childcare. We can't afford childcare with our other economical commitments (mortgage, car etc.) we can't afford for me to stay home either. Ugh! And what I don't understand is, how on earth do people with fewer means have 3-4 kids?? We live a pretty comfortable life, and this is my first baby and I'm freaking out!!! Short term dissability doesn't pay for sh!t, its only for up to 6 weeks and if I use up all my vacation, then I'll have nothing left for holidays or visiting family.
I need a job that I can do from home! But besides all those scams I dont know where to look for one. :( That's my vent right now.
My vent, I hate my f'ing job too, I'm 11 weeks pregnant and starting to freak out about what we're going to do about childcare. We can't afford childcare with our other economical commitments (mortgage, car etc.) we can't afford for me to stay home either. Ugh! And what I don't understand is, how on earth do people with fewer means have 3-4 kids?? We live a pretty comfortable life, and this is my first baby and I'm freaking out!!! Short term dissability doesn't pay for sh!t, its only for up to 6 weeks and if I use up all my vacation, then I'll have nothing left for holidays or visiting family.
I need a job that I can do from home! But besides all those scams I dont know where to look for one. :( That's my vent right now.
There's only a couple people who I think were just having a bad day. But the ladies on here have helped me through some pretty rough spots as well. I'm not picking anyone out by any means, just try to stay positive for everyone's sake.
Please don't take this as a personal attack at all for anyone! If you need to vent, I'm here to listen if you need me!!
Please don't take this as a personal attack at all for anyone! If you need to vent, I'm here to listen if you need me!!
WOw! I didn't realize people were getting rude on here. I'm so surprised to hear that. I always felt like we were one big family and everyone is supportive. For those you that she's referring to, please go somewhere else if you are going to hurt people that are just looking to us for support and advice.
I dont really have anything to vent on. But i hope you're job gets better :o)
I dont really have anything to vent on. But i hope you're job gets better :o)
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